Need ur advice!

India
December 24, 2006 11:08pm CST
A friend of mine is in truble , she has started liking a guy in her college. He is 1 year senior to her. Even he showed interest in her, he used to smile at her. They became good friends . She came to know that he has a girlfriend and he never mentioned it to her.and when she asked him , he said that he never found it necessary to mention about her. my friend has stopped talking to him. But he keeps on calling, and she is not able to forget him.She even tried commiting suicide. this her parents dont know.I tried helping her but my advice was of no use. Can u advice something so that my frnd comes out of this.....
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@diansinta (7559)
• Indonesia
25 Dec 06
tell her that she should love her sell first BEFORE any body else.
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@quarks (180)
• Ukraine
25 Dec 06
forgetting that guy is the best way out ! her life is much more precious than anything ! explain this to her ! try to be with her most of the time , go out some where , engage in active sports ! then she might get over her past ! good luck !
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• India
25 Dec 06
Ask your friend to forget about him. There is no fun in making friendship with the same guy again. she can forget him and concentrate on her studies.
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• India
25 Dec 06
Make your friend realise how important she is for her family and her friends. She must be feeling very desparate now so calm her down. Make her understand that if she does anything to her self than it will hurt her parents and her friends a lot. Sucidial people need be made understood that they have a lot importance in others life at every time. So have a talk with her and calm her down and tell her that without her you cannot understand the meaning of friendship. All the best and take good care of your friend.
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• India
25 Dec 06
Man this happens to a lot of people around and its just not their fault alone.... but the boy's as well.... so she now has to accept it nd the only way one can come out of such situations is only and only by facing them........ if one runs from the problems then the problems always follow and never sort out.... so the only way for her to get out of this is to face that guy and stop running from him..... she has to accept that this guy is commited and if he is a friend then just treat him as a friend... and she will get out of it eventually..... she just have to accept the truth first after that one can think about ways to live with it.... or else.... its quite difficult....
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• India
25 Dec 06
i think she have to control herself tell her that you want to something in ur life which is more imporatnt than that and if she is ur good friend then spend some time with her daily and make her understand that there are more thing which is more important in her life. I can feel wht she's feeling but being a practical is good for her not an emotional person.She should think about her parents if they came to know this they will suffer more wht she's suffering and they came into depression then this also make her depress so try to not think of that senior n avoid talking to him so that it will give relief to her.
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• India
25 Dec 06
well make her the picture clearer dear .....being her friend now it's u'r responsibility to help her come out of this tell her this is just infatuation and nothing else .....this happens with most of guys and gals at this stage ...so don't take it so seriously ......today most of the guys and gals change their gf/bf as if they were clothes ......or they were not present.........practically saying take her for a movie .........some picnic sort of thing...and try make her laugh ...........ya give her some good books to read ..........it also helps a lot ................and than also if it is not solved let me know......u can message me too.........i will tell u some more thing if it doesnt works in her case... just go and do it........... hope she recovers.. take care byeee
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@lulylove (1561)
• Brazil
25 Dec 06
lies  - lies  Pinóquio
Not taste of mentirar in the relationship, and I find that when exists lies in the relationship it finishes much more fast, or until can not start.
@jimotman (634)
• Indonesia
25 Dec 06
talk to the guy if he really like your friend or not. if yes, ask him to break up with his current gf and go with your friend. maybe he likes your friend but he can't dump his gf for some reason. if not, ask him to see your friend just for once and ask him to tell her to forget him because he doesn't love your friend, he just wants to be friends with her. I think if the guy talk to your friend by himself, it'll be better for your friend, as she'll realize there's nothing more to hope for.
• United States
25 Dec 06
yeah...have her hang out with a new group of people. and maybe changing cell phone numbers will work. try to surround ur friend around people she is comfortable with and have her have some fun!! that always works.
• India
25 Dec 06
Ms this is what most of the cases are now giving such result i think that she should be told that how can that guy love her even if he is having relationship with other girl this is not true love
@utsadetti (4593)
• United States
25 Dec 06
advice her not doing it lol.
• Philippines
25 Dec 06
Iwould advice you to tell her parents bout whats goin on....thats the best thing a friend could do to another.... if you alone cannot help solve fer problem then call the more experienced ones(THE PARENTS).they know their child more than you do my friend....so take mmy advice tell the parents they'll know what to do..thats the right thing to do babe.
@chaptermm (734)
• Malta
25 Dec 06
wow not very good to say i don't know what to say hehe maybe you can ask him what he like best
• Spain
25 Dec 06
I dont think any man is worth dying for. Try explaining to ur friend that this was not her personal faliure. But only a proof of the fact that this guy did not deserve her. Tell her that life has much better things in store for her.
@vipul20044 (5800)
• India
25 Dec 06
Oh that is really depressing! But i think its better that you advice your friend that ignoring is no option he will try to reach her by any means Why does she want to end her life cuz of a jerk! Its better to talk to the guy and to explain him the reason why she did it THis way she will get her peace of mind and can look forward to her life further~!
• India
25 Dec 06
You try to tell her that he is engaged with other girl and how can you still like him so much... and say 'after you marry him if he goes behind another girl then what about you' and just tell there is a danger with such people that he may leave you at anytime....
• India
25 Dec 06
tell ur frnd to be practical......dont hv such weakness ...s in u.............life s vast ..so frek out
• India
25 Dec 06
shes lucky to have known about it very early i guess she should move on and enjoy life
@faisal86 (471)
• Pakistan
25 Dec 06
Firstly Tell your friend not to do sucide, then tell her to go to him and talk very finely in all matters