Living together is it ok?

@jtexas (527)
United States
September 18, 2006 1:25pm CST
what do you think about living together with someone before marrage? Some say its a sin or is it?
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@MrsFrizzle (1964)
• United States
18 Sep 06
That is up to you. Do you feel it is wrong? I lived with my husband for about 2 months before we got married. I wanted to get married first but my lease was up and the wedding pllans where takeing forever. If you love this person living together is a great test to how being married will be. Some people espicaly older realtives will judge you but do what makes you happy. I belive god gave us all free will to make the choices we choose to make. If you are a good person that is what matters. Why would living with someone you love be a sin? I mean I know some people do think that but that is why it is up to you and your boyfriend! The only thing I would defintly say is if you are just dating you can end it at any time. If you live together and you are both on a lease you are obligated to live together or at least pay half or all of that rent for a year. Just to protect yourself you could get your own apartment if you can afford it and have him stay there but it is your place and your rules. This is what I did when I first moved out. My husband was still in school so he could not get on a lease anyway but he was there a lot and we still had our privacy. Consider all the options. Don't do it just to get out of your parents house or another living situation like that do it because you want to live with this person and make a big commiment!
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@Karinne (1223)
• Australia
4 Oct 06
yes i think it's essential you know their true colours before marriage. Your not commited to each other and can just walk away without getting a divorce or court proceedings over property etc. And if he/she doesn't do their fair share of work around the home boot them out as you will be left doing everything, i know i've been there and done that...
• United States
18 Sep 06
It is totally up to you. I think it is a way to really get to know that person before you step into a marriage. If you and your partner are both okay with it and your family will not dis-own you then, yes, I think it would be okay.
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@chelle350 (136)
• United States
18 Sep 06
Personally I see nothing wrong with it. I lived with my current boyfriend for a year before i got pregnant and I still live with him now and raise our son. It's really no different than being married.
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@SunnyDays (1071)
• Bahamas
18 Sep 06
You do what you feel is right for you - don't think about whether some migt condemn you and your behaviour as a sin . I think it has its advantages to live together before you get married - at least you will have no unexpected surprises and I would always recommend it
@kcrowson (354)
• United States
18 Sep 06
That is a judgement call, and we are not to judge. How do you feel about it? I have mixed feelings about it because in God's eyes it is wrong., but if you love the person and plain on marrying them then I say go for it. It all depends on the person and how you feel. Don't let me or anyone else change your mind. You do whats in your heart!
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@jolamama (92)
• United States
19 Sep 06
I don't think it's a sin. I lived my husband before we got married. How do you know if you can live with someone after you get married if you didn't try it before you were married?
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@jtexas (527)
• United States
4 Oct 06
exactly.
@AndreaM76 (1164)
• United States
19 Sep 06
Living together decreases your chances of marriage. Once you move in together a man thinks he has you there already why get married?
@jtexas (527)
• United States
4 Oct 06
I differ on that opinion. For us we have a plan when we are getting married. I think one of the biggest problems marriages dont last is getting married first before building a home to live together and financially secured.
@Aali311 (6127)
• United States
19 Sep 06
It depends on your beliefs, I think it's ok, whiles others out there might not.
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@engrzia (1020)
• South Korea
5 Oct 06
Afsos how to see urs response. anywyas. u have urs right :) ZIA from pakistan
@jiggin (39)
• United States
4 Oct 06
I think that things change as the world changes. What use to be less acceptable and scene as a sin now is more necessary to prevent worse things like divorce involving children and domestic abuse issues from getting married without knowing what you are getting into.
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20 Sep 06
I don’t really care what ‘some’ people say. A lot of people say a lot of things. At the end of the day you’ll be living with this person (if you get married) for the next forty/fifty years. Spending a year together in the same house out of wed-lock isn’t going to send you to hell, you’re certifying that you’re the right couple for each other.
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@pcw3004 (167)
• Canada
19 Sep 06
Hope its ok, been living with fiance for 5 years, no plans on getting married, I guess we will burn in hell....I am sure we won't be alone.
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@nextgen (1888)
• India
19 Sep 06
as long as u dont have bad intention
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• United States
19 Sep 06
I only can speak for myself. I don't want to live with a man. I don't mind him spending time. I just feel it i to easy to lose focus. Ihave a daughter and want to focus on her best interest. This would not be done unless I were married to him.
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@Sweety76 (1596)
• India
19 Sep 06
very much as long as both are understanding... marriage is nothing but a formal process
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19 Sep 06
I THINK NO PROBS...
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• United States
19 Sep 06
i would never marry someone without living with them first. ive known alot of people who changed once they shared a house with the other person.
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@rachelcaron (1681)
• United States
11 Dec 06
I lived with my husband before we got married. We were already engaged and it just made more sense. I easily found someone to take over my apartment lease, and I was no longer working. I decided to go back to school so it saved us a lot of money to live together.
@jtexas (527)
• United States
13 Dec 06
Congrads and thanks for sharing.
@nishdan01 (3055)
• Singapore
26 Sep 06
I don't think it is okay.You have to keep up the values of society.Again it is better to be in a wedlock.Otherwise if a conflict arises,the two can break up and conflicts can arise.
• United States
4 Oct 06
Values? of which society? Here in the US the divorce rate is like 50% or something. Are those people keeping up the values of the society? I wonder how many of those people might have avoided marriage and a costly divorce if they had just lived a few years together first.
@imlex1 (116)
24 Sep 06
you have to remember that back in the day of 'living under the brush' you lived at home until you got wed,,it is just how it was,women were limited in their options but not so nowadays and if women work,take on bills,mend cars,work in finance for gods sake they leave home well before a man takes them on,,i mean im no feminist but women can do anything now including choosing not to be part of a couple,,the ties that bound no longer exist and with perks come responsibility,times have changed,,,you live under the brush love,,the level of committment is still there if your relationship is real,,and if not,will you move back in with mum and dad,,like hell you will,,
@imlex1 (116)
4 Oct 06
i said,,choose not to be part of a couple,,as in living alone,,i did not mean you had to live with your parents or a man,,maybe read again.
@utsadetti (4589)
• United States
14 Dec 06
Ok in US not ok in Indonesia