please suggest what to do..

India
December 24, 2006 1:45am CST
me and my cousin are in love and are seriously committed to each other...now we want to get married but we dont know how to approach our parents..because we are cousins and our parents would not agree to our relationship...please help us ot...what should we do...
4 responses
@harshadod (858)
• India
24 Dec 06
You have mentioned your age as 78 in your profile. Correct it, if it is wrong. Regarding the question at hand, you love your cousin and I take it for granted that you are a Hindu. In certain Hindu communities, you are allowed to marry cousins, who are from different paternal lineage. That is you can marry your maternal uncle's daughter or paternal aunt's daughter. Consanguineous marriage has a n increased risk for some autosomal recessive diseases. If you have taken everything into consideration, go ahead and marry the one you love. I know quite a few people who have had Consanguineous marriage and are happy with what they have done. Its your choice.
• India
24 Dec 06
thankyou for the response....well we are muslims....and he is my dad's sis's son....
• India
24 Dec 06
I do not know of the muslim laws, but I have made other points clear. If you can be happy with him at any point of time, irrespective of any circumstance, go ahead and do what your heart tells you.
• India
24 Dec 06
Thank you...ofcourse i will be with him through out my life....
• India
24 Dec 06
if u belong to hindu family then it is really difficult and even if you get married your social acceptance will be veru low
• India
24 Dec 06
no...we are not hindus...we are muslim...please suggest..
@cheongyc (5075)
• Malaysia
24 Dec 06
I think cousin should not encounter, if you have offsprings, high chances that you will have genetically defect babies, either heart defect or mentally retarded. That's the reason behind why we could marry with direct family member or close relative. Cruel to say, it would be wise to stop this relationship. I still it's ok if you promise not to have a kid in the future. Be responsible, you won't want to have a mentally or physically defect child.
• China
24 Dec 06
I'm afraid there is no way unless change the law. I don't know the law in India, but I think it must be against the law for someone getting married with his/her cousin. You got make a decision, the sooner the better.