Mom, Why are you doing this to me?
December 23, 2006 9:57pm CST
My mom has left me home alone for christmas. She is gone out of town to visit with her friends family. I told my mom that I didn't want to go because I don't know anybody down there and that I'd rather be with my own family but I was really just saying that because i dont like her friend and if her family is anything like her god help us all. My mom's family lives like 10 hours away so we can't go see them. I had the option of going to my dad's family christmas party but I don't really get along with most of them. But I have my sister and niece to visit. My dad went out and bought us a huge turkey and last week she gave it to her friends mom. She said "When am i going to have time to cook it" I told her that my sister and I could have cooked it and she just told me "well it's too late now" When she's around her friend she's different and not in a good way. My older sister and I despise this friend of our moms and do not like our mom hanging out with her. i know you are probably thinking well its your moms life she can pick her own friends. and thats true but its just like mothers picking their childs friends. if a friends a bad influence your parents dont want you hanging out with them. and this woman is a bad influence. Not too long ago my mom brought my niece over to her friends house for the night and my moms friend went to the bar and brought a guy home. like who does that when theres a 4 year old in the house? she's young but still. yes its her house but she could have atleast waited until my niece wasnt there. anyways so my mom got my niece dressed and left and swore that she would never ever talk to her friend again after that. yeah right the next day she was back talking to her. so thats what pushed my sister over the edge now my sister doesnt want my moms friend in her house ever again. and my mom still brings her there to piss of my sister. an if trish says anything when my mom and her friend go there my mom tells her off. come one my sisters 22 years old and pays her own rent, she has the right to not allow someone in her house. This town is small 1000 people max. so whenever you do something within mintues everybody knows. Everybody in town knows all about my moms friend and they can not stand her either. She calls the fire department all the time for fake emergencies, she calls the police to come all the way up to town for nothing. not once has she called for an actual emergency. they all laugh at her. I guess I'm the one to blame for all this though i was the one who wanted my mom to meet her. i thought she seemed like a nice person so when i was gone to Toronto for march break in 2003 my cousin introdued them. Things were alright until they started to get really close. then i could see right through her and could see how much of a liar she really is. she has a different guy at her house everynight she uses them for their money then kicks them out. Everyword that comes out of her toothless mouth is a lie. She's scamming child tax benefit shes claiming to have a 16 year old son and hes just not in school. the only son she has is in his twenties and cant stand her either i guess thats why me and him are so close. But anyways my mom beileves everything she says and if we say anything bad about her she gets pissed of and says "well find than, i'll pack my bags and leave and you'll never have to deal with it anymore." like come one she'd leave her own kids for a person like that. I still cant believe she left me alone for christmas i atleast thought she'd tell her friend she changed her mind and wanted to spend time with her kids, but no she went away anyways. When she's not talking to her friend she's the best mom in the world she'd do anything for us, but then when she starts talking to her again she yells at me and takes fits for nothing. the other day she even told me you and your sister better learn to accept my friend or i'll leave and never come back. What kind of mother tells her daughter something like that. I'm a good kid, if she asks me to do the dishes i agree without any hesitation. If she asks me to do some laundry, i do. My room is always clean. I get good grades in school. like why would she wanna leave me? it doesnt seem like i'm doing anything wrong. The only thing i give her attitude about is this friend of hers and that is just because i care about her and dont want her friend to drag her down and do something she might regret. i'm only looking out for her. I just wish she would snap out of it and realize what a big mistake shes making. i dont know how much more of this i can take. I keep telling myself "2 more years and your out of here." but 2 years here seems like an eternity.
24 Dec 06
hey hey hey.. go easy on her .. she's your mother. have you tried sitting with her talking about this ? maybe you are thinking you a perfect child and expect the same from her.. maybe she thinks otherwise ? i think there is a big communication gap here.. Pls talk to her..it'll help,trust me.
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24 Dec 06
my sister and i have tried talking to her but all she seems to care about is her friend. its hard to talk to her when she's either gone all the time or takes fits at us when we are just trying to explain how we feel. thanks for your response i'll try talking to her again, but i doubt it'll do any good.