Jay's Visit Today, With Marilyn and Shirley
By Kharla Jolly
@kobesbuddy (75074)
East Tawas, Michigan
May 3, 2024 3:14pm CST
Two of Jay's sister's are living in nursing homes. Marilyn is living 65 miles from Decatur, Alabama in Tuscaloosa. And Jay is driving there to visit this afternoon. She is one of his younger sisters at 60, she's suffering from the early onset of Alzheimer's disease.
Will she recognize her brother, Jay? Only time will tell if this will happen.
Then, my husband is heading to Montgomery, another 150 miles south to visit Shirley. She is Jay's older sister who is suffering from the latter stages of Alzheimer's disease. Shirley has good and bad days, which is to be expected and she's my age, 72 years old.
For some reason, this tragic disease runs in Jay's family. His mother died of Alzheimer's disease fifteen years ago, when she was 70 years old.
Anyway, this is what's on Jay's agenda, before he heads home on Saturday.
Please pray for his safety on the highway, thankyou:) God is certainly faithful
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@Juliaacv (48633)
• Canada
3 May
I hope that he has a safe drive back home again.
Alzheimers runs in my mother's family also.
I fear it will take me, and I wonder if the twins will ever remember me being this way, if I go that way.
I do not remember my grandmother not being forgetful, and that is sad.
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@Juliaacv (48633)
• Canada
4 May
@kobesbuddy I'm so sorry Kharla. 
He is lucky that he has such an attentive and caring wife, you look after him well.
He is lucky that he has such an attentive and caring wife, you look after him well.1 person likes this
@Juliaacv (48633)
• Canada
4 May
@kobesbuddy It was my grandmother's Alzheimers, although it wasn't called that back then.
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@kobesbuddy (75074)
• East Tawas, Michigan
4 May
@Juliaacv Forgetfulness can be a side effect, from certain medications we take.
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@celticeagle (159936)
• Boise, Idaho
3 May
It is scary to think about. I think it runs in my family too. I say 'think' because my paternal grandmother was never diagnosed with the disease but, when I went to visit her the last time before she passed away she didn't know me. It was very sad.
I hope Jay will be safe out on the highways.
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@kobesbuddy (75074)
• East Tawas, Michigan
3 May
And Jay is beginning to show symptoms also, it scares me!
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@celticeagle (159936)
• Boise, Idaho
4 May
@kobesbuddy ........I think there is medication that keeps it at bay for awhile. The sooner he's diagnosed the better. I wish you luck on that.
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@kobesbuddy (75074)
• East Tawas, Michigan
4 May
@celticeagle If Jay gets diagnosed, he will never share this with me. He's a very private person.
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@kobesbuddy (75074)
• East Tawas, Michigan
4 May
Shirley recognized her brother, Jay was very pleased about this! @LadyDuck
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@LadyDuck (460346)
• Switzerland
5 May
@kobesbuddy I am so glad, it is depressing when a relative cannot recognize you.
@TheHorse (207500)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 May
@kobesbuddy I can;t either. OK, I'm almost inspired. Time to hop on my bicycle.
@kobesbuddy (75074)
• East Tawas, Michigan
5 May
Thankyou:)
I can't imagine spending the rest of my life, laying in a bed or sitting in a wheel chair:(
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@LindaOHio (158447)
• United States
4 May
Alzheimer's runs in my husband's family among the women. I'm glad that Jay will get to visit his sisters; and I wish him safe travels. Have a good weekend.
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@kobesbuddy (75074)
• East Tawas, Michigan
4 May
This is a beautiful Saturday, the weather is lovely! Jay will be heading north tomorrow morning:)
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@kobesbuddy (75074)
• East Tawas, Michigan
5 May
It's a disease that runs in families, they are finding out. But, research is improving the quality of life these victims can be given!
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@grenery8 (3012)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
6 May
@kobesbuddy you are right, some things changed and it can get better
@GardenGerty (157865)
• United States
4 May
It is important to make those visits while he is able. I do hope he is safe and they go well.
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@kobesbuddy (75074)
• East Tawas, Michigan
4 May
With certain meds that we take for other things, simply a side effect could be forgetfulness.
@kaylachan (58897)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
3 May
I wish him the best of luck on his journy. I pray his visit with his siblings goes well.
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@kobesbuddy (75074)
• East Tawas, Michigan
3 May
Jay grew up with 9 sisters and also, a niece. In a small house, this was not easy to do!
@crossbones27 (48542)
• Mojave, California
3 May
I am sure he will be fine and neat he is looking out for his extended family in hard times. Many do not. Many times these the people that made us, its important we give them the right respect for giving us the survival skills to make it in this world.
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@crossbones27 (48542)
• Mojave, California
11 May
@kobesbuddy I know that one I do many family posts myself lately and know I should not because people believe keep in family but where else do you go? Just get your frustrations out and know it will not harm my family but they do eventually learn unlike others, hope your extended family can do the same. It takes a lot for me to do a family post. 
@kobesbuddy (75074)
• East Tawas, Michigan
4 May
Yes, you are right about this. And in many families there's so much hate and animosity, over issues that happened! My sister has bi polar mental illness, she's impossible to talk with. One minute she's kind and loving, two minutes later she's calling names and in a rage of anger. And what she claims, it's not even the truth!
@crossbones27
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@LeaPea2417 (36580)
• Toccoa, Georgia
4 May
Prayers for a safe journey for Jay. That's so sad that his 60 year old sister has Alzheimer's 
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@kobesbuddy (75074)
• East Tawas, Michigan
4 May
Thankyou, Jay will be heading north Sunday morning. Alzheimer's runs in Jay's family, a bad omen! Yet, God is able to do all good things, to keep Jay's mind healthy!
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@kobesbuddy (75074)
• East Tawas, Michigan
3 May
Jay spoke with me an hour ago, he was almost to Shirley's facility in Montgomery.
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@Deepizzaguy (95352)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
3 May
I will be praying for the safety of Jay coming home starting this weekend.
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@kobesbuddy (75074)
• East Tawas, Michigan
4 May
Thankyou, George! I am so pleased, to have you praying for Jay's safety:)
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