Bi-Racial Relationships - are they worth the hassel??
By JamaicaPhat
@JamaicaPhat (7)
December 29, 2006 7:47am CST
Ok , I was wondering what people think about this issue. I have noticed that when a black guy goes out with a white woman especially where I live in Europe people give them such hateful looks and disgust is very strong. I have also noticed that whenever good looking black women go anywhere near this black guy his white partner becomes very offended and possessive giving them evil eyes. When a black girl goes out with a white guy - she gets nasty looks from white females and angry stares from black guys (who sometimes have a white girl ont heir arm - go figure!) The whole thing just looks so stressful - do you think it is best to just forget the whole bi-racial thing? I also have a friend who has mixed race children with a white guy and they are sooo confused! She keeps raising them like black kids but when they visit their dad they come back all confused again!
5 responses
@spitfire147 (468)
• India
29 Dec 06
Yes..this racism thing is too much..But my advice to u JamaicaPhat would be not to be disheartened with this world..there are lots of people out there who see beyond trivialities and value truth and beauty!
@JamaicaPhat (7)
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29 Dec 06
but you know - i had this chat with some friends and they said EVERYONE is racist and has racist thoughts at some point - it's just that some are better at hiding it than others. Like calling someone a racist name after yeaaaars of being with the person as a friend or partner. I asked myself -do I have racist thoughts sometimes? What about you guys. Let's be honest.
@Lackingstyle (7509)
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29 Dec 06
Do the children really need to be raised as 'black' or 'white'? How do you raise a child 'black' or 'white' anyway? Parents each add their own personal quality to the child, whether they're seperated or not, it's natural. Like saying one parent likes football the other hates it, the football loving parent indulges them in all things football related, then when returned to the non-loving football parent, they're confused? Why exactly would they be unless the non-loving football parent is agressively restricting access to football? The child needs to be free to do whatever he/she feels like regardless of which boundaries they cross.
No, they're not worth the hassle but there needn't be a 'hassle', there's no need to be this or that, just be.
@JamaicaPhat (7)
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29 Dec 06
hmmm.. that sounds a bit utopian don't you think? The reality of the world we live in is simply the fact that people are not blind to colour and certainly culturaly nuances are supreme! How can one raise a child to simply BE in a world that pre-judges on the basis of colour/ class/ creed etc.? I hear where you are coming from but in fact I believe that the way you raise your child is indicative of your own upbrining - and some. If your culture is African American then indeed this is what your children will identify with as their own culture. It is not so simple as football or no football. Those things have very little impact on one's quality of life. But indeed self-image, identity and confidence determines how you forge your future. I agree there needn't be a hassle - but there is!! So we do need to prepare our children to face that particularly if they are the product of a bi-racial relationship. My cousin was called a zebra by an old white lady and it greatly damaged her because her mother who is white raised her to simply 'be'.
@bimmer999 (1159)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
yeah i think it is just gross..
there should be no black or white classification..
everybody should be equal
just my 2cents..
@goofy328 (15)
• United States
7 Feb 07
It's very hard to say, and is a very personal preference. I always got looks, funny thing was, it either wasn't a real date or was just something platonic I was doing but I did get looks. Of course that was like a few years ago, ten years ago I don't know. I don't see anything wrong with dating interracially I don't do it anymore but I just don't see the harm in it, whether it's a black woman dating a white guy or a white girl dating a black man or whatever. I'm not sure if black women get looks though; I'll look, not with disgust or disdain or anything, but just to see who it is that is dating a white guy, how they feel about it, whether or not they're self-conscious about it, whatever. Myself personally, if you're not that confident in it and are a bit unsure of yourself yeah I'll look, why not. But if you don't care what anyone thinks I may look for a second, particularly if it's a black girl with a white guy, because you don't get the pleasure of seeing that often, then i'll go back to whatever I'm doing and move on. It also depends on whether or not I'm with my old lady, if I am chances are I won't look unless she comments on it, and by then it's typically too late.
People are just curious and are new to this whole interracial thing and want to see what it's about. I don't know about Europe, but in the States black women are still a bit indifferent about dating outside of their race, which is something I never quite understood. The only thing that bothers me is that people have very personal reasons for dating interracially, as opposed to doing so out of the same freedom you'd date in general. Someone was always hurt, or dissapointed, or made fun of, or whatever, and just gave up and started dating people of different races. Everyone's attractive far as I'm concerned whatever floats your boat ...
