If your parents doesn;t agree with your dream

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Indonesia
December 6, 2006 10:09pm CST
I really want to be a comic maker also a theacher. but my mom obsessed to make her daughter (me and my sister) to become an accounting. T__T I already take mathematric and information tech major at my college (Double degree). I still made my own manag with my team also got part time as Photoshop teacher at my college. Do u have opinion what should I do?I already try to explain my dream, but she said "This is poor job." I can;t debate with her. I love her very much and want to see her smile. Btw, this is my comic. Do U think I able to be good artist?
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@gramaj (451)
• United States
7 Dec 06
Have you taken all your basics? My two children have changed thier minds about thier careers. I think you should keep an open mind and take classes in what makes you happy. Maybe choose classes in both fields and see what intrest you most. Your parents are doin thier best to prepare you for your future. If they believe that you will be more profitable in the accounting field then they will push you in that diection. Explain to them that you have plently of time to explore your options. If they really feel strong about this then maybe you could major one and minor other. You could utilize your talents and intrest to support ($$) yourself now and show them that this is a possible future. Like your part time job, You can't do what they want, this is your choice. Talk with them.
• Indonesia
7 Dec 06
Umh.... she took Math and IT major because she like it. And our parents agree with it. She canceled to take art clas because it is too expensive and she doesn't want to make our parents sad. Thx a lot for Ur sugestion. Sorry she got internet trouble
@rurita (212)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 06
it's hard nee .
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• Indonesia
7 Dec 06
Ahhhh I understand thx. Maybe if I start opic nexct time and U got difficult to answer in English, U can answer it on Indoensian ^^ Thx a lot my best friends ^^
@rurita (212)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 06
waks 0_o if you write with javanese language, i will call my mom to translate it wakakakaak
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• Indonesia
7 Dec 06
I know Ur feeling ne chan.... Maybe we sould proof to our parents that we able to sucsess with our own dream. ganbate yo ne chan.
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• Indonesia
7 Dec 06
Thx..... since you are smarter than me, i think mom and dad like you more than I do. T___T
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• Indonesia
7 Dec 06
thx a lot my lovely sister. hix hix hix
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@diansinta (7550)
• Indonesia
20 Jan 07
there is no wrong to make parents happy... but you can continyu drawing comic book as a hobby.
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• Indonesia
21 Jan 07
Ah I see. BUt yesterday i get new job for manga teacher. lol
@chiegv (112)
• Indonesia
24 Dec 06
never give up.. and draw one story about your mother.. or about your family.. make her proud of you.. show her that you love her so much (even i'm sure you already did, but try more hahah ) make her think "Hey, this wasn't a bad idea at all" btw, your comic is awesome
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• Indonesia
24 Dec 06
ahaha thx a lot. ^^
@toonatoons (3739)
• Philippines
7 Dec 06
parents just want the best for their kids, sometimes in their obsession to, they become blinded to what their children desire. maybe your mom feels that you'd have a better future as an accountant. some parents i know force their children to study nursing, because, well, for financial reasons. but i think, in the end, it's your desires that will make you a fulfilled and happy person. so talk to your mom. let her know that why you want to pursue a different course. let her know just how you feel.
• Indonesia
7 Dec 06
we knew that. ^^ That's why we can't force our dream to them But we start to think a lot and discuss it. As the first daughter my older sis got responsibility to show a way for me. And I hope whatever 'way' that she choose able to make her and our parents happy Thx for Ur comment
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@chiegv (112)
• Indonesia
24 Dec 06
nice dream and NICE COMIC !!!! too... never let go your dream.. Prove it, that's the only way.. Mommy luv you so much,in fact she doesn't want you to get a wrong path of life that do not earn you big money for run the life (that's how most parents think), so prove it you can achieve it.. if you can not... do it as your part time job until it's work ^^
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• United States
7 Dec 06
You have real talent and should use it if drawing and photography make you happy. You might start out doing this on the side along with doing what your mother wants you to do at first until your art develops into a higher paying career for you. Don't stop dreaming. I too love art and didn't get a job drawing, but to help ease the stress of my day job I now work on my artistic side by running my own online shop which features my origianl artwork. This really helps me to unwind and I'm not rich doing it and haven't quit my day job, but I get to be creative. If you want to take a look to see if it might inspire you go to www.geocities.com/attitude_gifts and don't stop dreaming.
