Do you have step children?

@Aali311 (6127)
United States
September 18, 2006 1:16pm CST
How is your relationship with them, do they like you or do they act a certain way to make their parent happy?
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14 responses
• India
19 Feb 07
No i dont have any step children
@1alyssa (758)
• United States
28 Sep 06
i have one and he is nine and we don't get a long at all he is use to being a only child and i came a long with three other children and a lot of rules and he didn't like that at all he is use to doing what ever he wants and not having to go to school if he doesn't want to and i am not having it my kids have a lot of rules to follow and he is expected to follow the same ones it was so bad this kid never had to clean his room until i came around it was always just done for him if i did that for all four kids i would never stop cleaning they are all old enough to pick up after themselves i am not their slaves
• Canada
22 Oct 06
and that is the way that it should be.
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@Aali311 (6127)
• United States
15 Nov 06
I have a nine yr old stepson and a twelve yr old step daughter and tow boys of my own, 1 and 2 yrs og age, it's just crazy, all the difference and jealousy.
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@kfg20012003 (1037)
• India
28 Feb 07
I have step children also...but they don't live with us, but it took time to build a relationship with them....first, dont be her disciplinarian, let her mom do that...she is too old for you to step in and be dad....also respect her emotions...all kids want their real parents to be married and parenting them, so if you are sensitive to this, you may have more understanding and compassion for her...be a friend to her and let her know that you love her mom and her and will be there for them, and that you would love to have a wonderful friendship if nothing else....you also have a little one, right? well, she might feel jealous and left out...show her that being the daughter of your lovely bride, that she is equally important...be kind, loving and patient in the midst of the turmoil and in time, she should come around..mine did..also be very supportive and enthusiastic in her interests and let her know that you have no hard feelings against her father...when i made peace with their mom and told her that i had nothing against her and i am sorry how things worked out for her and her ex, it melted the ice...she is just scared, insecure and jealous now and being the adult, understand that and work hard to overcome them...do something special just for her..maybe flowers and candy for valentines, like you would her mom...yes, it maybe considered bribery...but i call it..reaching out in a way that girls understand...I wish you the best and I think it is great that you care....I hope she does turn around..
@20031969 (934)
• India
28 Feb 07
no
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• Pakistan
17 Feb 07
well luckily i dont have any step$$ at all i am happy in this way it i really in some rare casese tht step$$4 rae happy and are doin greayt a job getting along!!!! it vcan sometimes be hard to understand as mum and dadas always try their level best to be equal loving and caring to all but children dont understand!!!!
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@celray (141)
• United States
17 Feb 07
i have 3 stepchildren and 4 biological they all live with us 6 of them are teenagers and no they do not like me because i am the only one they can not manipulate, so they are always trying to make my life impossible, if it was up to them me and my husband wouldn't be together, i have try to make things fair for all of them but it is never enough for them, and i had it with them.
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@whitish (1409)
• India
22 Oct 06
no
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@sbeauty (5871)
• United States
22 Oct 06
I have 4 stepchildren and 6 step grandchildren. I get along with them in different ways, because all of them have different personalities. I will tell you about the day one of them really hurt my feelings. I had taken the 2 youngest children to a larger town shopping for the day because my husband had to work. We did whatever they wanted, I bought them several things they wanted, and I took them where they wanted to go for lunch. On the way home, my stepdaughter (who was about 7 at the time) sighed and said, "I wish my daddy was still married to my mommy!" Even though I understood, I was crushed.
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@candaceb87 (1362)
• Canada
22 Oct 06
i have step parents not step children. i used to hate my step parents because i wanted my parents to be together but now i love both step parents.
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@sarah22 (3981)
• United States
16 Mar 07
i dont have any step kids but i have step sisters and yes, when they would come over they would act different to waht they did at there house. i think it was just to get there way with there dad.
• China
16 Mar 07
Passed by has a look. I do not have the marriage.Quack!
@devil007 (104)
• India
16 Mar 07
NO i dont have any step children
• United States
15 Mar 07
My step daughter and I get along very well. She started calling me Mom back in 2001 while we were on vacation. She cannot call me Mom in front of her Bio because the woman goes nuts. I love my step daughter very much, as if she was my own child. We talk, cook, craft, play games, bake, shop, ect. together. We gained custody 6 months ago. In some regards, we get along better than her and her Bio Mother. She has written me a poem, telling me that I am her salvation. She claims that I am the only parent that truely cares about her. When you go into a marriage with previous children, you have to treat them as if they are your flesh & blood or there will be major problems.
• United States
7 Mar 07
Yes I have a step daughter. We are very close. I was more of a mother than her own mother.I did everything for her. Now she has 2 kids and I am so very close to them..I love being a grandma...Now that me and hewr dad are sepereated we are still close and she don't want me to go back to him cause she is tired of him always hurting me and her sisters...