I need advice, PLEASE HELP!!!!

United States
December 6, 2006 12:29pm CST
My sons father and I have been on and off for 8 years. We have had some good times but mostly bad. Recently I decided that he is not for me, but he now thinks we are meant for each other. He says he will marry me if I loose weight and get down to the size when we first met. What do I do? Stay or stray? What about our son?
5 responses
• United States
7 Dec 06
I'm sorry to hear about your situation, but frankly any man who says "you need to lose weight, dress differently, stop seeing your friends", etc. isn't a very good choice for you. A true man will love and respect you no matter what you look like or how you dress, or anything else for that matter. Your son needs to see his father and that's fine, they'll always love each other, however, I'd be concerned he doesn't pick up his daddy's habits of being overly judgemental of woman. You need to teach him right from wrong on this matter. Good luck to you all.
• United States
7 Dec 06
Thanks for the advice
• India
8 Dec 06
When you have decided to leave i suggest you leave him. Someone who is not ready to accept you the way you are is not worth hanging around with. But i only feel sorry for your son. Hope good things happen for him and he is not affected by this.
@prey15 (221)
• India
7 Dec 06
well ditch the guy and before give him a good beating that lame guy has wasted the golden 8yrs of your life.If it was me I would have walked out the first time a complaint would have come its obvious that he is physically attracted to you and does not love you
@mkup30 (494)
• United States
6 Dec 06
move on and lose the weight for yourself, nobody else. Get in shape and get a better guy! And your son can always have contact with his father of course but it doesnt mean you have to suffer and marry his father! Move on and be happier
• United States
6 Dec 06
My advice to you is do it for yourself. Don't lose weight because he wants you to. Don't go back to him if he wants you to. He needs to accept you for who you are, not what your weight is, etc. Also, go with what your heart feels. If you totally have feelings for him then I'd say give it a try. If you are not in love with him, tell him the truth and move on to someone else. There are too many fish in the sea to be strapped down with this fish. Good luck ;) Most importantly, do what's right for you and what makes you happy ;)