How to deal with this feeling?
By Rain Drain
@fahmita_ (2255)
Indonesia
March 4, 2023 10:34am CST
Have you ever felt time goes by so fast? I mean, I feel like I've suddenly become an adult. Sometimes I still think that I am still a teenager, until I finally wake up to the reality when some of my friends are getting married and even having children. I also felt that I was so unprepared for this phase of life. Am I wrong?
I don't know how to deal with this feeling.
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@kanuck1 (4401)
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4 Mar 23
I'm in my mid-seventies and I agree that time moves fast. However, when we realize that we have a chance to live forever then it really doesn't matter how slow or how fast time moves. There is so much more ahead. Let us use life well and make the most of each day. 
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@kanuck1 (4401)
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5 Mar 23
@fahmita_ Usually worry does very little to improve a situation, make things better or make us happier. However, if something bothers us or gives us concern then we should try to see what can be done to alleviate the particular concern that we have and search for ways to make things better if possible.
@Adie04 (17360)
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6 Mar 23
I once ever feel that. But as I grow older and study becomes my priority as well other things that happened in my life, I don't care if I cannot married anymore. All I want to be successful and have money and can take care of my parents back. Be able to get married consider a bonus, for me. At my age now, I don't even feel jealous for one to get married. But I guess everyone feels that time is going so fast too.
Maybe, instead of feeling it, maybe you can firstly ask yourself these questions:
1. Is it worth for me to get married at my age? I mean, of course, marriage consider as blessings too, but at my age, what should I do instead of contemplating at myself and asking whether am I be able to get married or not?
2. What do I have to offer my spouse a life as a married couple?
3. With my current knowledge and financial level, am I stable enough to support other new members of the family without burdening my parents again?
There are more. But I think this is the main one. No need to answer me, these 3 questions are for you to reflect on.
Sometimes, we as individuals who live in the 21st century need to somehow be able to fight society and its mentality or mindset - some thoughts can bring you down too.
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@Adie04 (17360)
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7 Mar 23
@fahmita_ Glad that my suggestion is useful for you.
As I said before, it's the society and their mindset that we most of the time fight - For me, there are no such things nowadays of standard to get married. For me, once you are ready, really ready, committed to build another family, then go. Otherwise, even if you have other plans in mind, don't ever think about marriage. Jump into marriage is a very dangerous thing. I say this because I have seen one of my friends did that. And.... Well, hard to keep talking like this in online. It's better to observe people around us. That way, we can learn more how social and their norm goes nowadays.
@fahmita_ (2255)
• Indonesia
6 Mar 23
Really helpful advice! I'll try to ponder it. Maybe at my age I'm not ready to get married yet. Instead of regretting how fast time has passed, I will focus more on the present. There is also some people's notion of a standard age for marriage, but I'm not particularly keen on that either. Thank you for the advice!
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@solidcodes (1690)
• Philippines
4 Mar 23
Everybody goes old.
so you are not alone.
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