I'm going crazy!!

United States
December 4, 2006 12:53pm CST
I'm only a month pregnant, and I've been cramping the whole time. They sent me for an ultrasound last week, and told me in 3-5 days I would know if anything is wrong. I tried to think positive, but then I started bleeding yesterday. I called the doctor first thing this morning, and they tell me I can get in to see the doctor tomorrow. I'm thinking, I can't wait until TOMORROW! what if something's WRONG? I tell the lady okay, and hang up. I tell some girls at my office what's going on and they say, aw, no You need to get in there TODAY! I call the office back, and the lady says now that she sees that I had the ultrasound, and she'll look me up in the system to see if the results are in. After spelling my entire name out about 5 times, the lady tells me I'm not in there yet. GRRAAW!! Ok, I say, so can I call the hospital and see if they can rush this along? She says, no , that shouldn't do anything, there's no point. (Heh, obviously she has no idea what my insides are doing at this point) I call anyway. They say that I'm in the system, That they have my results. Oh, yeah, and they can't tell me what they are, they can only tell the doctor. What the hell?? This is MY BODY, but they can only tell someone else what's going on with it. Nice. So I call my doctor's office back, and tell them that I AM in the system, please call the hospital, they will tell u the results. Why does the lady ask me for my name and try to look me up again? I'm trying to be patient, I really am all this time. I just ask her to please call the hospital, she says she'll call me right back. I figure after an hour, she should know something, right? I call the doctor's office back, and get on the phone with the nurse. Oh, yes, I have the results, she says. Ok...so you were going to call me WHEN? Maybe she couldn't tell that I was dying to know if everything was ok. I'll give her the benifit of the doubt. Anyways, after all that, the baby was only 4 weeks, so its too small to see if anything is wrong with him*. *Wishful thinking, I feel like its a boy* I have to make another appointment for two weeks from now, to have another ultrasound, and I'm a wreck! This is my first pregnancy, and after all I have been through with the people around me, I will die if this baby doesn't come. The people around me, that's an entirely differnt story...... Any comments?
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@rosey2006 (945)
• United States
4 Dec 06
Get another doctor A.S.A.P and go the E.R NOW. You might be having a misscarrage. Don't wait!
4 people like this
• United States
4 Dec 06
I was thinking possible an etopic pregnancy, but they would have noticed that on the ultrasound if they've seen them. actually would have said something while having the ultrasound... Also it isnt uncommon to still go though the " motions" of your last period. cramps, a little bit of spotting, nausea all those kinds of things..
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• United States
4 Dec 06
Don't worry, my wife just had a baby and her body was feeling ways she could never imagine. There is a lot of great info on the internet. I found that when I used to call the nurses on my healthplan that they would be reading almost word for word the info I had printed off the web. Just take it easy enjoy every minute of it. This is out of your hands right now all you can do is PRAY to God for your baby
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• Italy
5 Dec 06
the calm is the virtue of the forts
@kylesmiles (1911)
• United States
4 Dec 06
Hey there. I am not a doctor so I am not going to tell you anything different from what they are saying... However I am a mother! ;) All I can say to you is this... Please don't stressed out...this is NOT good for the baby... Yes it may sound cliche but please try to stay calm... Don't get stressed over this... Just continue to take care of yourself, your body and eat healthy! :) You are lucky that you found out so quickly that you are pregnant. I believe I knew when I was about 4 weeks but I didn't get it confirmed by a doctor until 3 weeks later. Between that time, I did take two pregnancy tests at home just to be sure. :)
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• United States
4 Dec 06
I am a mother of three so this is my opinion not fact. But first of all I would get a new doctor. My doctor had his own ultersound in his office and always knew the results right away. With my oldest the ultersound tec. was haveing trouble finding the heart beat and she stop what she was doing pulled by doctor out of another room and he came in and thankfull found the jeart beat. My ob had opening on his book every dau for last minute issues. He wanted to makew sure he had room to see his pat. anytime that they had a problem. As far as the bleeding if your dr will not let you in to see if I would go to the ER and make sure that there is nothen wrong they will be able to tellyou right there. Please don't wait for two weeks to see if there is anything wrong.
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@Kylalynn (1773)
• South Africa
4 Dec 06
Floramwaters has given you good advice. I would take it if it were me. Hope all goes well with you!
