HELP! MY GIRLFRIEND GOT IMPREGNATED BY ANOTHER GUY.

@slim49z (216)
Nigeria
December 6, 2006 7:34am CST
I need help here please. My girlfriend just got impregnated by another guy. I just found out about the pregnancy a few days back. But can you beleive it? she is been two weeks pregnant. She is been hiding it from me because she knows am not responsible and would blow my tops if I found out. Well Now I knew. She is been begging for forgiveness. I don't know what to do to her. Am tempted to disown her. For christ sake!Even the baby she is carrying is not mine! Worst of it all,the guy responsible is denying the responsibility. Am confused. Help!!
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4 responses
7 Dec 06
That is a tough one. You have to remember that cheated on you, then lied about it. You also have to look at it from a different way. Maybe she had a one night stand that went wrong, she got pregnant and didn't know how to tell you because she was sorry and didn't want to lose you. I think a one night stand could almost be forgiven and the outcome of it was just a horrible addition. You have to ask yourself if you could forgive a one night stand? Was it that though, or was it a repeated thing? I don't think I could ever forgive her personally (if I was you). If she keeps the baby, you will always see the other man in it which could cause you to resent it. It's a tough one but you have to look further ahead than just now. Good luck.
• United States
7 Dec 06
A one night stand is grounds for the trust in a relationship being damaged. One night stands aren't, in my opinion, forgivable simply because of someone's lack of judgment. If someone is going to cheat, I sure don't want them bringing home whatever diseases they caught with their "one night stand". They can keep it to themselves. If they're going to behave like that, then they deserve to be alone with whatever STD's they get.
@Jshean20 (14373)
• Canada
9 Dec 06
I would leave this girl be. She cheated on you and will most likely do it again. You don't have to have any connection to her at all, the baby is not yours. You owe it to yourself to get out of there and find someone who will appreciate you, you shouldn't have to deal with a cheater.
• United States
7 Dec 06
And you're still with her because??? Look, I know what it feels like to be cheated on. It hurts like He11 and it destroys any trust that was there. If you stay with her, you will forever have that little nagging feeling inside of you that wonders if she's cheating again. Do you really want to live that way? This woman, obviously didn't respect you or the relationship enough to keep from running to someone else. She wasn't happy for whatever reason, but you shouldn't have to bear the brunt of her insecurities. Because of HER irresponsibility, she's now pregnant. It's NOT your responsibility to step in and care for a child you didn't create. You shouldn't have to pay for her err in judgment. Personally, if it were me, I would tell her to go back to the guy who did this and live with him. Once a cheater, always a cheater. I don't care what anyone says. If she did it once, no doubt she'll do it again if the opportunity presents itself.
@msqtech (15226)
• United States
6 Dec 06
You need to go slow with this one and decide carefully dont rush into anything!! You now know she doesnt fully love you. First list all your alternatives. Then list pro and con for each. Then weigh them and make your decision dont hurry into anything. Good Luck to you and God Bless you!!