When you get irritated with someone

Philippines
December 22, 2006 3:42am CST
What do you do when you get irritated with someone especially your spouse? In my case I tend to just keep quiet and rarely do I become combative. Do you think one should argue or hit back? My point is, someone has advised me that when one is on fire, the other should be water. What do you think?
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@sunnypub (2130)
• United States
23 Dec 06
I have to agree with HouseKat. You shouldn't let things bottle up inside of you. If someone irritates you should let them knwo but only once you can talk calmly and rationally. You will get nowhere if you just end up in a huge fight. My husband and I used to have a talk once a month to discuss things that irritated us about the other. Sometimes that was waiting too long so now if one of us irritates the other we let them know in that same day, after we have calmed down. Communication is one of the most important things in a relationship.
• Philippines
23 Dec 06
I think you are right, but if you have lived with each other for many years, more or less you already know each other's pet peeves and sensitivities. And sometimes you just know that arguing with your mate leads you nowhere so better to wait for 'peace time' to voice out your concerns. haha
• India
28 Dec 06
Yes i will get irritated of the persons who will try to follow my girl friend and who will propose to my girl friend.I really get irritated of such persons.
• India
23 Dec 06
i get irritated when people are double standards.
• India
23 Dec 06
Well I really get irritated when someone asks me a lot of questions may it be my girlfriends,my mom or my room mate.So it becomes very diddicult for me to handle such a situation.So I loose my temper and yell at them or leave the room.
@moneymind (10521)
• Philippines
23 Dec 06
that seems to be very practical, fire and water. me i will make myself as far away as i can to the said person till i settle down. greetings. : )
• United States
22 Dec 06
I loose my temper, and then I shut up and stew. I agree with you though, as the fire water would work better.
• United States
22 Dec 06
We tend to bicker, but its rare when we actually fight yell scream type. I sometimes keep quiet, but its rare that i do that lol I am not sure about the when one is fire & the other water..