• India
4 Dec 06
first thing's first..congratulations!! please don get tensed..i guess its not easy being pregnant..but im sure you'll do fine!..there are 10 hale and healthy babies being born every second.. all the best!..chill out.. if you get too tensed and frustrated,itll affect the baby.. so takecare n be happy!
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@diya82 (115)
• Germany
4 Dec 06
I have no idea about this...but i think u should be optimistic...dont get so tensed up...ur baby may not be having any problem...it may be something else...ur stress can affect the baby...so better consult another doctor and dont worry...
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• United States
5 Dec 06
I'm soo sorry i hope you feel better
• Italy
5 Dec 06
me too.. try to feel better
@shirgie (230)
• United States
4 Dec 06
With my first child, I didn't think I was pregnant because I felt like my period was on the way. I don't recall how long this lasted but it was for a month or so. I guess I would describe it as mild cramping and lower back pain. I agree with the poster that your pregnancy has the best chance of success if you stay calm. Also try not to over exert right now. I pray all goes well and you are bless with a healthy baby in 8 months.
• India
4 Dec 06
don't panic at all! everythings fine!
• United States
4 Dec 06
Spotting when pregnant isn't uncommon and doesn't neccesarily mean there is anything wrong, but spotting and cramping is a potential threat. Go to the emergency room of the nearest hospital to ease your mind if nothing else. Stressing over this could make it worse. I also suggest you seek out a different OB/GYN for the term of your pregnancy. Your doctor and his staff seem unresponsive to your needs.
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@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
4 Dec 06
Congratulations at first. im a mother of two, and its normal to have some crampings and bit of bleeding at the begining, its the embryon implanting himself in the wumb. Just dont stress and dont take very warm baths or showers (because of the bleeding). Everything will be ok
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@Brooke3 (614)
5 Dec 06
Why do you think that you should get special treatment? Because you are pregnant? You can't just expect to get in to see the doctor when there are no appointments, or for the receptionist to remember you, she's probably spoken to a lot of people during the day. Your foetus obviously means the world to you, and although the fact that you prefer one gender over the other suggests to me that you dont have unselfish intentions I think it is a good sign that you care that much, but don't expect the rest of the world to care as much as you do.
• United States
5 Dec 06
Yeah, I've been reading this and going 'damn, I wish I could get next day treatment when I need to see my doctor!'. And I have a chronic, crippling disability with a few complications. I usually have to wait a week to get in to the doctor. If it's that big a deal, don't wait for the doctor. Just go to the ER and don't waste the time.
• Indonesia
9 Dec 06
Yes
@prncesssly (1375)
• United States
5 Dec 06
As someone else said, stress is not a good thing for you to feel right now. I hope that everything will be okay with you.
• United States
5 Dec 06
I can understand how you would be concerned and worried. I will be thinking about you and hope that you get good news.
• Anguilla
5 Dec 06
try not to worry about it. most times there is nothing to worry about
@zionina (145)
• Italy
5 Dec 06
so do i! My job make me crazy!!!
@lilmissy (481)
• United States
5 Dec 06
the problem is makeing phone calls, dont call just get in your car and go to the hospital and see a doctor until you are satisfied,if that doesnt work go to another hospital,but dont wait and dont call around all you will do is stress yourself out and pop that baby right out.first pregnancies often end in miscarriage also as the uterus is still quite rigid go see a doctor
@hm1177 (1223)
5 Dec 06
god that is an awful way to be treated. i just hope things work out well for you :)
• United States
5 Dec 06
YOu need to go to the emergency room immediately when things like that happen. I don't care what the doctor says. It's better to err on the side of....well you know better to go when and find out there's something wrong then to not go and have something happen. I wish you well and hopefully you'll have that boy you've been wanting. :)
• Brazil
5 Dec 06
The first few months are a kind of clinical grey area, every body reacts differently to the pregnacy, give your body some time to adjust, then do a full medical checkup around the 3rd-4th month of pregnancy. Ive taken care of 2 girlfriends over their pregnacies, and believe me, even doctors havent listed down every reaction somone might have to pregnancy. But youre fine, dont worry, if you need to, feel free to email me (add 1@gmail.com after my username) Have a nice day!
@rachelcaron (1681)
• United States
5 Dec 06
I'm sorry. I know how frustrating that can be. I have an 8 month old son and I remember how hard it was those first few months of pregnancy. Don't worry, it does get better and you will feel better. I hope everything turns out ok.
@sagarbx (732)
• India
5 Dec 06
if you have ane query about pregnanacy plse feel free to ask me. i m a pharmacist......................