My son (I need Prayers) what do you think about this? (please read)
By blondetruly
@blondetruly (826)
United States
September 13, 2006 6:05pm CST
My oldest son is 21 and went into the marines in May 2006. While he was gone to bootcamp it took me forever to relax. I hated the fact that something might happen to him. He had been gone almost a week so on a Saturday I decided to relax and go out. I got a phone call from him Saturday night. It was a short call (10mins.) Saying he was in the hospital with a fever of 107.9 and his kidney function was only so so. I freaked out!! I wanted to go see him, but the marines would not let me! I was mad to find out that he had been there all day unconscious and I never got not one phone call from the marines!! So after the 10 mins. was up I sat by the phone crying and worried! Waiting to maybe get another call from him the marines or something. The next day i got another call from my son, He had to sneak and call me! I hated that I could not be there! He told me he had a heat stroke. OMG! And that he was being released from the hospital in just a few hours. 2 days passed I got a call from the marines telling me my son had a heat stroke and they was putting him out of the marines. They told me he would be home in a few days to maybe up to a few weeks. It took a month and he was home! Thank god! They told him he could go back in 6 months. But he would have to start the process all over again. He wants to go back into the marines but Im not wanting him to. He is grown and can make that decision on his own. And I will stand behind him again but I dont have to like it! The first time he tried they would not let him in because of a child hood illness he had. The second time he went to a different recruiter and it took alot of paper work, doctors saying he is ok to go, and him signing waivers to get to go. Well then the heat stroke happend. Now he wants to try again. His 6 months will be up in December. I need prayers on this. And do you think he should try a third time?
9 responses
@ilse72 (1450)
• United States
7 Oct 06
As a mom, it is normal to worry but he is an adult and has to make his own decisions. He tried so hard to get in so it is obviously something he feels very strongly about. You must be equally strong and let him do what he feels he needs to do. In 6 months, the temperatures will be more moderate and so he will probably do very well.
As parents, we want to always protect them but, realistically, we must let them grow up, move on and make their way in the world. If we prevent them from doing what they really want to do, they will resent us and always wonder "what if".
As a parent, I can also understand. My son will graduate college next year and plans to enter the police academy. Yes, I'd like him to choose a "safer" career but I know I have to let him live his own life. And, having been an ER nurse, I just remind myself that he could have a car accident tomorrow and die. Or, he might be a cop and never get injured on the job. It is all a risk and life it filled with risks. After all, none of us knows what tomorrow will bring. You just have to have faith in whatever God has planned for your son and for you.
@Lackingstyle (7509)
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7 Oct 06
I’m in a similar situation, except for being the child (daughter in this case) who wants to join the Territorial Army (British Army reserves) even at that level she’s vehemently opposed, I wouldn’t like going against something she said understand hers, and all of your worries!
He’s going to do what he feels he should, does he have any particular reasons for joining the army? Mine would be to gain a deeper sense of discipline and learn new skills. You could offer him alternatives through suggestion.
Good luck too for both of you.
@grumpussgumpuss2 (44)
• United States
24 Oct 06
YES!!! PLEASE LET HIM GO.... as a former marine, i have to say if you talk him out of it he'll regret it for the rest of his life. he will always wonder if he could have made it .. to me he sounds like he has the drive to make it ........
@blondetruly (826)
• United States
24 Oct 06
Hes going to do what he wants to do. I do stand behind him but I dont have to like it.
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@maya_n_bennett (4687)
• United States
13 Sep 06
Im so sorry to hear what happened. As a parents these kind of not knowing what going on is the worst nightmare. If your son want to try agian I think it his choice but You can both sit down and talk about it. He is grown adult and have right to decided what he want to do yet, you can let him know that you are still his parents and you worry about him. I hope everything will work out fine for both of you guys.
@fizza10 (1718)
• Pakistan
15 Sep 06
well apart from the fact that God is alwayz there n my prayers r wid u mam.....but i don't think that he shld go forward wid dis decision of his....coz u c parents come 1st in everything n u being the mother shld b his 1st atmost priority.....n even than he wants to go his waythan leave it to him.......coz he'll stand there as a representative of ur nation right...
@alibabes88 (514)
• United States
13 Sep 06
If he wants to then yes. My husband is in the navy, and i wasnt really into the whole military thing at first. But if they are dedicated, like my husband ( and your Son) then the military can be a very good thing!!
