Extra martial relationship and the Indian law.
@aninditasen (15808)
Raurkela, India
August 3, 2022 8:09am CST
The Indian law has declared section 497 where the man is only punished for extra marital relationship and not the woman who is involved in the relationship as unconstitutional. The law states that in such cases the wife can just ask for a divorce but cannot claim a punishment for her husband. The Indian law states that punishing only the man in an extra marital affair amount to cruelty when the relationship exists between two sane adults. That's true of course but why wipe out the punishment totally? Why not amend the law and punish both the man and the woman for a crime they should not do? This is because both are responsible for breaking family peace and be the cause of mental trauma of the wife and also the children out of marriage. Once both the man and the woman are punished for keeping extra marital relationship a lot of families will be saved and reduce divorces. If a man or a woman is not satisfied with his/her spouse, they should end that relationship legally and go for another relationship and not extra marital relationship. This will also end mental torture within the institution of marriage. I would like my country to amend section and not make it unconstitional.
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@RubyHawk (99421)
• Atlanta, Georgia
4 Aug 22
@aninditasen I feel like it’s the couples personal business.
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@aninditasen (15808)
• Raurkela, India
5 Aug 22
@RubyHawk No relationship can be a personal business when we are living in a society of educated people.
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@aninditasen (15808)
• Raurkela, India
4 Aug 22
No husband or wife has got the right to viciat the sancity of marriage. If they want to have extra marital relationship they may as well not get married.
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@luisga814 (6913)
• Quezon City, Philippines
3 Aug 22
As per understanding in your law. The man only received the punishment because he chooses to be with other woman to break his family. Even though the mistress is there to seduce a family man, still the decision is with the man and not the mistress.
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@aninditasen (15808)
• Raurkela, India
3 Aug 22
If the mistress is seducing the man knowing he is a married man, she is equally responsible for the crime as the man.
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@luisga814 (6913)
• Quezon City, Philippines
3 Aug 22
@aninditasen But the decision is still with the man.
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@aninditasen (15808)
• Raurkela, India
3 Aug 22
@luisga814 Sometimes the woman keeps blackmailing the man and forces him to continue the relationship.
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@anil02 (24688)
• India
3 Aug 22
@aninditasen In some case women are more responsible for illicit relationship
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@aninditasen (15808)
• Raurkela, India
4 Aug 22
@anil02 That's very true. I have seen women falling on married men but when a man is not satisfied with his wife he can break the marriage but has no right keep an extra marital relationship.
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@aninditasen (15808)
• Raurkela, India
3 Aug 22
That's true. That's the reason the woman going into illicit relationship should also be punished.
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@porwest (78756)
• United States
8 Aug 22
Personally, while I find the behavior of screwing around to be abhorrent and wrong, I also think it is barbaric to offer some sort of punishment for it other than the wife or husband telling the significant other to take a hike.
But I also find the practice of arranged marriages to be cruel and barbaric, and maybe it is no wonder someone wants to be with someone other than the person they were told they have to be with.
Just my two cents.
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@aninditasen (15808)
• Raurkela, India
9 Aug 22
In arranged marriages in India, both the boy and the girl are allowed to meet, talk to each other and then a decision is reached. No marriage is forced on the couple. Such cases are rare. Moreover whoever is dissatisfied has got the right to walk out of marriage. There's no need for an extra marital relationship.
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@aninditasen (15808)
• Raurkela, India
10 Aug 22
@porwest Yes, it of course is cultural difference. We Indians think multiple love affairs can lead to frustration.
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@porwest (78756)
• United States
10 Aug 22
@aninditasen It still seems off to me. All too often one falls in love with the wrong person accidentally. In other words, it's hard to find the right person. I think it is better to have multiple partners before choosing one to marry. But of course that is a cultural difference.
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@arunima25 (86051)
• Bangalore, India
3 Aug 22
I think if two people are involved in a crime then both should be punished. Why to go soft on the woman. However, there are many cases where the other woman is kept in dark and doesn't know about the marriage. Or at times woman is blackmailed to stay in the extra marital affair against her wish. So, the court has to decide depending on these situations.
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@aninditasen (15808)
• Raurkela, India
4 Aug 22
The court decides cases on evidence so the woman can highlight that. It's always wise to enquire about a man's antecedents before jumping into a relationship.
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@arunima25 (86051)
• Bangalore, India
5 Aug 22
@aninditasen Yes, people especially woman have to play safe when it comes to any relationship..But there have been incidents where they are blackmailed or lured into a wrong relationship.
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@aninditasen (15808)
• Raurkela, India
5 Aug 22
@arunima25 It's the novice and immature that get lured and therefore in such cases the court has to punish the man.
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@JordanLader (4673)
• Sparta, Tennessee
3 Aug 22
It's interesting to see how other places deal with certain things. What kind of punishment does the male receive?
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@aninditasen (15808)
• Raurkela, India
3 Aug 22
The male used to receive any punishment that the court declared. It may be heavy fine or imprisonment.
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@aninditasen (15808)
• Raurkela, India
3 Aug 22
@JordanLader They should punish the mistress equally.
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@JordanLader (4673)
• Sparta, Tennessee
3 Aug 22
@aninditasen Oh, ok. I don't see why they would wipe that out
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@RebeccasFarm (86963)
• United States
3 Aug 22
I kind of agree with you, though here, this would not be recognized.
Here, they are a free for all and do whatever they please.
I agree though the sanctity of marriage should be upheld.
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@RebeccasFarm (86963)
• United States
3 Aug 22
@aninditasen Yes I am with you on this
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@aninditasen (15808)
• Raurkela, India
4 Aug 22
@RebeccasFarm Hope the attitude of men and women change where marriage is concerned. Couples nowadays are getting too physical and lusty.
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@aninditasen (15808)
• Raurkela, India
3 Aug 22
The sanctity of marriage should definitely be upheld. It's said that marriages are made in heaven so nobody has the right to viciat that pure relationship.
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@sathviksouvik (18152)
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10 Aug 22
thanks aninditaji although section 497 is decriminalized the civil remedy is there. In hindu law under section 13 of the Hindu marriage act adultery is a valid ground to get divorce
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@sathviksouvik (18152)
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11 Aug 22
@aninditasen thanks Aninditaji I agree with you. Actually women organizations brought up petitions saying article 14 of indian constitution is violated. Adultery generally ruins families. These days india is trying to imitate the west
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@aninditasen (15808)
• Raurkela, India
11 Aug 22
@sathviksouvik We can never become like the west for Indian law still respect the sanctity of marriage and family values.
@aninditasen (15808)
• Raurkela, India
10 Aug 22
That's where the trouble lies. These laws can now just be used to get a divorce. There's no punishment for the man and the woman who practice adultery staying within the institution of marriage. This is spoiling the sanctity of marriage.
@Melanie_Marie (1872)
• New Baltimore, Michigan
9 Aug 22
I think they should both be punished too, esp. if the husband's new gf knew he was married.
This is exactly why I don't mess around with married or taken guys. If they gonna cheat, they gonna cheat. On the wife, and then on me, and then on the next girl after me, and so on.. and so on.
Also, I don't want somebody else's old junk.
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