Are you willing to change your religion because of someone you love?

@Jenaisle (14079)
Philippines
July 29, 2022 5:20pm CST
If you love someone so much, would you be willing to change your religion, so you could marry him/her? What would you do if a case like this happens in your life that you have to have the same religion as your spouse before you could marry? What other options would you do, if you don't plan to do this? Image is from wikipedia.com
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@ShyBear88 (59287)
• Sterling, Virginia
30 Jul 22
lol I’m sorry some of those things are so silly when it comes to marriage and how would this ever be a deal break. My husband was raised baptizes and I was raised Catholic small difference but it’s under the Christianity house different branches. Honestly it was never a thought for either of us to try or ask the other to convert for the other. It has nothing to do with our relationship or how we feel about each other. Yes his moms mom doesn’t like the fact that we as whole do not devote or self to baptism or that I’ve converted because that would make her happy and she is a controlling person and I’m that type of person that doesn’t summit to others unless I want to. To her I would never submit nor would my husband ask of me to do so. We live open based which means equal respect to all beliefs and faiths. We do not do church, or praying unless it’s out of respect of like a family gathering or get together other wise we just don’t unless the kids ask.
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
30 Jul 22
I do have a different religion from my husband too but we respect each other's beliefs and attend both churches sometimes. I also don't stick to one religion only, I can attend services in other congregations and glean the good learnings I can absorb.
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@ShyBear88 (59287)
• Sterling, Virginia
30 Jul 22
@Jenaisle lots of places accepted others as visitors. As long as partner doesn’t try to force me to do things I don’t want to do or be a part of we are good.
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• Kenya
30 Jul 22
Yes it's better to have your stand
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@marguicha (215703)
• Chile
30 Jul 22
I don´t have a religion and I didn´t have one when I got married. But my mother in law wanted a church wedding so I went to the priest and told him all this. He told me to pray. He did not understand that I could pray if I did not believe. I gave up. I was married by the church rites. My mother in law was very happy.
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
30 Jul 22
I guess she would be so, older people are more faithful to their faith than younger people nowadays. Churches are now not full while in the old days, there would only be standing rooms.
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@marguicha (215703)
• Chile
30 Jul 22
@Jenaisle Still, I did not have the children baptized.
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• Kenya
30 Jul 22
It's good that way I don't like it when people think having a religion is what makes one survive
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@wolfgirl569 (95535)
• Marion, Ohio
30 Jul 22
I would not do it. We would have to live together, go our separate ways, or he could give up his religion. That would be something we needed to talk about and decide together.
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
30 Jul 22
I understand. Yes, many would be faithful to their religion especially if they are devout
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@wolfgirl569 (95535)
• Marion, Ohio
30 Jul 22
@Jenaisle I am not what you would call devout. I just dont follow a set path. Never have and never will
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• Kenya
30 Jul 22
Even me I can't change. The God that has been with me through is the same God my partner has been with but on different accounts .
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@TheHorse (206210)
• Walnut Creek, California
29 Jul 22
Tell us about you experience.
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
30 Jul 22
My cousin was asked to convert so she can get married to her boyfriend who has another religion. The bf's church is strict with its members, no one should get married outside of their faith. so what now, she is undecided.
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
30 Jul 22
@Laurakemunto the bf can yield but the parents are not yielding at all. I don't know what would happen next.
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• Kenya
30 Jul 22
@Jenaisle she should talk with her boyfriend and some religions are there to manipulate and kinda control people
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• United States
29 Jul 22
I never would, our love for God should always outshine romantic love.
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
30 Jul 22
That's noble of you. Of course that applies to others too.
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• United States
30 Jul 22
@Laurakemunto At one time I didn't either, I thought a relationship was the only thing that would make me happy.
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• Kenya
30 Jul 22
A big amen to this. But people don't understand at all
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@luisga814 (6913)
• Quezon City, Philippines
29 Jul 22
It depends how you value your relationship. Are you asking this because your partner is in different religion?
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
30 Jul 22
Not me but my cousin who is an INC has been asked by her would-be partner to convert. No offense intended.
• Kenya
30 Jul 22
But for me it's a no no
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
30 Jul 22
@Laurakemunto I see, that's understandable.
@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
30 Jul 22
I won't change my religion, we will have our separate religions in that case and we won't force each other to follow their respective religion. There should no be a religious barrier if you love someone.
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
30 Jul 22
What about your kids? will you let them choose one or you will just let them be.
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@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
30 Jul 22
@Jenaisle kids learn from their parents mostly. I won't force my thought on them.
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
30 Jul 22
Religion matters, for me NO. My cousin married a seaman religion different from hers. They married but kids were confused for both their parents go to church separately. Kids find their own religion. There's bad effect.
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
30 Jul 22
There will be bad effects and so there are good effects too. These all should be weighed to arrive at a wise decision.
