When family criticizes you because you aren't healthy
By Diana
@dya80dya (33637)
December 8, 2023 7:32am CST
A family should offer us support. My father and I talked today. He is very upset because I am not healthy and I don't work. But I need his support to be healthy. He knows to criticize and criticize daily. I am doing therapy, but his therapy is stronger and I can't avoid being sad. When my grandmother lived she knew how to offer me support. I was able to go to different places by myself and now I am stuck inside.
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@RebeccasFarm (86774)
• United States
8 Dec
Oh I have had that before but the person who has done that can't talk Remember, he is unhealthy. He should not point fingers at you.
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@RebeccasFarm (86774)
• United States
9 Dec
@dya80dya Yes so you were saying before. I know others like this that will not go.
@AmbiePam (85627)
• United States
8 Dec
From what you have posted about your father in the past, he seems to make you feel badly all the time. It would be ideal to have his support, but hopefully you can find it somewhere else. People do not understand mental illness, and their ignorance easily shows through. I once got accused of faking my illness by a family member years ago, and it devastated me. I will never forget how that made me feel. But those people? They are not worth our consideration even though they are vital parts of our lives.
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@AmbiePam (85627)
• United States
9 Dec
@dya80dya He’s your dad, so it’s natural to care what he thinks. Just try to remember, he is wrong. He is downright wrong, and wrong people’s opinion does not matter. It might take you a long time to start not caring as much, but think about how sad it must be to live the life he lives, being wrong about your daughter, and missing out on getting to know you, a very worthwhile person.
@marguicha (215587)
• Chile
8 Dec
May I ask what is your illness as why doesn´t your father help?
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
8 Dec
But perhaps you could work from home? It would make you feel better about yourself. I don't think your father will ever change.
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