My sister is a Lesbian and she wants me to tell our parents

United States
September 25, 2006 7:15am CST
My sister recently came out to me and has been dating a female for the last 8 months. Thay are very happy and are considering hjaving a marriage type ceremony in a year or two. She wants to tell our family but is very nervous. She told me she is to scared to tell them and that she wants me to. I said no way I can not do that. What do you think? How should she tell them?
19 responses
• United States
26 Sep 06
she should sit down your parents and talk to them and let them know whats going on
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@chalmette69 (3007)
• United States
26 Sep 06
Wow, it would be very hard for her, but better for her to tell them than you, I think she can only do one think, just come right out and tell them, that is the best thing she can do, they will be upset, but if they are good parents, they will love her no matter what. Good luck.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
25 Sep 06
I think that you should go with her when she tells them. I know it will be hard for her to do, but with you by her side she can do it. Your parents will prefer to hear it from her than from you.
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@aphrodisiac (1010)
• India
25 Sep 06
i guess you should help her letting your family know..
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@Deja88 (113)
• United States
25 Sep 06
Wow, I don't know what I'd do if I had to tell my mom I was lesbian. (Im not by the way) .. but if it happened, I wouldn't even know where to begin. I guess I'd tell em I needed to know I had their support through anything first off...Wait...first off I would find out what their opinion is on lesbian/bi/gay relationships...then ask for their approval of support through anything...then gradually let it out.
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@queeny86 (60)
• Romania
25 Sep 06
Try to open the subject without telling them about your sister from the first time, and in this time try to change they way of thinking by motivating this kind of relationships and telling them some advantaje who ever are this, also find out the reaction buy a stupid question like "How you would react if you daughter is involved?" analisate the reacion of bought and if is good continue and if not calm down and try to tell them in parts. I think in this way will work... now you know better your perents.
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@perkelvin (264)
• Nigeria
1 Oct 06
my adviseto you s to take your sister for a serious delivrance cause your sister is in for destruction good luck
@bwakjira (445)
• Ethiopia
10 Oct 06
Tell ur sis that no one can do her homework!! If she is in love with her mate she have to pay all the payments. And the least is to tell her parents.
• United States
3 Oct 06
I would make her do the dirty work herself, she should just come right out and tell them, if that is what makes her happy she shouldnt worry about what they think
• India
10 Oct 06
its very difficult but u have to tell them soon otherwise if they find it out by any other means they would be dissapointed a lot
@skittlez353 (1402)
• United States
30 Sep 06
I think it`s her life and her decisions. If she`s responsible enough, she should be the one to tell them herself. It would make a lot more sense. Of course, they might take it hard at first but it would be easier to accept if it was coming from her, most likely.
• United States
10 Oct 06
I dont know the best way to tell your parents, but I wouldnt wait to long to do it, I can see why your sister may be scared but I dont think it is up to you to tell the family. myself I would offer to stand with her and show my support when SHE tells the family.
@dollar669 (569)
• Canada
19 Oct 06
I wouldnt do it for her but maybe offer to be there as her support system when she does tell them, and just make sure she lets them know its nothing to do with them, this is just what makes her happy
@linkpointe (1003)
• Philippines
20 Oct 06
If you belong to a family of professional and very straight one, i think, you'll be having a hard time to tell them about your sister's situation. It is not easy to break such news. Families won't accept such predicament that easily. It will cause them pain. Pain that can lingers on. depending on how can your sister cure it. Actually, I have a sister who told us once that she is a lesbian. That hurts my Mother and other siblings the most. But id id not. because I know and i believe in my feelings that she is just trapped with what kind of circle of friends she's dealing with. I know for a fact that she is a late bloomer to fight for the identity crisis. I for once have encountered this, and was able to fought it. I was born to be a woman, and i must live up to it. I lvoe being a woman. They lack something...they lack confidence in themselves, and that you need to support your sister to regain it back. Talk to her always. Talk to her the way you want to say how you feel. Talk to her what is the real world. The reality of the real world. Take her closer to HIM and give her time to meditate about what she really wanted to be. I know sooner, she'll find the right direction that God has designed for her.
• United States
29 Sep 06
why not offer to be there with her but it is her responsiility to tell your parents..
@cooltj89 (387)
• India
25 Sep 06
I think you should try and explain your sister not to be a lesbian....sounds hard....but should try it out.....its better not to tell your parents....she should rather run with her partner and u must tell your parents that she ran away with your boyfriend....coz i think the people arent ready for lesbian or gay marriages.....wht do u say?atleast it wont hurt the feelings of anyone......NO OFFENSE INTENDED
@blessonje (1651)
• India
26 Sep 06
i dont have such an experience ...so i am sorry
@Schubler (1525)
• Romania
25 Sep 06
This is hard... very hard!!! My opinion is that you have to tell them very soon because if they find out from another source things will get worst... I don`t know how to advice you to tell them never been in this kind of a situation... but it`s better to act fast if things are these serious!!!
@AndreaM76 (1164)
• United States
25 Sep 06
she shouldn't make this a burden for you...if your mom and dad are supportive people then chances are they probally will be shocked or maybe even not. especially if it's a behavior she's portrayed over the years. She needs to clear the air and it's not fair to put you on the spot just because she is scared.