Common reasons for breakup of a marriage.

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@anonvenu (401)
India
December 21, 2006 10:09pm CST
According to you what is the most common reason for the breakup of a marriage?
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29 responses
• United States
22 Dec 06
The number one cause of divorce is MARRIAGE...LOL.........
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@anonvenu (401)
• India
22 Dec 06
Very funny.... But seriously what do you think is the number one reason?
• Malaysia
24 Dec 06
the #1 cause of divorce is when people giving up on trying. Then they started to re-evaluate and see things differently. They are the same person, but because they have given up on trying to make a marriage work, they see the spouses as a different person all togther,they will claim they have the same feelings, but "things" are the one that change. Sounds famliar?
@indiranaik (1525)
• India
24 Dec 06
doubt
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@anonvenu (401)
• India
5 Jan 07
Yeah,Trust is most important to carry any relation forward. Doubt eliminates Trust.
@mkirby624 (1599)
• United States
23 Dec 06
Well, you could say cheating, abuse, etc. But really, I think the most common cause for a divorce is the fact that the couple weren't really in love in the first place. They eventually figured it out and got tired of trying to make themselves love someone that they never loved to begin with.
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@anonvenu (401)
• India
8 Jan 07
Very interesting point of view. Maybe people are built in such a way that they can never be satisfied completely with anything.
• India
22 Dec 06
misunderstanding also a commom reason
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@anonvenu (401)
• India
22 Dec 06
Yes, misunderstanding and mistrust can wreck a marriage in no time.
@mansha (6301)
• India
22 Dec 06
I think its breaking down of communication channel between partners. They start walking around the house full of eggshells and smallest of dialouges start the battle of words- words hurt most and you can not take them back ever or erase them from memory. If this situation is let out of hand you are bound to split one fine day.
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@anonvenu (401)
• India
22 Dec 06
Thanks, I agree with you. Both partners should forget and be forgiving of each others short commings and should not go in to verbal battels over these things. As they say 'words can hurt more than swords'.
@alienstar (5140)
• India
22 Dec 06
Marriage will be successful only when two people are loving each other more and more and trust and understanding should b emaximum between the couplea orelse, every chance of breaking is high and last of all, they should have mutual respect for each other....what do you think of my views here? am i talking sense here?
@anonvenu (401)
• India
22 Dec 06
You are making a lot of sense. Yes unless and until both the partners respect each other, a marriage can’t last long
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@atulperx (735)
• India
22 Dec 06
mostly love marriage go for these cases either they don't able to know each other in right manner or main things is man and women suffer from doubts always and after thy starts blaming to each other and divorce take place .
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@anonvenu (401)
• India
22 Dec 06
I don't think so. I would say love marriages last longer.
• United States
29 Dec 06
A lot of times I think they just grow apart and just don't feel like trying to mend their marriage again. And once that marriage starts to move apart (the two people) a lot of people cheat, which is a huge reason for divorce.
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@wmg2006 (5383)
• United States
29 Dec 06
There are SO many different reasons for a marriage to break up. The most common is just falling out of LOVE, they call this irreconcilable differences which just means two people no longer see eye to eye on things. one has matured and the other one hasn't. Each party took a different route in life. Whatever the reason it all has to do with LOVE
@mythmoh (3986)
• United States
22 Dec 06
ego clash,lack of understanding,not forgiving other's mistakes,level of expectancy from other is higher and hence if he/she doesn't meet it..leads to frustartion and the wordy fights.
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@maio19 (81)
• Thailand
5 Jan 07
I think the most common reason is Financial. I know may couples separated because of this. Another one is Growing and maturing at different rates in the marriage.
@anonvenu (401)
• India
8 Jan 07
You know you probably have a very important point here "maturing at different rates". Ancient Indian scriptures prescribe that in a marriage the woman must be younger to the man, the ancients knew more then they reveled I guess. Studies have shown that a women matures faster than a man both mentally and physically, maybe the ancients precribed the difference in age just to compensate for this!!!
@koh2007 (341)
• Singapore
17 Feb 07
i think the most common reason for breakup of a marriage is the breaking of trust in the couple.. :)
@ruknaa (408)
• India
17 Feb 07
breakdown of communication.... partners over time tend to drift apart and stop sharing
@dfinster (3535)
• United States
27 Jan 07
I think one of the biggest reasons for a marriage breaking up is money & finances. It puts stress on every area of your marriage like..you argue because money is short for bills..you both work more..you see each other less to do this..you see less of each other o there's less communication which leads to misunderstandings then walking on eggshells so you don't argue..and things seem to just keep going from there.
• India
27 Jan 07
The most common reason for the breakup of a marriage is lack of maturity to forgive a person. If Forgiveness is there, any relationship is saved.
@desiret (2124)
• Italy
20 Jan 07
some causes are: character incompatibility, unfaithfulness of one of the two, meddler relatives, money, too much work and career... i think these are enough
@hazelle (134)
• Philippines
20 Jan 07
I am not married, but I think its the me attitude these days, everyone is so focused in getting what they want, what they deserve, etc. that they no longer think of the ramifications of what they want could do to their marriage, to their family or to their children if any. I think the accessibility of divorce also helps in breaking up marriages instead of sticking it out and trying to figure out how to fix their marriage, couples turn to the "easy" way and have a divorce. But really if you yourself was not able to stand up to your commitment during your marriage, how can you expect other people to be that committed?
• India
17 Jan 07
most common reason is mis understanding which is given by other person who was not happy from there marriage
• United States
8 Jan 07
Happy marriages take a lot of work. People just give up to easy, and look for the negatives in eachother.
@zakhir (50)
• Mauritius
8 Jan 07
I think its mostly because people tend to idealize their partners. We have to realise that each and every of us has his / her qualities and deficiencies, nobody is perfect. Also, marriage is a great test: a test of patience, of attention, of the ability to listen to unspoken words, of self-control, of mendin one's faults, of healing the wounds. Know the meaning of silence, the power of a touch, the complicity of a shared glance, the pleasure in a smile and the kindness found in being attentive. I have posted something on this topic recently, plz have a look.