Are Good Manners important?

France
December 2, 2006 4:59am CST
So many people don't go to the trouble of using basic manner anymore. Do you think this is a big problem for the next generation? Do you always try to be polite?
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• Australia
3 Dec 06
Good manners are essential. I must agree that we see so little these days, especially in our children. I blame the femimist movement for much. I am a lady. I act like a lady. I still expect gentlemen to open the door for me, to walk on the kerb side and to show due courtesy.
• France
3 Dec 06
Interesting perspective, I would go with the strongest person should open the door, walk on the kerb and so on, if I was out with my father, who is a little frail now, I wouldnt expect him to do that just because he is a man! Usually you can just tell who is in the best position to do these courtesies, I wouldnt consider them gender biased at all.
@desideria (371)
• Romania
2 Dec 06
good manners are still important. and i think that not the next generation is the problem but the old one. because they do not teach us anymore. they prefer to say that we have bad manners and so on rather than take the truble to teach us. of course we are to blame too because we could try to learn it on our own. so i think that this is a problem for both past and future generation
• France
2 Dec 06
Good point, we need to lead by example so the youngsters learn that its normal to say please and thank you
@samsonskola (3357)
• United States
4 Dec 06
Yes, I think good manners are extremely important, but getting lost these days. When my children were babies, after learning mama and daddy, the next thing they were taught was please and thank you. There's also nothing wrong with saying Sir and Ma'am either. Too many parents these days don't teach their children basic courtesy because they think it's out-dated...well, it's not. and it really aggravates me when, out of courtesty, if I'm coming out a door somewhere and I hold it open for the next person , it's not even acknowledged. When my children were growing up, occasionally they would have a friend ask for a ride home. No problem, and I would usually go out of my way to do so...but my children knew, that if that other child got out of the car and did not even say thank you to me....well, that was the last time I would go out of my way for that one!...I was raised to be polite and try to be no matter what..my children were raised to be polite, and my son is raising his children to do the same, but that's more the exception to the rule now instead of the normal. Very sad.
• France
4 Dec 06
sad indeed
@asmurthy (2464)
• India
19 Mar 07
Manners are something used every day to make a good impression on others and to feel good about oneself. No matter where you are - at home, work, or with friends - practicing good manners is important. Good manners are more than opening doors and writing thank you notes. While opening doors for others and writing notes is nice, true courtesy goes deeper. Being polite and courteous means considering how others are feeling. If you practice good manners, you are showing those around you that you are considerate of their feelings and respectful. You are also setting standards for others' behavior and encouraging them to treat you with similar respect.
@emeraldisle (13145)
• United States
4 Mar 07
I do try to be polite and use good manners. I use the basics of please, thank you, your welcome and of course excuse me. I also try to make sure to hold doors open for people or wait my turn to make a comment. I try to stress this to my neice so that she too learns manners. She does pretty good on most things although she'll slip up now and then. However I do see a lot of my generaion and on upward who do not seem to know what manners are. They are very rude and don't seem to have any clue that they are being so. I couldn't picture being that way at all.
@rosie_123 (6118)
1 Feb 07
I think manners are very important. Some may think it is old fashioned, but I think teachng manners is a way of teaching kids to respect other people and to think of them instead of always of themselves.
@babyhar (1335)
• Canada
1 Feb 07
I honestly do feel like good manners have been thrown to the side of the road in today's world. But even though this has occurred. I do believe that good manners are just as important as they once we're before hand. Just because very few these days have been practicing them, does not mean or make them less important in my opinion. I do believe that I am a polite person, but that I also have good manners as well. I was brought up to be respectful of the people around me. When someone hands me something or does something for me I always make an effort to say thank you. I also as well always say your welcome to others, or excuse me, or I show that I have good manners.. For example.. When I go to a grocery store or I am just leaving a store in general.. I will hold the door open for the next person just coming in to the store or the person behind me who is leaving the store just like I am.. I've always believed that saying thank you or saying your welcome should be a second nature. And that when you enter someone's home that it is only polite to take off your shoes. I know that when I have children in the future that I am going to teach them to be polite, & I will teach them to have good manners when it comes to the people around them. I think some people these days lack manners because of how they we're brought up. Or just because they don't care about others, only themselves. I think this may lead to being a problem for the next generation as well. I think it may only get worse over time sadly. I find it sad when people are rude to others instead of being polite. I know that one time I was leaving a store & some guy actually let the door slam in my face. I found it so disrespectful. From going through experiences such as these.. I believe that good manners are lacking these days. I also believe that a person doesn't need to take etiquette classes to learn good manners either. In conclusion, I'd like to think that I am a polite person & do carry good manners with me everywhere I go. I know that personally.. When I see someone practicing good manners, it always seems to make me smile. I believe in this age of technology, that these days the genuine things within this world are disappearing more & more each day sadly. So when people are polite it gives people like me faith that there still are some kind hearted people out there still in this world somewhere. I've always believed that practicing good manners is refreshing! And I think I will always feel this way. Thanks for allowing me to share! xx