Would you marry a girl who confessed she was raped in the past???

Philippines
December 10, 2006 9:51am CST
I can accept a girl who is not virgin anymore but i dont think i can accept a rape victim as my wife and the mother of my child?? what do you guys think, can you swallow your pride??
4 responses
@ondo1015 (1885)
• Philippines
11 Dec 06
My wife is not a virgin when we get married. But she doesn't want to talk about it. I accept her and we got 4 beatiful daughters. Past is past.
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
yeah..now i see now that's what we call love..i getting now your points..past is past..thanks for the comment
• United States
10 Dec 06
why would you not marry someone who confessed something as painful as that to you? and why would you judge her because of that if you love her? It has nothing to do with pride If you see that as a way to decide on marriage then you dont deserve the girl. That is something that would completley upset me. what if you told me you had been to jail before and I told you I couldnt be withyou anymore. that would be selfish and very naieve of me wouldnt it?
• Philippines
10 Dec 06
thats a good point...but sometimes we can do it only in our thoughts but when the real situation pops up in front of us, i don't think men would do it..the social pressure is there...i dunno i might be too immature to say this but i mean if the situation really arises, i couldn't marry the girl.
• Singapore
11 Dec 06
pride? pride should not be in the way when there's love concern. what's the difference if she's not a virgin and if she was a rape victim? she will need you to be there for TLC even more if she's a rape victim...it's not easy to disclose about the hurtful event and if she could tell you about that, it means how much she trust you.
@cisco1 (540)
• United States
10 Dec 06
sorry but for me i will still marry the girl. it doesnt have to do with pride, too me it immature and pretty shallow. im not trying to personally attack you but you ask people opionion about it. It wasnt her fault that she got raped, unlike someone is a not a virgin because she gave her self freely and who know how many time she did.