What do you think of creamation?

My dad wanted to be creamated with his ashes spread out in a lake that he liked to go fishing in. But in some places that is against the law, something about a health hazard or something. So we kept him in an urn and now he sits on my brothers shelf. Nobody really wanted to take him home. Now I have heard some families fight to take the urn home .Everybody responds to this type of situation differently. I'm not an expert but I think your reaction was normal. I am sorry for your loss.

I have chosen to be cremated, and yes I have had to sprinkle ashes before, but never had any effect like that. I just could not believe how heavy they were, as I expected them to be lighter. You might have been very close to your Mother in law and this how you responded.

I haven't been in that situation. But I could imagine the experience would have been quite surreal. My grandad was cremated and it was I who suggested that they got sprinkled at sea, as he had a passion with the ocean. Unfortunately, I was unable to attend, as I live in a different country, but would have done had I been over there.

Cremation is definitely a personal choice. It's not something I would choose for myself, but I certainly respect anyone else who chooses to do so. Your reaction sounds very normal to me. Obviously this is not a situation you are faced with every day, and I'm sure you were feeling very overwhelmed by the whole thing. You have my condolences for your loss (I lost my mother in law to cancer in 1999), and don't feel bad about your reaction. You are only human after all! :)

I think it's a person's personal choice. I wouldn't do it myself, but if someone close to me wanted it done... well, I guess I'd honor their wishes. I think I'd probably have the same reaction as you, honestly.

I feel its a better way. you can be scattered somewhere you loved or be carried around by any one you have left behind

I think it makes sense that one would feel ill seeing the ashes, I know that I would. I personally don't want to be creamated just because I can't stand the thought of it...

I think its normal in your case, out here in India all hindus are to be cremated and their ashes spread in the river ganges, by virtue of our religion. It does make you feel sick for quite sometime after the whole thing is over.

girl, i know wat u mean .people do tend to get weak at those times when u loose someone whom u loved all your life.

I have nothing against creamation. I never had to experience that before either. I still don't know if I want to be creamated or put underground. I'll let me family decide when I'm gone.

depends on individual. so will get nervous and some will feel normal.

i think cremation is good, when the world is getting over populated and there isn't enough place to live.

we all act and feel different its a very difficult time, you fullfield her wish. its still an emotional time for you, dont be too hard on yor self!

well i duno buddy sorry....

my husbands parents were both cremated but that was before me and my husband were together so I was not involved in it. my parents were both buried. I prefer a mausoleum but its probably very expensive.

I know that had to be very hard to do. I personally do not want to be creamated, but my husband does and we have been going around and around about it. If he goes before me I want to remember him as he was not a pile of ashes! It already creeps me out, how will I ever handle it when it happens? I tease him and say he is just cheap! heehehehee but it really does bother me.

i felt the same way when we did the same for my husbands uncle so you are not alone there

I wouldn't want to be creamated. I don't really want to be buried either. Since I have no choice, i'll take burial though!

i want to be creamated when i'll die... i think its better than to be buried... like ash i can fly in the sky and then i'll became part of the world!

I want to be creamated. Geez, no way I want bugs eating me!!! I don't think its gross, however it is all in your head. I have heard of people snorting humans ashes before. Now that is gross! I still have "someone's" ashes sitting on my desk. I have a problem of letting go but eventually when I come to terms, I will sprinkle her into the forest like she wants.