@Kaorin (757)
• Australia
7 Dec 06
Ultimately you have to realise that it is your life. Not your mothers. Sure, she might want you to do something in particular as a profession, but are you going to do what she wants and live the rest of your life, hating your profession and despising your mother for making you follow a field of work that did not interest you? I'm assuming that you're an adult. You have to follow what you believe is right for your life, not what your mother thinks is right. x. Sometimes your parents are not going to agree with what you want with your life. But if they love you and support you, they will support your decision. Good luck!
• Indonesia
7 Dec 06
They not always suport us. Umh.... I hope they will support our desire.... we really hope it will happen. Thx a lot
@Kaorin (757)
• Australia
9 Dec 06
I'm sorry that it's that way for you. You need to stand up for yourself if its what you want with your life. I'm hoping that you will get the strength for this!
@wmg2006 (5383)
• United States
24 Mar 07
The comic is very good. Parents do not always see what we see when we are deciding our future. They want success and we want to enjoy what we do. I say continue to try to do what your parent wants, but continue what you enjoy on the side. You may be able to both, let the real job support the desire to be a comic maker.
• Indonesia
2 Apr 07
YEs.. but lately my mom support me to finish my first manga debut^^ BUt shestill dont want to support my second debut
• Indonesia
22 Dec 06
To all responder, thx a lot. my sister (Shireishou) really glad to get a lot of support from all of you. She read all your comment and gave positive rank to all of you. BUt since her connection is very slow, she can;t reply you one by one. But I hope, U will understand. Thx a lot
• United States
24 Dec 06
oh cool, you're her sister? she's really good at drawing comics! what's your dream?
• India
7 Dec 06
if my parents doesnot agree with my dream then i will chang my dream .but it is not possible to parents for doesnot agree with my dream ..they are always agree with me when i want something
@mkirby624 (1599)
• United States
9 Dec 06
if it is your dream, you can't just change it to please someone else. Then it isn't your dream...it is theirs.
• India
7 Dec 06
not possible
• Indonesia
7 Dec 06
hmmmmm Thx for commenting..... But I confused
• India
7 Dec 06
Try to convince your mother with the help of your friends, to whom your mother likes very much. The friend, your mother likes, can convince in better way your planning. You please do not try to insist. Leave it on your friend or relatives to whom your mother also love very much. OK ... they are the best tool to get your problem solved.... in my opinion.
• India
7 Dec 06
IF U BELIEVE IN UR SELF , U R NOT TOO FAR FROM UR GOALS .I PERSONALLY BELIEVE DAT U CHOOSE DA FIELD U R INTERETED IN !!!!!!!!!!!!!AND UR MOM SHOULD UNDERSTAND BOUT UR FEELINGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
• Indonesia
7 Dec 06
She got big doubt in comic career. In our country that career doesn;t have any good prospect at all. Umh.. she also want to become voice talent. But it also doen;t give any good income. It dilematic for us
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• Philippines
7 Dec 06
in my opinion, there's nothing better than having a job wherein you love what you are doing. ur drawings are great, you'd make a really good comic artist. my suggestion would be to maybe apply for a part-time job as a comic artist just to have enough experience and then maybe when you've saved up enough, you can go full time on that or better yet, conceptualize your own comic and start your own company..=)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 06
^^ Thx a lot. but she never confident with her art. She always think that she is a plagiasm. She only follow japanese style and not find her own type Our parents also said same thing and it make her confident drop Thx for your suggestion. We plan that also. ^^ We want to make dubbing studio. ^^ Hope it works. ^^
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• United States
7 Dec 06
Follow your dreams, do what you want to do as it is your life. It's the only way you'll be happy in the end
• Indonesia
7 Dec 06
Thx a lot for Ur advice.... hope she will find her happines too. She is melancolic type. She often cry a lone
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@suren2k6cse (2625)
• India
7 Dec 06
convince your parents.
• Indonesia
7 Dec 06
I did try that.... but I think I failed. Comic maker finance is small here T__T
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@Solja420 (2507)
• United States
7 Dec 06
she dosent own your life do what you wanna do
• Indonesia
7 Dec 06
Thx a lot But they will kill me if I said something like that ^^ Once again thx a lot for Ur advice
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• United States
7 Dec 06
I went to college to be a teacher like my parents wanted me to be. Toward the end it occured to me that it really wasn't my dream in life at all and I quit. Listen to your own heart and not your Mom's. In the end you will follow your dreams no matter what anyone tells you.
• Indonesia
7 Dec 06
Thx for your opinion. Some times I'm afraid my decision is wrong.. T___T
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