Great posts, have no clue what to say
By healerWitch
@healerWitch (417)
Portugal
February 7, 2022 12:23pm CST
Sometimes I find some really amazing posts around here, whether it's an opinion on a subject that resonates with me, great writing skills when telling a story, or opening up my mind to new theories, knowledge and world experiences.
The problem is, other than the "like", a lot of times I have no bloody clue what to say, even though I want to at least say how much I appreciate your posts.
Other times, I see the notification on my own posts about some great responses, and it takes a while for the gears in my brain to start turning before I get to find something to reply with. 
This is evidence that I haven't worked that part of my brain enough (whatever part that helps build or continue a discussion with others). I at least have some time to think on it here before I do, but in real life, face to face, where conversations are happening so fast and need an immediate response, I'm even worse at that. I get lost at times so I say nothing. Sometimes I wish I could say I don't speak the language just to avoid talking to people.
On the rare times I DO manage to speak to people, I find in the end that the more I get to learn about them, the more I regret all the effort I've done to get out of my comfort zone and talk to them. 
But I think the weirdest part is that I don't know why on earth do I keep trying. I don't really like people (not that there's anything wrong with people, I'm pretty sure my flaws are enough to know that there's definitely something wrong with me), so why am I looking for social interactions, especially since I know I'm gonna regret it most of the time?
Is it because my extrovert husband keeps telling me it's unhealthy to be an introvert? Is it because I don't want that part of my brain to become rusty? Is it a survival mechanism? Or am I just getting comfortable being uncomfortable?
This is evidence that I haven't worked that part of my brain enough (whatever part that helps build or continue a discussion with others). I at least have some time to think on it here before I do, but in real life, face to face, where conversations are happening so fast and need an immediate response, I'm even worse at that. I get lost at times so I say nothing. Sometimes I wish I could say I don't speak the language just to avoid talking to people.
On the rare times I DO manage to speak to people, I find in the end that the more I get to learn about them, the more I regret all the effort I've done to get out of my comfort zone and talk to them.
But I think the weirdest part is that I don't know why on earth do I keep trying. I don't really like people (not that there's anything wrong with people, I'm pretty sure my flaws are enough to know that there's definitely something wrong with me), so why am I looking for social interactions, especially since I know I'm gonna regret it most of the time?
Is it because my extrovert husband keeps telling me it's unhealthy to be an introvert? Is it because I don't want that part of my brain to become rusty? Is it a survival mechanism? Or am I just getting comfortable being uncomfortable?7 people like this
8 responses
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Feb 22
sounds like you summed it up pretty well and said it all. So I'm dumbfounded as to what to say now. 
So I'm dumbfounded as to what to say now. 3 people like this
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Feb 22
@healerWitch yep. Think of anything yet? Maybe make a post telling us a bit more about yourself ?
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@healerWitch (417)
• Portugal
7 Feb 22
@bunnybon7 nope lol. A bit more about myself... I'm kinda boring but I'll try lol.
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@lovebuglena (43320)
• Staten Island, New York
7 Feb 22
Easier for me to interact and find what to say online than in person. However, sometimes I don’t know how to respond here. In that case I will probably just hit like and move on.
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@lovebuglena (43320)
• Staten Island, New York
8 Feb 22
@healerWitch in person, sometimes we say something and it seems like no one is listening because no one acknowledges what we said.
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@healerWitch (417)
• Portugal
8 Feb 22
Yes exactly, I think because we have the time to think and write a good response online, whereas in person we have to be speak out swiftly in the moment.
Same, I end up liking more posts than I can respond to, as that's the only thing I can do when I have nothing to say.
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@healerWitch (417)
• Portugal
9 Feb 22
@lovebuglena yes that's very true. I noticed that too.
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@kaylachan (59971)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
7 Feb 22
It could be a number of things. As humans there is a part of us that craves, and even needs to be social. We weren't designed to be alone completely. We were designed to interact and be around people. While a large part of you detests it, your baser instincts still crave that interaction.
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@MarieCoyle (30397)
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9 Feb 22
@healerWitch
Being here is rather like being around friends who listen to each other. And sometimes, I honestly think we crave the interaction to be heard and noticed. The nice thing about being here is you don't have to be here unless you want to. If you don't feel social, you can not stop by if you don't want to, or you can just read some posts and be done for that time. And if you want to talk half the day, you can.
I like being alone sometimes, but other times I like my family and friends around, too. Some days on mylot, I have nothing to say so I don't post. That's the nice part about it.
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@healerWitch (417)
• Portugal
9 Feb 22
@MarieCoyle indeed, this seems like a relaxing environment compared to other social platforms (which thankfully I'm no longer a part of).
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@healerWitch (417)
• Portugal
8 Feb 22
That definitely makes sense. I need to work on my skills and getting comfortable around people.
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@sjvg1976 (41133)
• Delhi, India
9 Feb 22
When you're on the social site you need to interact with people as much as you can.
I dont find it difficult to interact with the people here on the site. I know it's hard to continue the discussion but still, you try it as one does during face-to-face interaction.
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@healerWitch (417)
• Portugal
9 Feb 22
Thank you. Well it's very difficult for me, and I don't want to give an unintelligent or boring response just for the sake of interaction.
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@healerWitch (417)
• Portugal
7 Feb 22
Thank you for saying that, I sometimes feel my contributions here are not up to par. I hope I improve as I go.
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@ihasaquestion (8274)
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8 Feb 22
Just talk about anything you like..
I just started whatever discussions I feel I'd love to start whether to one's liking or dismay.
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@ihasaquestion (8274)
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8 Feb 22
@healerWitch But the way I see it, your answers are all well and good.
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@healerWitch (417)
• Portugal
8 Feb 22
I think my main problem is responding to other people's posts, or replying to responses on my own posts, rather than creating discussions.
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@healerWitch (417)
• Portugal
8 Feb 22
@ihasaquestion thank you, I try. Sometimes it takes forever to find a way to respond though, or I can't find anything good to say.
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@Fleura (29264)
• United Kingdom
9 Feb 22
If you don't like socialising I don't think you need to force yourself, some people just like a peaceful existence! I guess the catch is that sometimes you really do need other people (for example your husband is away and you have an accident and have to go to hospital; you really need someone to collect your children from school). In situations like that it's good to have a network of friends and/or neighbours who you can call on. You just need to find the right people somehow!
You must be able to manage some sort of social situations otherwise how did you aquire a husband?
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@healerWitch (417)
• Portugal
9 Feb 22
Thank you, I do prefer solitude, but it's true unfortunately, we always need people one way or the other.
I met my husband online lol. I had a Skype account for work purposes and he found me and contacted me. I tried to push him away actually.
But the man said all the right things and 3 months later we got married. I don't think he even proposed.
But the man said all the right things and 3 months later we got married. I don't think he even proposed. 1 person likes this
@dgobucks226 (34620)
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9 Feb 22
Only you can answer all of those questions you pose. Perhaps you just enjoy the interaction. Whether you are the one doing the posting or the one reading others posts. I think whether we are introverted or extroverted we as humans are curious people, and that plays a role in our daily life. The thirst to learn drives us and whatever format we find to use to inform us, whether it be a social site or face to face interaction achieves that goal.
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@healerWitch (417)
• Portugal
9 Feb 22
What a wonderful response. I certainly have a huge thirst to learn, so that might be a part of it.
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