my girlfriend, her sister, and me

France
December 19, 2006 4:57am CST
My problem is very grave. I have been in a relationship for about one year now with a very nice girl. We get along well and have a good time. We are serious and thinking of marriage. However, I feel that I've made the wrong decision. That is, I've chosen the wrong sister. It is her younger sister, whom I've been friends with for almost a year, that I want to be with. I think she--the sister--wants me, too. It would be wrong to marry my girlfriend and covet her sister. Would it be wrong to pursue the sister? This is a difficult decision for me, because it will affect so many people. Please help.
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@lucsct (261)
• United States
20 Dec 06
Well, first of all, break up with your current girlfriend. You shouldn't be with her, she deserves better than you if you're lusting after her sister. Second, find someone else. It's just gonna be a pain and a lot of suffering for everyone if you pursue her sister. If her sister is any good as a human being, she will reject you. If she takes you.. what kind of person chooses a man that has been dating her sister for a year over her own sister?
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• Indonesia
20 Dec 06
Well, I think you have to be honest with your own feeling. Just take a moment and think with your clear brain and heart. After you have your decission, just stick with it, and start your new life with your chosen girl. Just remember: don't walk in two ships. Good luck, I hope you will have the right decission.
@psyd_1 (470)
• Philippines
20 Dec 06
yah, i agree with her..u have to think it first...good luck man!
@19171556 (25)
• China
20 Dec 06
it just requst to you. say the truth to her,
• India
20 Dec 06
ya i completely agree with him and one more thing if u really love her then tell her sister tht i hv engaged with ur sister frm a yr and so.and we r too serious abt our relationship so i cant help u out so u have to undrstand the situation and i guess she will undrstand the situation
@medooley (1874)
• United States
20 Dec 06
My opinion... move on. Find a different girl. I think that nothing good can come from this. Definantly do not marry the girl and then try to be with her sister... that is a reciepe for disaster. If you break it off with the girl, and try to start up something with the sister, you man turn the sisters against each other, and that would not be good either. Move along fella.
• China
20 Dec 06
I think u really have enoug encoutage
@susana25 (341)
• Philippines
20 Dec 06
It's very complicated, but all you can do is choose one,follow your heart and think for the consenquence of what you will decided. If u will choose any of them (for the 2 sister) choose one that you love,because anything you decide no matter what you can still hurt one of them or both of them... so be wise...
@tanya6 (333)
20 Dec 06
let both of them go have a break and rethink your situation i mean do you really want to hurt your current girlfriend by leaving her and then jumping straight onto her sister in my book sisters tend to stay faithfull to each other so if i was you i would get out there and meet new girls maybe you just think you like her sister as you havent had the chance to be with other women in a care free way and then if after say 3 months you still feel you want to be with the sister or maybe your girlfriend again then go for that but remember they may move on from you too.
@kulpreet1 (116)
• India
20 Dec 06
See marriage is a lifetime decision. U take your time and then decide Dont make any hasty decision
@djbtol (5498)
• United States
20 Dec 06
Oh yea, I suggest you get out of town now. You are going to hurt a lot of people. Most likely the two sisters will end up as enemies. Make sure you understand why you want they younger - is it just her bod?
• Malaysia
20 Dec 06
I think all forbidden things are sweet, as you can't start a relation with her sister that is why you feel attracted to her. it is normal human feeling, people normaly likes to get thing that it is difficult to have it. to be in safe side i can tell you to leave both sisters, and find a new g/f, i am sure you don't want to break their hearts. by the way does her sister know you are interested in her??????????? try to hide ur feeling never show it up next time try to control your feelings. and pick one otherwise you will never get normal relation coz you will jump from girl to another. cheers
• India
20 Dec 06
man u r in a mess!!i think u r in love with her sster.then when did u start loving her elder sister??u r attracted to both now make a proper decession with whom do u want to spend ur life with.life is not about switching partners but maintaing constant partner.
@archabu (205)
• India
20 Dec 06
MY OPINION IS LEAVE THEM BOTH AND FIND ANOTHER GIRL. LOL
• Spain
20 Dec 06
Get out of there. You are at risk of hurting too many people. To break up now would be a wise move and not go out with the other sister. You could break up a family here. If you think you really love this other sister then do the right thing and leave them both alone. If you are meant to be together, it will happen at a later date, until then have the decency to walk away.
@lamuel (19)
• Nigeria
20 Dec 06
please you have no problem only you is your problem,just think right and it will be ok ,tell that girl of or tell the sister if you have no hidden agenda
@meljessxena (2317)
• Australia
20 Dec 06
i think it is wrong to be hurting your girlfriend, if your inlove with the sister well you should not marry your girlfriend and you need to sit down and talk to your girlfriend about this.
@bindishah (2062)
• India
20 Dec 06
What i think you should do is first of all break up with your girlfriend if you do not really love her. It is not fair to her to be in a relationship with a guy who does not love her but her sister. Second of all I do not think you should pursue her sister; you will just land up causing trouble for all 3 of you. It would hurt your gf tremendously and would spoil her relations with her sister.
• India
20 Dec 06
Forget about the sister dude go marry your girl friend .Convince her .Thats the only way.
@hcprasad (1013)
• India
20 Dec 06
If you have enough resources from all angles, marry both.
• United States
20 Dec 06
Man are you screwed, well, all I can say is listen to your heart, who do you feel yourself with? She is your answer.
• India
20 Dec 06
It is a shame! You falling for the elder sister first and then eyeing the younger one! How could you ever do it? This shows that you are very fickle minded. You should have broken the relationship with the elder one as soon as you felt something different for the younger one - but now, it looks you have playing the 'good' person to both of them and even taken the elder one as far the topic of marriage! C'mon! You are not for both of them. Sorry to be so curt, but I feel for the sisters!
@cheongyc (5075)
• Malaysia
20 Dec 06
It's definitely difficult desicion to make. But i think you know both of them for about 1 year rite? I think you must be attracted by your current girl friend by some of her character when you first met her. Try to remember back the sweet moment when being together. You might have fantasy about her sister coz you haven't really engaged her. She might like you but she might be showing the hostipility towards you as her sister's boy friend. She might turn out to be different after she become your girl friend. Then it would be too late and you will regret about it. Besides, i think it is very wrong to switch to your gf's sis. At least i think you should avoid doing it. It's so cruel. Your current gf will resent her sister for doing this. So, if you really feel like not being together with your current gf. Then break up with her. Get lost for some time but keep in touch with her sister. And see how it goes. But i strongly recommend that you think twice, and don't have to do this. Hope this help and Good luck!