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I love my husband and before our daughter was born he totally lived up to my expectations but after she was born, not so much. I mean I expect love, honesty, compassion, patience, help around the house, help with raising our daughter... It's the last two that he really has trouble with. He does not do anything inside the house including anything regarding our daughter unless I ask him. that makes me angry. Why should I have to ask him to take an active role in raising our daughter or keeping the house in order. He knows that our daughter has homework every night and vocabulary that she has to study but if I don't say anything he won't help her with any of it or make sure that she does it. Then he gets mad because our daughter doesn't view him as an autority figure. I told him that in order for her to view him as one, he needed to act like one. He thinks it is my fault becasue I stayed home form work with her. As far as the house goes, he says he will take care of the outside but that I need to take care of the inside. the problem is he doens't do much on the outside. He spends most of his time in his garage doing what he want to do. And I wouldn't mind taking care of the inside if he would at least pick up after himself. So in some ways I am disapointed and in other ways I am thrilled. I mean he is really good to me and give me massages when I am sore, he will do anything that I ask him to do, he makes me laugh, he does do quite a bit of the cooking and he really is a good guy. I just wish he would take a more active role in the parenting. I think it is hard to completely live up to expectations and I know I don't live up to all of his but we communicate pretty well and that helps us get through the hard times.