Need advice, very serious advice, true story.. what would you do if your spouse,
By Stefanija
@Stefanija (80)
United States
December 31, 2006 7:39pm CST
not married, but been together for about 3 years, have one child by them and one on the way and this person is an alcoholic and can only go maybe 2 days without it?? this person hides it in the house and always has to have alcohol, I want to live a responsible life as a mother, and want this person to do the same, but they have a problem and it has been a problem for them for years before i met them. even though we have a baby on the way, I do not want to put up with it any longer, they need help, i do not know how to make this end. I am ready to end the relationship to keep my sanity, I almost think it would be better for the kids, I do not want alcohol in my home, but have been unable to keep it out or to stop him. PLEASE HELP!!!!
1 response
@deargoodbye (761)
• United States
1 Jan 07
You can't force someone to get help. If they don't think they have a problem, they aren't going to do anything about it.
The only thing you can do is try and talk to them about this. If they don't listen then you need to do what is best for you and the children. If that means leaving that person then so be it.
@Stefanija (80)
• United States
1 Jan 07
This is the hard truth i have to face is that I cannot change the other person or make them quit if they do not feel the need to quit, I feel like i am being mean by ending it if he does not quit, but i also know that although i love him, i do not want this type of life... its just sad for me with a new baby on the way...
@deargoodbye (761)
• United States
1 Jan 07
It is sad and it is a hard choice but being a mother your job is to take care of your babies. Perhaps leaving will open the other persons eyes. It could happen or it could not.
