What would you do?

United States
December 15, 2006 3:18pm CST
Okay, my daughter is really sick with strep throat right now, and both my girls need to go to the dentist. My husband and I pay 220.74 per month for medical insurance on my girls, and well now his company no longer has dental. So the dentist tells me that they need payment upfront for services before they can see the girls. So I call their real dad...he calls me back, and I told him what was going on and I asked if he is sure that he sent the child support payment in....... Here is a little background... My ex is over 18,000.00 behind on child support. He has made a total of maybe 7-10 payments in almost 7 years. He just swore up and down last week that he sent something in. I was a single mom most or our 6 year marriage, because he would stay for a few months and then gone again. I was a full-time single mom, held a full-time job, and for about a year I also went to college full-time after we totally split in 2000. In 2004 I married my husband now,and well I'm aggrivated. My husband was paying 700 a month for his own son, plus helping take care of my two,and my ex won't do anything! ...And the story continues: So I ask him (my ex) if he really sent the payment in because we could really use it right now for the oldest daughters meds, and both the girls need to go to the dentist. My oldest had a tooth that had a filling in it break in half, and my youngest has a puss pocket on her gum. So he has the nerve to say "That's what was so important?" I was like, Hello these are our kids I'm talking about!!! What is more important? So he proceeds to lie and say he gave the support office a payment last Thursday, and that there is nothing he can do so deal with it! ..UGGH talk about being upset...My husband now cares more about my children then their own father does. I'm just so sick of this and I wish he would just help out once in awhile. I would be happy with 20 bucks a month. At least then it would show that he cares, and is making an effort! Also I called the support office, they haven't received anything. What would you do...I need all the advice and help I can get on this one.
2 responses
• United States
15 Dec 06
get in touch with the court that he is supposed to be sending the money...or your lawyer. Only they can really help you with the weight of the law behind them. My ex knows I won't hesitate to take him to court if he mucks with me. He can snipe all he wants, but he gives the checks like he is supposed to!
• United States
15 Dec 06
Thanks for the response the problem here is everything has to go through the enforcement office...which I called today to find out what they were going to do...because they had previously put something against his credit, then took his license and threatened to send him to a work release program behind bars...well they never did that and then he conned the last caseworker into believing he would pay if she put a stay on his license and gave it back...she did and he made 1/2 a payment a month after the agreement and nothing since...He has had his license back since May.... The lawyers here want a 1500.00 upfront retainer to take him back to court...not counting their hourly charge... Thanks for posting!
@nhtpscd (1418)
• Australia
16 Dec 06
My thoughts are with you. It is sad to read this type of thing over and over. I am lucky I am not living in your country. All the huffing and puffing will not change the pattern of non paying dads or moms. My best advice is to make a budget for the future and put a little emercency money away for next time. I don't know if you have any other systems like legal aid or free legal advice services you can talk to.
• United States
16 Dec 06
well if there is a child support order through the court and he is not paying he is violating a court order. Thios is contempt of court and illegal. Call suport inforcement and they will sent out a contempt order. If he doesnt pay a lump sum after that or come to an arragement that he will be sitting in jailuntil he does. Ususally the guy comes up with the money. good luck