What would you say on this??
December 5, 2006 1:23pm CST
I am grappling with a problem with a friend of mine. Actually, she’s more like a younger sister. We have been friends for as long as I can remember, but I’ve felt uncomfortable with our relationship for a long time but have not been able to tell her how I feel. She’s an only child so she has depended on me greatly for advice, support, you know, sisterly stuff. I don’t think I’ve depended on her half as much, but maybe there’s always that imbalance when there’s an age difference…. Anyway, I always have felt that she was rather self-centered and inconsiderate. We’ve also had some great moments, of course. Her mom is an influential force because she often will tell me how beautiful her daughter is, or how great she is and ask me whether or not I wished I was her. And then recently, I met a guy. Actually I wasn’t sure if I would like him at first, but then I really grew to like him. I introduced him to my friend and we all went out together one night. She became very fond of him. I’m not sure what was going on at that time still, but there were many awkward situations where she was making overtures to get his attention, or she was telling me that we weren’t right for each other… and I got all confused. Eventually, I really liked him and was a little disappointed that she wasn’t happy for our blooming relationship. She has not had much success with guys, despite being very pretty and witty and intelligent. I grew resentful of her for not supporting me and began to distance myself. Not once has she broached the subject with me. I’m at odds over what to do. In a way, I’m happier because that tension is gone, and when I do see her, it feels like a more casual relationship than before… more balanced. What do you think?