Will you accept apologies from a person who ruined your relationship?

@shaj_me (149)
Philippines
December 27, 2006 11:41pm CST
i have a cousin who's been in this kind of situation. she's been in a relationship for 8 years and they have planned for marriage already. One day, her fiance's ex-girlfriend suddenly appeared from nowhere and seduced her fiance and something did happened between them again. she caught them on act and her fiance was begging to forgive him. because she loved him so dearly, she accepted him again. but of course, their realtionship was now stained and the trust was already broken. her fiance's ex-girlfriend which happened to be her bestfriend was sayin' sorry to my cousin. if you were my cousin, will you forgive your bestfriend who has been the cause of every tears that fall from your eyes and every pain you feel?
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@yugi_sen (1742)
• India
28 Dec 06
I pity your cousin. Being a boy i know once u get the temptations u will repeat the mistake again unless u r punished. Now your cousins boyfriens got his forgiveness and he and his ex -girl friend may comit the same seduction infuture or it might be some body else. you sister can forgive her girl friend but not her boyfriend.
@shaj_me (149)
• Philippines
28 Dec 06
you're right. but too bad, she's really blinded by love. later, i'll talk to her about this. thanks for your advice. =)
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@emisle (3824)
• Ireland
28 Dec 06
If the trust is broken I think she should try and move on, she'll just be tormenting herself wondering if he'll cheat again otherwise.
@aelyus (635)
• Romania
28 Dec 06
sorry for your cousin. What bestfriend? I'll never forgive a such 'friend'
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@rubypatson (1842)
• India
28 Dec 06
No i would not, This is not an act to be forgiven and what are the guarantees that it will not happen again
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• India
28 Dec 06
I never can .. i wont even be able to talk to such a person again in my life .. thats my case .. think the case depends on the person in consideration
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@the_actor (494)
• Philippines
28 Dec 06
that's a very hard situation, your cousin really love her boyfriend but I guess she should have given him a lesson first before any reconciliation take place. Sometimes, guys tend to be complacent when it comes to that matter. I hope it won't really happen again.
@rikpallav (1242)
• India
28 Dec 06
I would say I will as after 8 years of relationship there is no intimacy as it seems in the relationship and they realy does not love each other from their heart and have faith on each other and anyone can interven their relationship and there is no point in getting angry with others as your own self and the relationship does not work out... all that was for 8 years was fake and nothing but a time pass.get going in your life...search for a new one/.
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• Philippines
28 Dec 06
hmmm.... i don't know... i guess i couldn't accept apologies that readily.... it would take some time... an awful lot of time... and if i did caught them on act, that's a different story... i guess i'd let him go... the 8 years was a waste of time if that's the case.. :( i'm sure your cousin is really confused right now. a man who's about to get married should not do things like that.. i mean, he should be 100% sure by now...
@shaj_me (149)
• Philippines
26 Jul 07
yeah, you were right.... 8 years is nothing if you'll suffer forever with that kind of person...whew!
• Philippines
27 Jul 07
yup! i wish your cousin's okay now. is she?
@yurikuuu (57)
• Philippines
28 Dec 06
yes why not... but i will give him a punch to his face... before i forgive him...
@shaj_me (149)
• Philippines
26 Jul 07
haha! ouch for him!
• Philippines
4 Aug 07
yahh that would make us even......... hehehehe
@andygogo (1580)
• China
28 Dec 06
Is she on purpose?
@shaj_me (149)
• Philippines
26 Jul 07
purposely or not it really doesn't matter...it's all the same...she still ruined everything
@elixir (1456)
• Guam
28 Dec 06
It is too difficult to tell.It all depends on the strength of the relation between ur cousin and her friend
• India
29 Dec 06
no matter how strong the relation it doesn't matter before a betrayal like this. This will shadow your relationship with him for the rest of your life if you forgive him
@madzie09 (279)
• Philippines
26 Jul 07
well, forgiving is a very hard thing to do. but a way to heal a heart. accepting it will somehow lighten the loads, the hurt and everything BUT acceptance comes in a RIGHT time.You must be willing and ready to forgive the person who caused you pain and hurt.
@lovein (345)
• India
29 Dec 06
If you have felt it, then you will not be able to accept it. If you have not felt it , then you will be able accept the appologies.
@gkrisiyer (393)
• India
29 Dec 06
i dont think so.i would just move on to find another person in my life if i were your cousin.if your cousins fiance cheated on her before marriage then what is the assurance that it wont happen again.Its better to break it off now than to suffer a divorce later.
• India
29 Dec 06
hi, it depends on the person who is involved and the person who ruined the relationship and also the depth of the issue, the main is the person who is affected's mentality...
• India
29 Dec 06
for 8 year of relationship if he did this that means he is not a faithful person . if i am ur cousin i am not forgive my bestfriend nor my boyfriend . sorry
@jal1948 (1360)
• India
29 Dec 06
why blame your poor best friend she did what she is best suited to do ,eight years of relationship was not sufficient for your fiance, he wanted to have the cake and eat it too both cakes your fiance should spend his lifetime building up thust in you
@nihit122 (314)
• India
29 Dec 06
i dont know abt ur case but ya i will accept his or her apoloif they r true n changed
@Kelly16 (253)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
Forgiving someone for a mistake is something to be considered if the person is sincerely apologizing, you can feel the sincerity of the person in his actions and it's there that you can decide what to do. To forget is another thing, and it depends on the gravity of what this person has done to you. In the case of your cousin she should ask herself if she could live with it having known that he cheated on her,if she can't then she could work out to forgive him but try to live her life without him. Life just don't stop at every heartaches, you learn the lesson it brings and then you move on.
@ivesyono (131)
• Canada
29 Dec 06
Wait two years then consider it by then things should all be forgotten and you can "forgive and forget" or "kiss and make up"
@nyka08 (411)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
it's really tough to forgive if the one who caused you pain is someone really close to you. i know it would be hard..but i think i would accept his or her apology in time. they must first prove theirselves worthy of my forgiveness. but of course, they must understand that gaining my trust again would be a different story.