Bad teaching, January 22, 2020

@TheHorse (206373)
Walnut Creek, California
January 23, 2020 10:34am CST
I experienced another "bad teaching incident" yesterday, and this one was really heart-breaking for me. One of my buddies, a little boy of 2 1/2, was playing in the sand. He likes to make "volcanoes." He has a tendency to "flick" sand into others' eyes, and I've been working with him on keeping the sand low, and to check on his "victim" when he gets sand on them. Yesterday, as we were making a volcano, he flicked sand on another child. I could tell it was an accident, and he immediately went to that child, brushed her off, and said, "I sorry. Are you OK?" I said, "Good job! I could tell it was an accident," and we went back to making our volcano. Just then, the head teacher of his classroom rushed over, grabbed him hard by the arm (almost abusively so), and said, "You done. You throw sand on other baby. I saw." She has a strong accent (I think it's Thai), and I often can't understand her. She dragged him out of the sand pit and led him to another area. The heart-breaking part was when he turned around to look at me through his tears, as if to say, "What did I do? What can I do?" I don't know how much can be conveyed with a look, but I squinted my eyes slightly, nodded my head even more slightly, and tried to convey, "You did the right thing. Carry on." I don't know if I'll mention this particular incident to him today, but I may say, "I liked the way you checked on your friend yesterday when you accidentally flicked sand on her." What would you do in this situation?
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@LindaOHio (157041)
• United States
23 Jan 20
I would have reported the way that the person handled the child or would have explained to that person about the sand flicking being accidental, that he apologized, etc. and that he did what he was told to do.
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@TheHorse (206373)
• Walnut Creek, California
24 Jan 20
I actually DID tell her that, but she was not listening.
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@noni1959 (9883)
• United States
24 Jan 20
@TheHorse Can you record her? I'm sure no phones are allowed while watching but find some way to get her on tape. Does the care center have video?
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@TheHorse (206373)
• Walnut Creek, California
24 Jan 20
@noni1959 Well, California is a "two party state," so I could go to prison if I record her without her knowing it.
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@FourWalls (62429)
• United States
23 Jan 20
What would I have done? Beat the other teacher to a pulp. Which is why I’m not in that profession.
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@FourWalls (62429)
• United States
24 Jan 20
@TheHorse -- what else do you expect a stable to smell like, Horse?
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@TheHorse (206373)
• Walnut Creek, California
24 Jan 20
@FourWalls Human pee is worse than horse pee.
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@TheHorse (206373)
• Walnut Creek, California
24 Jan 20
I did that today. Thank goodness jails are high-tech these days. I can still MyLot. But the food sucks. And it smell like pee in here.
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@wolfgirl569 (95646)
• Marion, Ohio
23 Jan 20
I would be reporting the person that grabbed him.
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@TheHorse (206373)
• Walnut Creek, California
24 Jan 20
I am tempted.
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@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
23 Jan 20
that kind of attitude should be reported
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@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
24 Jan 20
@TheHorse aw, sorry to hear that
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@TheHorse (206373)
• Walnut Creek, California
24 Jan 20
@rakski It's just something I have to accept.
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@TheHorse (206373)
• Walnut Creek, California
24 Jan 20
I'm half-temped. But my job would be on the line. Males involved in ECE (Early Childhood Education) are very vulnerable.
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@1creekgirl (40611)
• United States
23 Jan 20
It's important for him to know you knew it was an accident. There's probably not much you can do about the teacher.
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@TheHorse (206373)
• Walnut Creek, California
24 Jan 20
That is true, and that makes me sad.
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@Plethos (13560)
• United States
23 Jan 20
id have a talk with the teacher. teachers are not to grab children the way she did. totally mishandled the situation. if she truly saw the incident, then she wouldve seen the kid went up and apologized.
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@TheHorse (206373)
• Walnut Creek, California
24 Jan 20
Yep. And not letting me handle the incident was disrespectful toward me. I was there and saw the whole thing. She made the same child cry again today. I think she has it in for him for some reason.
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@TheHorse (206373)
• Walnut Creek, California
25 Jan 20
@Plethos I'm tempted to do that. But she doesn't understand English very well. My ideas might be lost on her.
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@Plethos (13560)
• United States
24 Jan 20
@TheHorse - time to step in and give your therapist (?) point of view.
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@BarBaraPrz (45579)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
23 Jan 20
Tattle on that "teacher".
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@TheHorse (206373)
• Walnut Creek, California
24 Jan 20
I'm thinking of it.
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@BarBaraPrz (45579)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
24 Jan 20
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@TheHorse (206373)
• Walnut Creek, California
25 Jan 20
@BarBaraPrz But males in ECE are vulnerable. She could accuse me of hitting kids, or letting them hit each other, and I'd be be gone. It's frustrating.
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@noni1959 (9883)
• United States
24 Jan 20
I would have reported her. She yanked his arm and that could have caused it to be dislocated and bruised. What else does she do that you don't see?
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@TheHorse (206373)
• Walnut Creek, California
25 Jan 20
@noni1959 That's true.
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@noni1959 (9883)
• United States
25 Jan 20
@TheHorse I would do it no matter and if you get in trouble that is retaliation and you can sue the dickens out of them.That child's parents should be informed as well.
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@just4him (307027)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Jan 20
That is heart-breaking. I'm so sorry for the little boy. He's trying to be good. That teacher was mean.
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@TheHorse (206373)
• Walnut Creek, California
26 Jan 20
I may talk to the Director. It's a BIG preschool, so she (the Director) doesn't get to see what happens day-to-day in each classroom.
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@TheHorse (206373)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 Jan 20
@just4him Today was a bit better. But I'm still thinking about it.
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@just4him (307027)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
29 Jan 20
@TheHorse That's a good idea. You should.
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@CarolDM (203451)
• Nashville, Tennessee
23 Jan 20
I respect you for what you do. I could not do it and the things happen and nothing you can do.
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@TheHorse (206373)
• Walnut Creek, California
24 Jan 20
I do the best I can.
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@TheHorse (206373)
• Walnut Creek, California
25 Jan 20
@CarolDM I do believe that the kids I work with benefit from their interactions with me.
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@CarolDM (203451)
• Nashville, Tennessee
24 Jan 20
@TheHorse You do more than you know. Such an inspiration.
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