Does anybody have any advice on how to dissapline 3 year olds

Australia
November 30, 2006 8:43pm CST
My son doesnt listen to a thing i say and runs away from me at the shops. I dont know what to do.
2 responses
@Tanya8 (1734)
• Canada
1 Dec 06
The running away in public is a common behavior at age 3. I tried to arrange it so that I didn't have to take my kids with me when I shopped when they were younger. I'd wait till my husband was home from work, and go in the evening. If I had to, I'd bring the stroller and strap them in. At age 3 they didn't like this, but if they wanted to be out, they had to demonstrate that they could stay close and behave appropriately. If they forgot, then they'd go right back into the stroller. My youngest is 4 now, and he's easy to take to shops. I think children just go through a phase when they're 3, where they feel a need to test their boundaries all the time. With the not listening, I was careful never to give a command that I couldn't enforce. "Come here" doesn't work with a children who are running away with a big grin. It's better to go right up to them without making it look like you're chasing, and then take their hand, and ask them to come. Good luck to you. That's a trying age. I can't tell you how much things get better when they're a little older. I have a 7 year old and a 4 year old and life is way easier.
@baysmummy (1638)
• Australia
1 Dec 06
Discipline is a very personal decision. With a three-year-old consistency is the key. Below are other suggested methods of discipline. IGNORE 'EM - Should you find a behavior unacceptable, (one that is not dangerous) simply annoying, try ignoring your child when he behaves in this manner. PRAISE 'EM - Point out behaviors you want to encourage. Catch your child being good and give let them know how it pleases you. REPLACE IT - Before your child gets into danger, distract her with something else. For example, your child is ready to play with the electrical cords behind the television set. Don't wait for her to get hurt to learn the lesson. Protect and distract. TIME OUT - A three year old may be able to climb out of the playpen, so choose a safe place that is not frightening. Perhaps have a time out chair or remove the child to her room. Youngsters model their behavior from parents' example. Remember to keep your cool and be consistent. Another hint that may be helpful is to decide in advance what behaviors are acceptable and unacceptable with your spouse. Be sure to show a united front. Children are very quick to learn how to play one parent off another. Also, inform your child's caregiver of the rules and consequences, praise and encouragement.