And negativity can survive...
By vanny
@vandana7 (98896)
India
September 7, 2023 1:32am CST
This morning I was reading an interview of Shilpa Shetty.
She is into Yoga. She is still a pretty woman for age...by Indian standards.
What I liked about her?
Her statement that if I am talking ill about another person the thoughts and negativity can flow into that water and food around me, and re-enter, making me remain in that phase.
So I need to avoid that...and I avoid that...
Well, this is definitely something I should learn from her and try to implement in my life.
Second thing, I liked ....
She said she accepts all bad as precursor of something good. Not an easy thing to do but I guess this is also something I need to learn. Especially, since she is a Sai Baba devotee.
Now ...WHAT I DID NOT LIKE ABOUT HER....
She said she keeps herself busy.
I think keeping yourself too busy is a mistake. We don't leave ourselves sufficient time for others. Cannot think of their feelings. Often, we kinda miss the bus and are left with regrets.
So to me the need to keep oneself busy is difficult to understand. I would rather try fill my thoughts with what I like and people I love ..so that I am not left with regrets later, than have that watch dictate me ...hello get up from the chair and do this...or do that...
What do you think?
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16 responses
@AmbiePam (85662)
• United States
7 Sep
I think those first few things she said are really wise, and I think I’m going to do the same. I really need the mindset of the bad things being the precursor to good things, especially right now.
While I understand wanting to keep busy, I think we all need time to just be by ourselves. I worry about people who can’t get alone time, and just run themselves ragged.
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@vandana7 (98896)
• India
7 Sep
I often feel people who are too busy tend to be inconsiderate to others. That is because they haven't the time to think about another person's perspective and consequently, they actually proliferate ill feelings, unwittingly.
The first two things, by god, I need to get it right into my system like an organ.
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@vandana7 (98896)
• India
7 Sep
So do you think not leaving yourself time to think about others and their feelings or their views is a good idea?
I feel she is using it as a tool to stop thoughts. Thoughts should flow...but when bad thoughts do arise, we should be able to tell ourselves...this is the evil in me ...not the right person that I am. I would think like that.
In fact, I go to temples and tell god, look ...there are many issues on which I get intensely angry...and wish ill to the people who hurt me, but do not implement those thoughts...instead, give them the understanding about why I feel the way I do, and likewise, give me the ability to understand them and ignore what they cannot implement.
Those are part of my prayers.
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@BarBaraPrz (45554)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
7 Sep
Everyone has their own philosophy of life, some parts good, some not so good. Take what advice you feel fits your life and leave the rest.
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@RebeccasFarm (86809)
• United States
7 Sep
I have always been aware of others needs and wants and try my best to attend to.
However, that also can be a complete drain and waste of time.
So in the end, I think just do what makes you happy and try to discern when helping is good.
The day I am not busy, you can write me off.
I do not like to be sedentary.
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@vandana7 (98896)
• India
12 Sep
I think living for the moment does make sense. It is possible to hoard a lot of information about others, and get worried about them, or find a way to worry about ourselves. At this moment, whoever is in front of me, can I help, if I can, I am sent by god to do the job. If not, this job was for somebody else. That is what I say to me nowadays.
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@RebeccasFarm (86809)
• United States
12 Sep
@vandana7 You are a very good woman Vanny.
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@RasmaSandra (73603)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
7 Sep
I am all alone and all I have right now are two cats. I am perfectly happy writing, posting, blogging, and doing other things like my survey sites every day.
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@vandana7 (98896)
• India
7 Sep
There is only so much human body can do, and brain can understand. We read to understand others feelings, we watch movies to understand those feelings, and improve as person. But if we keep ourselves extremely busy can we have enough time to read or watch movies? Charity often triggers ego. Charity should happen in a way we do it and forget about it. Rather than as a routine. Then expectations do arise. That is the way, I feel.
I am at a phase of my life, when I am questioning and monitoring each of my actions. Is there an ulterior motive? Is this the right thing? Am I able to get this favor because of what I did in the past? That kind.
Becoming honest as I age, and I realize, I am not a saint at all. And that I do want to be on the other side...sigh.
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@aninditasen (15747)
• Raurkela, India
7 Sep
Keeping a good heart always helps you look young and beautiful. People around you will put some negative influence into your life.
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@aninditasen (15747)
• Raurkela, India
13 Sep
@vandana7 Yes it is and we have to deal with it.
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@LindaOHio (156761)
• United States
7 Sep
Some people have to have every minute of the day planned. That's not for me. I would much rather spend time talking to my husband. Have a great day.
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@vandana7 (98896)
• India
14 Sep
Being idle is not what I am advocating. But being too busy as to not being able to spare more than an hour to the child, is also not what is ok.
So here is a lady in our building. She cook, she has a physically challenged child who needs to be bathed and fed four times. She has an aquarium, she has a husband who does little at home because he is working non stop mostly and is too tired to help her out. She has plants, and she has plenty of guests. In addition is a son who frankly needs more attention. I see him alone many times on the terrace. The lady wants to organize a party and also some religious rituals so has added to her busy schedule. You bet that kinda business is undesirable for me. While I don't want to tell her that her son is below average in studies, I do feel she is responsible because she may not be a good teacher.
@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
25 Sep
I think what kind of busy is different for different people. Some are busy with work, some with family, some with a combination of both, and so on and so forth. For example, I think myself busy when I am doing nothing but listening to music with my eyes closed. I am keeping myself busy in relaxing my mind and emotions from the overstimulation from the day-to-day activities. 
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@vandana7 (98896)
• India
25 Sep
I am exactly like that DJ. Are you sure you are not my daughter ...I may have had an affair followed by amnesia.... LOL
Some people are basically active, and quick in doing things. I am not. Others are organized (I used to be, with age and subsequent changes in routine that has gone). So they get a lot accomplished. Yet others like to show they do so much so go overboard. I am glad I don't belong to the latter category. That is the group which would be staring at the timepiece while visiting a family member in the hospital. LOL
Don't you think keeping mind so occupied prevents people from being considerate? Kinda, they don't have time to think of others and their feelings. I know I trespassed with you once..and I am sorry for that.
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@vandana7 (98896)
• India
25 Sep
@Daljinder Consideration ..at times ... gets overlooked in our haste to complete some chores. Somethings don't strike immediately and the other person suffering maybe too worked up to be articulate or hesitate to present his or her issues.
Whether inculcated or not, there are always situations that we may sorta not think much of because we have not been through those. Kinda, not put ourselves in those shoes before till the situation actually presents itself.
Take for example, our former building secretary. For 10 years he managed everything nobody questioned. Then this year he decided we needed to increase the maintenance after 10 years and undertake some major works. In the meeting, the works were decided, and he was told that he would be accountable. Couple of weeks later he had a low BP attack, and was hospitalized. Things became slow. One of the neighbors immediately pounced on him saying give the accounts and cash. The man was not fit enough to sit, and this man was asking accounts and cash. Nobody told him look you need to be considerate. Instead they established another committee without general body.
The gentleman hurt. I would be.
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
25 Sep
@vandana7 Cancer born ARE kind of overstimulated with the emotions of others and situations so they do need to back off to regain their equilibrium.
Overworking is a disease. I don't know how these people function. I like to plan my day and do just that. Very rarely, I like spontaneous stuff.
I think consideration shouldn't be something that you need to take time out for. Shouldn't it be a thing inculcated within your very nature?
Don't be bothered about the past. It's all fine. I don't even remember the incident you speak of, by the way. 
Let's keep it forgotten.
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