Partying with your kids

United States
December 10, 2006 1:22pm CST
My aunt who is 40 goes to bars with her son who is 23. she had him when she was about 17. She was never there for them when they were growin up.. she was always partying and drinking and now even when they are older she is still partying and drinking. She promised my grandma today that she would take her out and now she is being lazy and really doesn't want to do it because she has a hangover.My grandma can't go out or anything by herself because her sight is poor and she is in a wheelchair.I had my first son when I was 17 and i don't party or anything. I stay home and take care of my kids. Do you thinks she is wrong for partying with her kids now. My biggest thing is when is she going to ever grow up and be a mom? Do you think she is wrong for partying when her kids were young?
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13 responses
@kawillow74 (1417)
• United States
12 Dec 06
We where also very young when we had our kids I was 17 and know way would I go out and party with them. I to am a stay at home mom my boys are now 15 and 13 2 years ago we started just to go out for New years. With a group of friends and my mom and stepdad keep the boys yes they are now old enough to be by there self but I am not ready for that. And when they are 21 if I am still celebrating new year I would not go out with them. that just don't seem right.
• United States
13 Dec 06
Yeah i know what you mean. I think its important to be a mom and a friend but you gotta know when to draw the line.
@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
11 Dec 06
Since when does "growing up" correlate w/ acting like a mom? My son is 17 & I had him when I was 17-we don't drink or smoke together but we have fun like kids,playing video games,tennis, or just punching each other until one says mercy. Maybe I'll never be a "real mom". Have you considered that her children are grown,they could possibly forgive her for not being there when they were kids & they enjoy the time spent together now.
@remaster74 (4067)
• Greece
11 Dec 06
Ok! You complain about it, and your grandma also. But have you heard her kids complaining at all? Do you know that all children's fantasy is to have a very cool mother, that accompanies them to the pubs and pays for the drinks? May be the route the kids are going to have will prove if she was a good mother or not after all. Let her party as much as she like. Let her children be the judges!
• United States
12 Dec 06
the thing is she don't pay for the drinks her son does. also herk kids raised her she didnt raise her kids!! She lives in her sons apartment and is constantly sleepign with different men from the bars!!!
@taruha (561)
• United States
20 Dec 06
She is surely wrong in partying when the children are young.Partying is to be done in our own friends groups having almost the same age.This adds to the enjoyment and a person an freely enjoy. it is however, best not to indulge in partying activities when children are young,we have to see that they grow up well and once they are on their own,our partying can continue.
@bethack52 (407)
• United States
11 Dec 06
When her kids were young yes!!! They needed a mother not another friend! My mom was the same way and she is afraid to grow up, she needs to grow up!!!!!!! If she has her priorities straight and is handling her business first its cool but it sounds like she is not doing that!
• United States
11 Dec 06
I think your aunt is very wrong she should of stopped partying when she had kids.and actually been their for them and been a mom.personally if she has not grown up by now i dont think she ever will.and it is deffinatly wrong to party with your kids.it does not matter how old they are.i was young when i had my kids but i managed to take good care of them and be there for them i barely get out bymyself but it doesnt matter to me because my priority is being a good mom to my kids.and i deffinatly do not party at all.your aunt should take your grandma where she has to go family should come first so what if she has a hangover it is her own fault.your grandma needs someone to take her out and your aunt should do it.
@linda345 (2661)
• Canada
11 Dec 06
I think she may have a problem with drinking. It is wrong to be partying with your 23 year old son. He needs to have his own friends and she needs to have friends with in her own age group. I know my 20 and 19 year old would be horrified if I went to the bar with them. Why does her son want to go to the bar with his mother?
@sexymuma (1261)
11 Dec 06
i had my first at 17 now i go out partying with my children after staying home to bring them up,so i am doing everything and enjoying it at the same time,xx but your aunt should be there more for your grandmax
@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
11 Dec 06
I am 26 and me and my mom goes out to party sometimes and we always have alot of fun. She was there for me when i was a kid though!
@marciascott (25557)
• United States
11 Dec 06
I would never party with my Children 32 and 33yrs. old. uless it was a family thing. But not out in the streets. My sister does it with her kids.
@sj_chaudhry (1538)
• Canada
11 Dec 06
yes absolutely she was wrong. because at that time her children needed her most, she had to stay with her children atleast their early stage of life.
@jsnapp (137)
• United States
11 Dec 06
She sure isn't being a very good example to her kids. They are learning her bad habits. It is hard to get up and go to work to make a living when hung over all the time. I think she needs to grow up herself and be a good example for her children.
• United States
10 Dec 06
She should of done her partying before she had her children. Her children didn't ask to be here. She is suppose to be her kids mom not their "party friend." It's fine to be a friend to your child but you have to know when to draw the line. You should be able to look up and respect your mother not say hey mom how bad is your hangover!