Introverted or Lonely?
@sammyy (527)
India
February 5, 2022 12:32am CST
My brother is an introvert. He has friends but doesn't like having company. Everyday he is busy working, and when he is not working, he's either gaming or watching some anime. And simply enjoys his own company. And I know there is nothing wrong with that, I do too.
But he's just 23 years old, unmarried and I fear over the time, he would become lonely. Many a times he ignores calls from friends, either because he is working or gaming.
I think I'm his only best friend. One person he doesn't ignore. But I can't always be with him because I'm married and my family has my attention most of the time. I feel guilty for leaving him alone. But he says he doesn't have any hard feelings about that.
I still wish he finds joy in human interaction, finds love around him. I feel he doesn't really know love.
Tell me what do I do? How do I make him more social? I do advice him everytime we meet, sometimes he takes my advice but most of the time he forgets it the very next day. I really hope solitude doesn't become his life in future.
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@sammyy (527)
• India
5 Feb 22
True! I got married at 29...but I just worry for him, it could be nothing!
@RebeccasFarm (86823)
• United States
5 Feb 22
I understand a bit of what you are feeling.
People are what they are in life...change may not be up to you.
It sounds like this is his nature and what he is most happy doing..just having fun with himself.
I know someone just like that.
I worry too, but there it is out of my control on how to fix it.
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@RebeccasFarm (86823)
• United States
5 Feb 22
@sammyy Yes, but I know how this can be distressing. You see that the person seems isolated. And may wind up very alone.
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@sammyy (527)
• India
5 Feb 22
@RebeccasFarm in the end, I can always try to be there for him..
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@healerWitch (417)
• Portugal
5 Feb 22
He's not lonely. I'm an antisocial introvert, while my husband is an extrovert and my husband thinks there's something wrong with me, while I think there's something wrong with him. 
You shouldn't try to make him more social. Introverts still get married and have careers and lead normal lives, we just don't have the energy or the mood or need to deal with a lot of people.
A lot of geniuses and artists do their finest work when they're isolated from the world.
You shouldn't try to make him more social. Introverts still get married and have careers and lead normal lives, we just don't have the energy or the mood or need to deal with a lot of people.
A lot of geniuses and artists do their finest work when they're isolated from the world.2 people like this
@healerWitch (417)
• Portugal
5 Feb 22
@sammyy whenever my husband invites someone over for dinner, I genuinely need a week to rest and recover.
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@Letranknight2015 (51537)
• Philippines
5 Feb 22
With the pandemic going on, I dont think you can force him. Some people just chose not getting socialize, let alone marriage.SOmething they need to do it on their own.
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@sammyy (527)
• India
5 Feb 22
Marriage is not on his plan for the next 8 to 10 years and no problem with that! But what if by then he becomes totally withdrawn and does not have good and connected relationships
@moffittjc (118555)
• Gainesville, Florida
5 Feb 22
Your brother sounds exactly like my brother. He has been that way since his younger 20s. He's now in his 50s and is what I call a hermit. I've tried over the decades to help him be more social, but I think he is happiest just being by himself. Perhaps your brother is the same way.
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@mildredtabitha (16077)
• Nairobi, Kenya
5 Feb 22
Give him another two years. Maybe as he gets older, he'll understand what you mean
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