Wow, change of plans

United States
June 23, 2020 1:32pm CST
Actually my plans haven't changed, I just probably won't do as much as I wanted to. That is because of what happened this morning. First, a little background. When my son was younger, he would stay up late, even on school nights, to play games, so I used the Microsoft time limits that would kick him off at certain times. Then, he got a job and bought his own computer and with his 18th birthday coming up, I just let it go, but firmly told him any loud noises (he gets super intense on these games)after midnight, we are turning the breaker off (or unplugging the modem, but makes it so others can't use the wifi). Fast forward to this morning, I get an email that there was a sign-in on my Hotmail that looked suspicious, so of course, I quickly changed my password. Then I got curious because of my son's account was still on my account. I checked and saw the time limits and clicked it on, not realizing it was attached to his Hotmail, (how \\\is computer) I thought it only worked on my own computer. So went he finally woke up, he had me go his room to see that famous "your time is up" and I was shocked, that I could still control his time on the computer, (Not that I would, after all, he is 18 now). Before I had a chance to do anything, he got on my computer and removed himself from my account. But guess what? He may not be connected to my account, but the time limit was still there. So I did a lot of clicking this and that and I finally told him we may have to connect him back onto my account and then I can remove the time limit. Problem is, Microsoft is slow and my son was not happy, yet in a way, it was a blessing because there was this piece of furniture I needed to be broken up for weeks and it got done, but I didn't know he was doing that, because about 30 minutes before he had to leave for work, I got the confirmation that he was connected again and I turned off the time limits. Not knowing where he disappeared to, it was 10 minutes before he had to go to work that he finally came inside and I told him to check and sure enough, he got into his computer. Now I know that the time limit thing had nothing to do with my computer, but his email is connected to mine. I think he even said he was going to delete his email, even though I said I can remove him from my account now. Even so, he really shouldn't have gotten ahead of himself and removed his account without thinking it through first. So that is my interesting day so far. Now I am either going to start cleaning the back porch or the yard. Have a good day everyone.
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@JudyEv (326127)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 Jun 20
I can imagine, at 18, he would be quite annoyed about the situation. At least it's sorted now.
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• United States
24 Jun 20
What concerns me is, this is the only time I have seen him that emotional. Not even when his girlfriend broke up with him, or his graduation, did he should any emotion, excitement, sad, nothing. But take away his computer and it's alike he's a different person. That isn't good, means his is addicted.
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• United States
25 Jun 20
@JudyEv It isn't social media, it's the gaming. Because he can get on social media on his phone, but for gaming, the best is a desktop computer.
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@JudyEv (326127)
• Rockingham, Australia
25 Jun 20
@Carmelanirel2 I hear what you're saying but I hope you're wrong. I think most 18-year-olds are pretty attached to their social media, etc.
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@simone10 (54189)
• Louisville, Kentucky
25 Jun 20
I can certainly understand the need to put a time limit originally. My son was really into video games, but fortunately back then, we didn't have a computer. He played games on the TV through his play station. We only had one tv at the time, so there were only certain times he could play. He never was addicted while he was at home. Once he was on his own, I think he did become addicted for a while.
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• United States
25 Jun 20
I hope he has his priorities now, I wonder if my son ever will.
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@simone10 (54189)
• Louisville, Kentucky
30 Jun 20
@Carmelanirel2 Oh yes, he definitely does. That was when he was in his 20's and he is in his 40's now with a family.
@Nakitakona (56302)
• Philippines
1 Jul 20
He does it but I think he didn't get addicted.
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@AmbiePam (85680)
• United States
23 Jun 20
I have never gotten into video games, but man, guys love them! I know some girls do too, but not like the boys!
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• United States
24 Jun 20
It is horrible, how he has more feelings for his games than for real life.
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• United States
23 Jun 20
Wow, that seems confusing to me! Glad you got it all figured out, and got a piece of furniture broken up in the process. I've just popped on long enough to interact for a few minutes before I turn the computer off for the day.
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• United States
24 Jun 20
@Carmelanirel2 Well I don't know what to make of him saying no. Maybe he realizes that it helps him stay productive on other things and not waste his time.
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• United States
24 Jun 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum Only if I take control will it have anything to do with his productivity. He was even saying about deleting his email, but all he has to do is remove himself from my account now that the settings are off.
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• United States
24 Jun 20
Thanks for stopping by before shutting down. Now that I know how the time settings work I understand and told him I would remove him, but he said no.
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@gr8nana6 (6614)
• Conyers, Georgia
29 Jun 20
I am sorry your son is so addicted to his computer, but you know how kids are. I'm sure when he gets older it will change. Glad you got everything sorted out though
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• United States
1 Jul 20
When he's on his own I hope he changes, especially in college and when he gets a job in the school, because if he has to do work online, he can't be multitasking by doing his work and gaming.
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@gr8nana6 (6614)
• Conyers, Georgia
2 Jul 20
@Carmelanirel2 Yup very true.
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@CarolDM (203451)
• Nashville, Tennessee
23 Jun 20
A busy day for you. Take it easy.
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• United States
24 Jun 20
Even though I am laid off, every day is busy, but at least I have time to stop by Mylot more often than I did before.
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@CarolDM (203451)
• Nashville, Tennessee
24 Jun 20
@Carmelanirel2 I spend too much time here.
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• United States
24 Jun 20
@CarolDM I used to, from morning until night, but that is because I didn't have a car. Now, not only do I now have a car, but I am responsible for paying most of the bills.
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@Nakitakona (56302)
• Philippines
24 Jun 20
It's good for him what you're doing to control his activity in computer but conflict may worsen the good intention. Hope it would be settled in a win-win situation.
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• United States
24 Jun 20
He is 18 now, should be making his own decisions, but if he makes the wrong one, I will take action.
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• United States
28 Jun 20
@Nakitakona Especially since he is living in my house. Yes, he is going to college, but he still needs to respect our rules here. He isn't a bad kid, but too involved in his gaming.
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@Nakitakona (56302)
• Philippines
27 Jun 20
@Carmelanirel2 of course, as a parent you have still the moral obligation to lead him if he gets misled.
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@Adie04 (17360)
24 Jun 20
Parents would also turn off the wifi so that all of us in the house would sleep at night
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• United States
24 Jun 20
That's good.
@Adie04 (17360)
25 Jun 20
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