how do you overcome emotional pain
December 30, 2006 1:46pm CST
i have lived and loved the same person for more than 10 years. I thought that it's going to last a lifetime. it did not. she found somebody else and decided to leave me, for good. i am so devastated. i tried everything but still the pain is there and i end up crying everytime. i want to get over this emotional turmoil. tell me how to forget someone who you truly love..
5 Jan 07
One of the wonders of falling in love is that magical feeling that the relationship will last forever. Unfortunately it some cases, it doesn't last long. The worst is, the deep emotionally trauma left behind. Some people ovecome it through the passage of time, some don't. There is no easy way out. The best thing we can do is to keep ourselves busy and divert our minds away from that unfortunate incident. Believe me, time has it's own healing powers. Good luck!
• United States
30 Dec 06
You didn't say how long ago she left. It usually takes about 8 months to see a difference in how you are feeling. The changes come slowly and if you try to force things it just makes it take longer. If you feel like crying, then do so. If you don't feel like being around others, then stay away. These things are your brain and body trying to readjust. Avoid others who want to cheer you up, it just reminds you of how badly you feel, trust me. This is the time when you need to trun inward and find those interests that you had set aside to make room for your relationship. Make a list of your interests and choose 3 that don't sound too challenging and that are not group activities. Set aside a time each day to do the activity, and set aside an hour where you allow yourself mourning/grieving time. This encourages your brain to function in a different way, and keeps you conscious of how you are passing your time. Spend more time with your chosen activities and less time with your mourning/grieving time. Add 5 minutes per week to your interests that is subtracted from the time you set aside for mourning/grieving. In about 6 weeks you should feel a difference. Notice...I said a DIFFERENCE...there are no quick fixes. You are not ill, there is no cure. Right now you are at loose ends. Reestablishing your relationship with YOURSELF will go a long way toward helping you rebuild your sense of well-being. Good Luck!