Why are men so stubborn when it comes to seeing a doctor? I feel he needs to for

United States
December 12, 2006 1:11pm CST
I told my husband now that he's going to be 48 he needs to go for a prostate exam. I'm sure it's painful but i told him if he loves me and his kids and grandsons than he should go. But he won't. When he gets really stressed he starts bleeding from his rectum and his sister who is a nurse told him that it's not good and he won't go,he said it will stop when he calms down. So what should i go besides drug and drag him?
41 responses
@crystal8577 (1470)
• United States
12 Dec 06
I wish I had an answer for you. My DH has been a diabetic for over 20 years, he is only going on 35. He also has heart problems & all ready had to have a stint out in. We have kids who are 5 & 7 1/2. We will have our 3rd baby any day now. It is like trying to pull teeth to get him to take care of himself. There have been times when I have actually cried over this. I can't understand why we are not important enough for him to take care of his health.
• United States
12 Dec 06
Congrats on the baby,let me know what you have. My husband is also epileptic and he at least takes his meds. But i know he works hard but he's always tired so i don't know what to do.
• India
13 Dec 06
congradulation for the baby
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
12 Dec 06
Men are afraid of not being in control. He really needs to go. Is there anyone else that could convince him? I am afraid if you want him to go it is going to be by dragging him.
• United States
13 Dec 06
I couldn't agree more! My brother in law is the same way! Have to drag him to the doctor.
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
12 Dec 06
if he won't go to the doctor, maybe have a doctor come and see him. i know it's not usually practicable but if you have a relative doctor or a close-friend, this could be the solution. this is how i get my dad get treated. it's so hard to convince him to go for a checkup even if he's already physically uncomfortable about something. but once my uncle doctor visits him and sets him an exam schedule, my dad can't do anything but go to the clinic for the appointment. men are just stubborn sometimes :)
@kokopelli (4842)
• United States
13 Dec 06
hey jimbo! i'm not yet used to the new avatar, hehe. yep, you guys are stubborn, u gotta admit that :)
@gnt23tr (1015)
• United States
13 Dec 06
it has to go,,
@Brandi06 (2228)
• United States
13 Dec 06
thats the way mine is too
• United States
13 Dec 06
All men are like this and i do not know why it does not matter what you do they still wont go their pigheaded.try and talk to explain to him that his bleeding could be serious and you want him to go because you love and care about him and are worried about him.
• India
13 Dec 06
THEY ARE STUBBORN BECAUSE THEY ARE MISER. THEY DONT HAVE HEART TO SPEND MONEY ON DOCTOR
• India
13 Dec 06
its not the case with all men. it depends on person to person. the case u ve told cannot be generalised.
• Canada
13 Dec 06
My husband hates the doctor too. He's been putting off going for 4 years now since he doesn't have a family doctor of his own. He finally went a couple of months ago for an x-ray of his lungs as he is having trouble breathing and they sent him for a CT scan since they found something on it. He had that done 3 weeks ago and was told that the results will take 2 weeks to get back, he hasn't heard anything and he doesn't want to call to find out. I can't get the results since I am not him. It's frustrating!!!
• India
13 Dec 06
Im afraid men will be men and they will probably be stubbord all the while
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
sounds like the family needs to gang up on him in a manner that won't appear hostile to him. If appealing to his love for you and the grandkids won't make him go for the exam then maybe you can have a doctor talk to him. I'm sorry I''m not much help. My dad is also a stubborn fellow whom we've never been able to force to see a doctor. Good luck with that.
@wlctrent (58)
• United States
13 Dec 06
Yes, that is a very tough situation. One that I myself am in. My husband is having some medical problems that is causing him pain and it's been going on for years now. He refuses to see a doctor even though it is getting worse. No amount of talking or begging will get him to go. I guess it will take an emergancy to get him to go. Hopefully, you can talk some sense into your husband before it gets real serious. Good luck!
@saibal06 (2575)
• India
13 Dec 06
Sea Monster - Monster
Well.. I think you need to talk to him seriously and make him convinced.If he is convinced then he will go surely. prostate is a serious disease and it needs serious attention. If your hubby is convince on his sister's advice better make him sit with a doctor of medicine or a good surgeon who will give him a true picture. Thank you enjoy mylot presence.
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
13 Dec 06
My husband is the same way. I think you should just make an appointment for him for a general physical. The rectal bleeding sounds like it could be stomach related. It can be a sign of ulcers, hemorrhoids, cancer, parasites, or a number of other things but he should get it diagnosed and treated. Good luck.
• United States
13 Dec 06
Men are just as scary as women when it comes to certain things. Men dont want bad news especially not concerning their health. If it threatends their masculenity then they want no parts of it.
• United States
13 Dec 06
Mom, I can try talking to him. Maybe If I sit in the waiting room with him so he is not a lone he will go? I'd even bring the boys! Georgie would die without his Papa!!
@nazsajid (63)
• Canada
13 Dec 06
you just try to make him realize about bad effect of the problem
@cclay34 (486)
• United States
13 Dec 06
Going to the doctor means they may find out something is wrong, Finding out something is wrong means you are getting older, getting older means your not the strong virile man you used to be, not being the strong viril man you used to be, means you are becoming weak and helpless.......... its a man thing, ego, virility and all that stuff
• India
13 Dec 06
The only thing you can do is - Call a protate specialist to examine your husband and convince him about the upcoming bad results.
@JoeyCa (1810)
• Belgium
13 Dec 06
Well, many people are afriad of the chance that they might get some kind of bad news. I don't like doctors and hospitals either :-p xx