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@cacay1 (83220)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
30 Jul 22
@Jenaisle yes, it's case to case.
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@Shiva49 (26215)
• Singapore
30 Jul 22
I have known a few who did this. I also know one couple who stayed with their own religions and left it to their children what they wanted to follow. I am not comfortable changing my beliefs. I go with Give respect and take respect
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
31 Jul 22
We're the same. The problem is that my kids are now not interested in attending any of the church services like we are.
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@Shiva49 (26215)
• Singapore
31 Jul 22
@Jenaisle I am more agnostic. Religion has divided us with ordinary people drawn into conflicts.
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@RubyHawk (99423)
• Atlanta, Georgia
30 Jul 22
If I were religious I couldn’t change my belief. If you really believe in religion or anything else you can’t just change your mind. If you can. It was never a real belief.
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
30 Jul 22
Right, I can see your point there.
• Kenya
30 Jul 22
I agree with you so much
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@aninditasen (15747)
• Raurkela, India
30 Jul 22
If my partner does not respect my faith it's no use marrying. Where there's love there should be respect.
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
31 Jul 22
I totally agree with you.
• Nairobi, Kenya
30 Jul 22
I can't change for them, all you need to do is agree on how you are going to make things work. It will be hard but since you decided to get married despite of the differences you should just understand each other and make things work.
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
31 Jul 22
Yes, it's a difficult decision to make. and I can't decide for anyone. They have to do it themselves.
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• Nairobi, Kenya
31 Jul 22
@Jenaisle But it is better to marry someone who comes from the same religion as you.... Since their are religious that have weird practices and it will be very difficult to tolerate that.
@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
30 Jul 22
I am an agnostic so it doesnt matter to me much. But if he would force me to do things I dont want , I will not do it.
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
30 Jul 22
That means a breakup then?
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
30 Jul 22
@Jenaisle I believe so, yes.
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@Laurakemunto (12862)
• Kenya
30 Jul 22
No matter how I love you, I wouldn't allow our love to be influenced by religion I change so that we be together? No . Having me change is a condition for you to love me and pure love should be unconditional. So long as we respect each other, religion should be the least in our discussion. Christ came for everyone He never set conditions . This is my opinion
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
30 Jul 22
How right you are - that's what He offers - unconditional love - whatever religion you belong to. Touche.
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
30 Jul 22
@Laurakemunto I believe so too. It's not only religion that could make you a good person.
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• Kenya
30 Jul 22
@Jenaisle yes but people have so much defined and twisted it the other way round . Who said it's only the saints who can love ? Everyone is capable of loving no matter the religion
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@1creekgirl (40586)
• United States
30 Jul 22
I "might" consider changing to a different Protestant denomination, but I would never deny my faith in Jesus Christ as the Son of God.
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
31 Jul 22
Both religions believe in God but the other religion does not believe Christ is the son of God but that he is only a prophet, so there goes the difference.
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@1creekgirl (40586)
• United States
31 Jul 22
@Jenaisle Very good way to explain it.
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@kobesbuddy (74676)
• East Tawas, Michigan
30 Jul 22
The only truth is the Lord Jesus Christ, he is my way to enter into heaven. The Lord isn't a RELIGION. I have a "relationship" with the Creator of this Universe. I was saved, through the blood of God's only begotten son, the Lord Jesus Christ. Without this heart change, no one can ever enter into God's Kingdom.
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
30 Jul 22
I understand your thoughts. It's through our actions that we can have a personal relationship with Christ or God.
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@kobesbuddy (74676)
• East Tawas, Michigan
30 Jul 22
@Jenaisle All other religions are aimed towards "false teachings!"
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@josie_ (9763)
• Philippines
2 Aug 22
I'm agnostic (meaning not entirely convinced of atheism) and totally against institutionalized religion. I don't believe changing one's religion should be a pre-condition to a relationship. It's not necessary to get married in the church or by a priest.
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
2 Aug 22
I see. Are you referring to civil weddings? Of course, it's binding as well and legal. I have a friend who held a civil marriage in front of a judge and it was simple, less expensive, and even more solemn.
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30 Jul 22
If he loves me in the first place, he would not ask me to renounce my faith. Love is universal, and it's not because of what religion you have and etc.
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
30 Jul 22
Right. that's a good point.
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30 Jul 22
@Jenaisle Thanks.
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@Junbals (1421)
• Philippines
10 Feb 23
I saw many cases like this one. Hopefully many marriages ought to be like this.
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
10 Feb 23
Yes, sometimes having the same beliefs may improve relationships.
@Fa_Maverick (9458)
• Australia
2 Aug 22
Don't have a religion and i doubt Id have an overtly religious ceremony. Not to mention there is always the option of converting without being theistic in the religion you convert to so I dont see the issue with doing so.
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
4 Aug 22
I see. You have a point there.
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