how to decide your life partner?

@alienstar (5140)
India
December 8, 2006 5:28am CST
Marriage is an very important event that occurs in a life time...isn't it? now, having decided to marry, how do you go about it? what are all the qualities you expect in the opposite person to be your choice for life partner...share your views here...
6 responses
@VINS_VS (528)
• India
29 Dec 06
I did't decide my partner.Two people who are married to each other; "his second marriage was happier than the first"; "a married couple without love
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@alienstar (5140)
• India
29 Dec 06
What is this....i didn't understand your thing here...you have confused the whole thing here.It is not at all clear what sort of person you are looking for.One thing i am guessing is, you are for love marriage...is it? if it is true, then understanding will be bettr between two people...isn't it? Anyway's, thanks for responding
• Philippines
30 Dec 06
Are you a part of an "arranged marriage"?
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@alienstar (5140)
• India
2 Jan 07
Yes lafavorito.....in my view, one should have love and also arranged marriage and i definitely think this will work out for more people as just arranged marriage might not work for more peopel and also just love marriage also will have problems later .....
• India
30 Dec 06
I think it is better to make the person as a friend and to know about him/her totally before marriage.
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@alienstar (5140)
• India
2 Jan 07
Yes...i believe in your kind of marriage and over this if you succeed in getting yourparents permission for your mariage and get settled in love cumarranged marriage, this will work out for most of teh epopel as i also strongly believein this kind for sure Anyway's, thanks for responding
• United States
30 Dec 06
Your wife should be: 1) Your best friend. 2) Someone whose style of communication works for you. 3) She looks good to your taste. Every relationship has ups and downs for feelings and emotions. When there are no romantic butterfly feelings, then that friendship is what's going to keep you happy with the marriage, and then when the feelings and emotions return, it will be even better.
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@alienstar (5140)
• India
30 Dec 06
Well said and i do agree with your nviews here but like to add some more points here......you should have mutual trust between each others as it is very important in any relationship and one should respect each others decisions and also respect each other for what they are...isn't it? Anyway's, thanks for responding
@utsadetti (4593)
• United States
30 Dec 06
yeah, i select my wife as hard as i can and then i decide to get married.
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@alienstar (5140)
• India
30 Dec 06
Selecting as hard as you can....! what you meant by this now! do you mean to say that you are going to select your wife by looking on to all the positive aspect she has and then decide on whether she is acceptable to you or not...is it this way? anyway's thanks for responding
• Singapore
29 Dec 06
i think you will just know it when he is the one...you know the feeling? when you love the other person so much that you would want to just spend the rest of your life with him...when you love him all the same despite him being at his worst LOL and you want to have his children and to start a family with him....i have some exes that i can never 'see' myself settling down with.
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@alienstar (5140)
• India
29 Dec 06
Yes...if you fall in love with somebody, you might know whether he is the right person for you and that again depends on your capacity of judgement also...isn't it? here judgement will be the main thing because, by falling in love we tend to forget some minor things and ofcourse if you have judged it right, then he definitely is the right person and also you will have a better understanding between each other before marriage itself which will help you on long run isn't it? Anyway's, thanks for responding
• Indonesia
8 Dec 06
maybe i will chooose or decide that my life partner is who the girl with beauty caracter.She is will be my soulmate.
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@alienstar (5140)
• India
8 Dec 06
Hm...good make your choice only once and then fully justify your choice with out keeping anything to repent.When you decide something, decide whole heartedly...this will help you a lot...definitely....All the Best Anyway's, thanks for responding