How does the society look at premarital preganancy in your country ?
By akumei1269
@akumei1269 (1749)
India
December 28, 2006 10:08am CST
Here in my country premarital preganancy is a serious crime for the girl . Parents are traumatised in such situation . They try their best to hide such news from neighbours . Because ,if it leaks out to the society , the girl is almost sure to have to remain unmarried .No bride groom will come forward to such a LOOSE CHARACHTERED GIRL. And who will look after an UNMARRIED GIRL when her parents are gone for ever to heaven's abode ?
Even her incidence may turnish her siblings' image too in the MARRIAGE MARKET . The situation is more serious in rural societies than in big cities .
One interessting point is that though the society shows such intense contempt towards such an incidence , the male counterpart is seldom blamed or even found out .
I don't think such an event of premarital pregnancy is taken so seriously and with such contempt in some societies outside my country especially in developed countries .
What about your society's outlook towards such an incidence?
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
28 Dec 06
i am from the philippines. and we used to be very conservative. which isn't wrong after all. however, in this past paced life, we do accept changes. now, when one gets pregnant outside marriage, we don't condone the girl nor the man. instead, we always believe that a baby is a gift and that baby deserves love from the society and respect as well. condoning the girl will just make her feel more unaccepted, unloved and disrespected. it's just like we're adding insult to pain. it will not make things better but will worsen things out. one can still be a good and even a better individual even if she has a kid out of wedlock especially when she gets full support from people who love her.
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@magikrose (5429)
• United States
29 Dec 06
Here in the USA it is frowned upon but it does not make you a social outcast. It is very commen here in the US. The thing we DO have a problem with is teenagers getting pregnant. We have many 15-18yr olds getting pregnant lately and that is a very big problem.
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@taruha (559)
• United States
29 Dec 06
Our country is India and the premerital pregnancy is considered very serious crime from society point of view.the girl is considered a bad girl and is treated badly by the society.I do not know if there are countries which do not consider it bad.
@yousource (25)
• Saudi Arabia
29 Dec 06
Hi my country, it's not big deal whether you got pregnant without a husband or just want to be a single parent.As long as you can feed your child and support him/her and send him/her to school. We got no problem with that. In the end it's not who you are and whom you are conncected but what you do to your child. The people will not feed your child or those who will criticize you will not send your child to school it's YOU who will be responsible after all. It does matter only when a girl who got pregnant and cannot afford to support her child financially ot the other way around. The matter only arises when situation is like this. But usually parents got angry in the first few months of pregnancy and when the child is brn they(parents) are the ones who will support the child. Afterall it's their grandchild and not their neighbors. Unmarried girl must not be afraid of the situation, they should look at it as LIFE's greatest gift from God.
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@pebbles_cubbie (3789)
• United States
29 Dec 06
here it's an everyday thing. people that go to church look down on them but not as bad as they used to because their own kids are having babies unmarried. teens here will hide it from their parents for a little while just cause they don't want them to know who did it. the siblings image here is fine. usually the unmarried girl will get married to either the father of the baby or someone new later on. i'd also like to say why is it the girls fault and not both the girl and the guys fault? they both played a part in it and she wouldnt have gotten pregnant if it werent for him.
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@monx007 (162)
• Indonesia
29 Dec 06
my country has the same culture like yours
i feel sorry for that girl, and what the society must do, is support her. At least, she didn't take abortion. Many girls kill her baby by taking abortion, just to hide the truth.
And by not taking the abortion, i think, she has a responsibility to correct what she has done in her life. That's why i think that we must support her
@Ridgydidge (558)
• Australia
29 Dec 06
I'm afraid it takes two to tango, and both should take responsability, after saying that, in Australia the government supports un married mothers, with payments ect. A mistake/surprise can happen once, but when it comes to 4 or 5 times and these mothers are bringing in more money from the government than some people earn. It is not fair... As a married mother of 1 (we can't afford to have more). I sometimes wish the old vaules would come back
@lafavorito (2959)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
I agree.. There are terms here like "locked catholics" or "locked chistians" who still think that pregnancy before marriage is wrong, then they pursue the couple to get married before the girl's tummy gets big. Well atleast they do not condemn, pregnancy before marriage.
@jerseypink (176)
• United States
28 Dec 06
In the USA it is not uncommon at all, and people accept that. Society has come ro relize that it is going to happen. I start to question women who have 3 or 4 kids by different fathers and not married to any one of them, but other than that there's no problem. I myself had my 4 month old son be the ring bearer at my wedding, so I guess I would be okay with premarital babies : )
@nickventere (1420)
• Zambia
29 Dec 06
In my country, Zambia, the girl is looked down as being of less or no morals and blame is put on the parents, especially the mother. However, with the mixture of cultures, presently it is not too much a stigma to face. Nevertheless, it still impacts on the girl's chances of getting married. The father will be very upset with the mother.
The boy/man resposible is summoned to pay some money for that, ironically called "damage fee", for the girl has been "damaged"! lol
The sad part with the family, particularly the father, is that the girl will fetch less dowry (bride price) should she get a chance of getting married!
@nizamcollegestudent (60)
• India
29 Dec 06
Hi, I am an Indian. I really proud to say this. India is a traditional country and give more importance to the human values. It don't allow like above matters.
@yousource (25)
• Saudi Arabia
29 Dec 06
Hi understand your traditions and cultures and I respect it. But when situations like this happen to one member of your family, I think the situation will be different. I got one question for you...are you a man or a woman? If you are a man or a woman then my question is: What will be your reaction when you or one member of your family (your sister or cousins)got pregant ACCIDENTALLY?
@asfi123 (951)
• India
29 Dec 06
i think you are from INDIA and i am also from the same country so you know how our society looks at this i think its really a bad thing thats happening in india when india is trying to devlop in so many ways then this should not be looked down i think its really unfair to the girl
@bigbossg (66)
• India
29 Dec 06
In every country and in every community have their own culture and it is quite different from each other. some where it is normal event, somewhere it is a crime. But Indian culture doestn't allow in any community. it very shockable situation for the whole family.
@deepsaaba (55)
• India
29 Dec 06
well it obviously depends upon the society u live coz since am being in india here the culture is typically different frm others comparitively. premarital pregnancy may be wrong or may not coz it purely depends upon the guy. if the guy deserves to be along with the girl then society may not talk upto the expectation coz its worse when staying without a guy, the society thinks so. now a days couples donnot believe in marriages n they live together without getting married so it depends......
@mansingh2006 (157)
• India
29 Dec 06
thats so true premarital pregnency is somewhat a sin here i think in a way this thinking is good coz if we look at d west many young girls not knowing anything r already having kids in their hand its like they themselves r kids n they have a kid of their own
