What will you do if someone starts telling lies about you?

@cloud9 (176)
Philippines
December 2, 2006 11:03am CST
What will you do if something like this happens to you in work? What if someone started a gossip about you that is so negative that your co-workers don't treat you well anymore? Are you going to confront the person who started the gossip or just ignore the rumors and hope it would go away. My friend is experiencing this right now and I just told her to ignore it and the rumors would soon stop. But she is getting affected and she is discouraged to go to work sometimes. What advise can you give her?
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@Balaskl (56)
• India
2 Dec 06
i this present world gossips and rumour are so common so don't worry about this just go in ur path. march towards ur target. especially ur true friends won't mistake u. first they won't believe these silly gossips. so ignore the gossip and live a happy life
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@cloud9 (176)
• Philippines
2 Dec 06
thanks. that's what I told my friend to just ignore it because the person who told the rumors might be jealous because she is currently doing a good job with her work
• United States
2 Dec 06
Well I am having this same problem with a family member. I tried to help her out when she talked to me about some problems in her marriage. I didnt think things were as serious as they were, but I had told her to talk to her husband and they could work out their differences. Now she has kicked him out and she has been cheating on him. She is telling him that I told her it was ok, and that I knew about it the whole time. I had no clue, and do not in any way think that seeing someone else while you are married is right. I would have never told her or anyone else to do this. Since the only way we usually talk is over the internet I have tried emailing her. I still havent heard anything from her and believe I am done with the whole situation. I know that anyone who knows me personally would know that I would not tell her to do that. I am just trying not to worry about it, and one day she will come to relize that she has turned the ones who care about her away. By that time I am afraid that she will not have anyone to turn too. I still pray for her, like I have before. I say just try to be the better person and not let it effect you. Its hard to do sometimes, but eventually the situation will go away, or at least not be as bad. Good luck to your friend.
@cloud9 (176)
• Philippines
2 Dec 06
thank you for sharing. good luck to you too. what's worst with my friend's situation is that even her friends at work who knows her seems to have changed in the way they're treating her. I guess you would really be able to know who your true friends are when you have a big problem. I hope your relative would realize that what she's doing is wrong.
• United States
2 Dec 06
I have to agree that you know who your true frinds are when you are going through a rough time. Just tell her to hang in there, she will get through it.
@CrazyP (947)
• Canada
3 Dec 06
wowo that sucks i would put her in her place by saying that i didnt tell you to do that and stop trying to blame me because you chose a bad husband and couldnt keep interested in him.i would also say that she is a idot
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
2 Dec 06
I think she should confront her preferably in front of somebody (if she's sure about it). When people see her do it they will know that the girl was lying. Also can you go by to see her while she is at work, meet her for lunch. Sometimes seeing that someone else has a support system will discourage others from bothering them. Sounds silly, but its true. If people know you've got friends that might cause you trouble they are less likely to pull stuff like this.
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
2 Dec 06
Oh, I'm sorry. I just read where she's confronted her already. Were people around when she did it? If she actually started the rumor she may not be able to deny it in front of people that she's told. Or at least they will know for sure that she's a liar.
@cloud9 (176)
• Philippines
2 Dec 06
thanks for a great idea. i don't think she confronted her with a witness or with the person whom she told the lie to about my friend but I'll suggest that to my friend so they'll know who's telling the truth or not.
@achyuta (2853)
• United States
2 Dec 06
I dont care what people say. I have never been worried about such things. If you are successful comparatively from people who know you, then these kind of things often happen.
@cloud9 (176)
• Philippines
2 Dec 06
i know. i told her it's just jealousy that she is being commended for the good job she is doing
• Philippines
2 Dec 06
i will still be the same. live my life as what i have been doing. just ignore the rumor and live your life the way you have been doing. if its not true then people will really find out.
@cloud9 (176)
• Philippines
2 Dec 06
i totally agree. i just hope my friend would stop caring about the rumor and stop being affected.
• India
2 Dec 06
i really hate it when people start telling about me behind my back, i will go and confront that person who tells lies behind my back, i will ask him/her why he/she does that. if he/she has a problem with me if i can solve the problem.
@cloud9 (176)
• Philippines
2 Dec 06
what if the person denies it? my friend confronted that girl already and she totally denied it. she's a real liar.
@dholey (1383)
• India
11 Dec 06
i will do nothing ... because of you try to tell truth they will make more rumors , so remember TRUTH REVEALS AFTER SOME TIME SO BE PATIENT ... every thing will be fine a little bate latter
@oppzon (66)
• Indonesia
3 Dec 06
I will prove that I am not
• India
3 Dec 06
i would go tht person and will try to find out why hez doing tht..........
@hcprasad (1013)
• India
3 Dec 06
Ignore the Idiots. This is my principle of living
@dyne_15 (162)
• Philippines
3 Dec 06
ANGRY
@fl0urish (5386)
• India
3 Dec 06
well it would hurt me mmore than any other...in ur case if they are just ur co-workers than dont take it seriously.... this is not going to be the end of the world...keep going
@tanujarneja (2833)
• India
3 Dec 06
These things happen in life.........one should not be affected by them and ignore them....
@yorb24 (2181)
• United States
3 Dec 06
I'd probably confront that person is it was starting to affect my job. I'd also talk to my boss about this.
• India
3 Dec 06
i'll not worry about it. and i'll keep doing my work
@ru88en (2997)
• Philippines
3 Dec 06
I don't mind them. I have better things to do in life. I know what I am and what I do better that him telling about me. Why should I care?
• Indonesia
3 Dec 06
ok
• Indonesia
3 Dec 06
my comp
@Sikh_Boy (231)
• United States
3 Dec 06
i will tell her to make a complaint to the senior ppl so they can take action......:).....seriously i would kill that person;)
@cr1st1nel (3567)
• Romania
3 Dec 06
If someone would start a d start a rumor about me firstly if it isn't true i will try to understand why he strated and try to make it to recognise to everyone that he wasn't speaking the true and if it wouldn't recognise i will go the hard way