need advice for my kids, help please.

United States
December 2, 2006 12:24pm CST
I had something planned to do today with my kids, ages 7, 3 and 2. It was a one time thing for christmas, this afternoon only. I have asked them all morning to help me by picking up their toys and all they have done is fight and argue. They wont do anything I ask them to do. I barely got them out of their pj's. They want to go where we have planned, but I dont know what to do. I still want to take them but I am afraid that if I decide to take them it will just get worse and I will end up wishing I hadnt taken them. I dont have much time to decide. Can anyone help me? I want to go as a treat for us all to be able to spend an afternoon together, which we dont get to do very often. Should I take them anyway and see how is goes, or just leave them home? Thanks for the help in advance!
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@nannacroc (4049)
2 Dec 06
Don't take them, they haven't earned it and if you treat them they are going to think that it doesn't matter how they behave because they'll still be rewarded. Leave them at home and you go out. They will learn then that they have to behave to get rewards.
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• United States
2 Dec 06
I wish I could go out without them, but i cant. No baby sitters today. I know they havent earned it either, but still in the same way want to take them. Isn't that bad? They are just rotten and I still want to take them out.
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@mamashane (1140)
• United States
2 Dec 06
My advice would be to stand firm. If you have already threatened not to take them if they don't behave then you have to follow through with that. Explain to your kids how important this is to you & ask for their help. Your 2 year old might not understand but the older kids will & if you follow through with your threat to keep them home & they don't straighten up then next time you have a situation like this, they will know you are serious and they won't get what they want. Good luck!
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@medooley (1875)
• United States
2 Dec 06
I agree... if you told them that they could not go if they did not pick up their toys, then they don't get to go. You have to teach them that there are consequences for their actions.
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• United States
2 Dec 06
Thanks, I think I did tell them that I wouldnt take them, but probably in the heat of an arguement. I know that my youngest doesnt understand, but he is just like his older sisters, I can ask him to do something and he just yells at me. I have made them stay home from doing things before because of their attitudes. They still dont learn. I am beginning to think I should leave them here.
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• United States
2 Dec 06
try playing a game while picking up toys ,take them with you if they mis behave then bring them home and put them straight to bed.
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• United States
2 Dec 06
I tried playing a game with them to pick stuff up. I usually give them each a toy box and see who can get the most in within a few minutes. And give a prize to the winner. Doesnt work even then. I have VERY stubborn children. Like there mother I believe. lol. Anyway, I might try it anyway and see how it goes. Not sure yet. I will post later to tell my decision.Thanks!
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@playgirl (1359)
• Philippines
3 Dec 06
just understand them.....