I am slowly learning how to Emotion Coach my own child

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Hyorin is feeling blue. She has been looking forward to playing with her friend today at a playground a stone's throw away. But because of the rain, her friend called off their little rendezvous. Tears rolled down her cheeks as she talked to her friend over the phone. She was close to throwing a fit, she sobbed her eyes out, almost to a choke. Aigu. Eventually, she took it out on her papa. I told her that it was nobody's fault it rained. I used to say "It's okay, don't cry" or "Let's go to Daiso and buy something (not more than 5,000 won) " so she would stop sulking. I read in a book that we as parents must honor our children's emotions. It's not right to downplay their feelings. Take their sadness, anger, and frustration as an opportunity to connect and to empathize. Hence, I told her, " I would also feel the same way if I were in your shoes". I asked her to call her friend and ask perhaps they could go out tomorrow if the weather is fine. She was delighted when her friend agreed. Otherwise, she will just read books if it drizzles again. Regulating our children's emotions can be fairly challenging as we also have to take control of our feelings. But it's fruitful. It also steers clear of negative emotions and familial resentments.