Putting a spark back into an old marriage

United States
December 8, 2006 7:17am CST
I've been married for 12 years now and the spark is gone - looking for suggestions on how to get the flame lit up again.
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5 responses
• India
8 Dec 06
yes 12 year is long time and for day to day activity we do not get time to her patner . but when u feel that u need a spark in ur life than one- two things u can do 1) remember all his/ her likes just after marraige u come to know . 2) go all the places where u people love to visit just after marriage . 3) spend more time with ur patner as he like . whether u like my opinion or not pl .
• India
8 Dec 06
yes 12 year is long time and for day to day activity we do not get time to her patner . but when u feel that u need a spark in ur life than one- two things u can do 1) remember all his/ her likes just after marraige u come to know . 2) go all the places where u people love to visit just after marriage . 3) spend more time with ur patner as he like . whether u like my opinion or not pl .
@Acts238girl (2088)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Well I've only been married a little over four years ,but alot has changed in that period of time.We had kids.lol I try to do little romantic things for him.Example he used to work secon shift so he got home about 11:25 at night.So anyway,I had him some little notes all over our house.The first one was at the door.It was telling him to come in and take his shoes off and where to find the 2nd note.So he found it.It said for him to go into the kitchen and eat the dinner I fixed him and find the 3rd note.The third note said follow your heart thats where your love awaits.I had little hearts I cut out of paper leading from the kitchen to the bedroom.He actually loved it.Hope I helped.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
8 Dec 06
the best thing i can suggest is trying something new...talk to each other and make it a no holds barred conversation..find out what his fantasy is tell him yours...try new things....never ever be afraid to try new things....do you ever or would yu be able to take a romantic weekend away? take the things that use to bring fire to the relationship and just update it a little...
@katprice (807)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Do you have a "date night" every once in a while with your hubby? Give that a try and hopefully you'll be able to reconnect on a deeper level.