The journey of motherhood
By Akke Ladye
@Mga_715 (90)
Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
December 11, 2020 10:51pm CST
I don't know where to start on this discussion but this is just an appreciation of becoming a mother.
Anyway, let me start by telling you my experience of seeing someone delivering a baby. I was a student caregiver that time when I had a rotation in a labor and delivery department. One woman was about to deliver her first child. I could see her grimaced face and she screamed during a contraction. I couldn't tell how painful her experienced was because I was not a mom that time but I sure do know it was truly painful based on her facial reaction and also based on her cries and screams. When it was time for her to push, I could really see her struggling and in pain. She was crying but when she saw her child for the first time, her face light up and her mood changed. It was definitely a lifechanging experience and it even made me appreciate my mother a little more.
Fast forward to 5 years after that experience, I became pregnant and the journey of my pregnancy was not a walk in the park. I had to experience nausea and vomiting and the mere smell of certain foods ( even those foods that I used to eat pre-pregnant state) were disgusting. I had to rest in bed for few weeks just to protect my pregnancy as I had experienced minimal bleeding. Then came the delivery of the baby. On that moment, I had to say that, that was the most painful thing that I have experienced in my life. Labor was long for me and it was absolutely painful and I chose to experience it naturally. Seeing my beautiful baby made me appreciate the painful experience of labor and delivery.
Now, being a mother, I just realized that everything will change 360 degrees because I now have a baby. Well, it is mostly positive. Before married life and before the baby, I can only think about myself. I could sleep all day long or whenever I want to and I could do all the things I want to do. I can also buy things all for myself. But now that I have my babies, I can only think about their safety and welfare. I mean, they come first before anything in every aspect. I couldn't just believe that I am capable of being a mother. ??
Everything is not perfect, motherhood has its ups and downs, it was never easy, and it has a lot of challenges. No matter what, I just pray that I can handle situations properly and I could just really enjoy every moment of it.
How was your experience of becoming a mother? How do you find it so far?
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@Cheyee (8362)
• Pakanbaru, Indonesia
12 Dec 20
How old is your kid?
Being a mother is not easy. Now i am pregnant with my 4th kid. Labor and delivery for every kid is different.
My first kid is a girl. I was 22 years old
and inexperience. I didnt go to hospital and only to a nurse. The nurse was as old as my mom. I regret went there because she didnt even at my side. We needed to keep calling her to check my condition.
She didnt guide me during labor, didnt tell me what to do or what dont do. She didnt even give me anesthetic when she stitched me. I swear i wont go back there.
My second kid is a boy. He is the easiest one. I felt the contraction in the morning and went to clinic in the afternoon, i learned the sign from my first pregnancy. And my baby was born before midnight. The doctor and nurses were kind.
My third kid is a girl, the hardest one. I went to the same clinic. I felt my contraction on saturday night, and my baby was born on wednesday morning. 
i needed to endure the pain for 3 days.
And now i am 7 months pregnant. My due is by the end of february, i am planning to do c-section because i want to go sterile as well. I hope everything will go smoothly.
i needed to endure the pain for 3 days.
And now i am 7 months pregnant. My due is by the end of february, i am planning to do c-section because i want to go sterile as well. I hope everything will go smoothly.3 people like this
@Mga_715 (90)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
13 Dec 20
I could not imagine getting stiches without anesthesia. I could still even feel the doctor stitching me even when I was given local anesthesia.
I have to agree with you that every pregnancy different. My first one, I had some struggles but with my second, it was smooth.
By the way my eldest is 6 years old while the second is 4months now.
Good luck on your 4th pregnancy. I wish you and your baby well. Take good care of yourself and as well as the baby. You can do it.
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@Aleskys (5880)
• Venezuela
12 Dec 20
If it is a trip, for each woman it is a different trip, we are not all the same, my pregnancy was normal and happy I did not have nausea, I did not have a headache, no bleeding, nothing at all, I only had a little listlessness in the first month of appetite and nothing else.
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@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
13 Dec 20
A beautiful piece on birthing and motherhood.
Do take good care of your toddlers - nourish and rear them well.
Blessings.
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@just4him (310766)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Dec 20
That's wonderful you appreciate motherhood. I'm sorry you experienced morning sickness and trouble during your pregnancy. I'm glad your children are healthy.
I'm a grandmother now, but I still remember being in labor and the final push to becoming a mother. There's nothing like it. Motherhood is full of ups and downs, but the journey is worth it.
Welcome to myLot.
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