DO YOU THINK IT WOULD BE EASY TO DIVORCE AFTER 17 YRS OF MARRIAGE?

wow, I think it will be extremly hard to get out and start a new life, i would be lieing if i made it sound easy, i was with an abusive man for 2 and a half years and that was even hard to get out of and start fresh! But you seriously need to do it you can sit back and let this man verbally and physically abuse you anymore! I wish you the best of luck

I keep thinking about my response earlier and I don't mean to sound discouraging, I just know you need to take a long, realistic look at the situation before you act so you can be prepared. Preparation is everything. As horrible as mine was to me when I made my escape, I'm still glad I did it.

One simple truth that was proposed to me when I was agonizing on whether or not to end a six year relationship I was in was this: Do not think about what could have been, or what was. Think about what IS. Imagine if what is, is what you will have for the rest of your days with your partner. There is nothing you can do to change them, people are who they are. If what you have today is what you will have forever, would that cause you to rethink leaving? Hon, if he's abusive verbally and physically like that, I think it's something deeper that he needs help with and I think until he gets that help, you and your children deserve better. If he's ranting and raving and pitching a fit over $10 like that, he's got major control issues. My husband and I have trust. If I'm running low on cash and have no time to go to the bank, all I need do is ask him, or if I do take a few dollars from his wallet and he's not available to ask, I leave him a note so he knows. He does the same with me. End of story. When you are in a marriage "YOUR" money becomes "Our Money" or "Family Money". Thinking about it for a moment here...I'm getting the vibe that it's not about the money. It's about control. He lost his wallet and had the whole family tearing up the house to find it, and you found it in the simplest of places - under his ball cap in his room. I think the 'missing' $10 is just a reason to reassert himself and take the focus off the silliness of the situation and put him back in the driver's seat. It made him look foolish and he needs to fluff up and be "Da Man" again. Think about it! :O) Good luck to you Hon. God bless...

I divorced my abusive ex after 23 years of marriage. It will not be easy. In fact, things may get worse if you get serious about leaving him. If you are being abused, it will be worth it to get out but I strongly advise you to prepare very well before you even let him know you're thinking about it. Thoroughly document any abuse even if you think you won't need it. Abusive men get very unpredictable and are at their most dangerous when they think their "property" is getting away. Your only protection will be the threat of exposing him. Get pictures, witnesses, anything you can. If you have children, he may try to get custody. He can spring this on you after telling you he's going to let you have custody. Batterers not only try to get custody of children more often than non-batterers, but they are more often successful, even if they have abused the children because the wife is so traumatized that she doesn't "present herself" in court as well as he does. As you probably know, he is able to make himself look like the greatest guy in the world to outsiders. Prepare yourself financially, as well. Make sure you have some support system in place, be it family, church, friends, etc. It will be hard, but so is being abused. Best of luck to you.

I think divorce is hard after any amount of time and anyone who tells you differently is lying. You lived a lifetime with one person, had children, and built a life and now you need to walk away. My mother and father recently divorced after over 20 years of marriage and it was not hard for her to do but she managed and in the end it was for the best. Now she is happy at work, has a beautiful home of her own, and is really, truly, enjoying life for maybe the first time in over two decades. I think you should take the plunge and find a lawyer, look for legal advice, and remember that you have friends/family who care.

hmm. not at all!! but u can remain friends.. What do you think?

yes its easy for peoples like u to divorce ...bcoz u people dont consider marriage as important..so u can divorce any time and get married with other one...

wow, I think it will be extremly hard to get out and start a new life, i would be lieing if i made it sound easy, i was with an abusive man for 2 and a half years and that was even hard to get out of and start fresh! But you seriously need to do it you can sit back and let this man verbally and physically abuse you anymore! I wish you the best of luck

In my opinion it's really hard but if you are seriously over it then you have to leave your husband.. In my opinion in marriage both partners have to fell happy so if one doesn't fell so there's something wrong

sometimes we prefer a bad reality to a better (but unknown) future. don't tell me why, but that's the way our brain works. if your family situation is unbearable, divorce. at the beginning it will be painful and hard, but in a short time everything will get better. good luck