What do you think about this? Should she be worried?

United States
January 1, 2007 9:45am CST
My neighbor was talking to me about her worries with her husband. She said that her husband has never taken her to any company party in 10 years he has been working there. He always makes excuse not to go. She thinks that maybe he is having an affair or maybe he is ashamed of her. She is a little on the heavyweight side and a little frumpy. What do you think?
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@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
1 Jan 07
hi well this cud not be the only reason she cud be thinking that he's cheating on her ? either she is paranoid or there is more to the story than her husband not taking her to stupid office parties/get togethers. What do you think ? You know, on the other hand, some wifes have what you call 'a sixth sense' they get this feeling in their gut when they r being cheated..it's the way their man wud act. they'd know it!! so maybe that is it ?
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• United States
1 Jan 07
She told me about these comments that people from his job make whenever she does get together on a one on one with another couple from work. Like one time he did take her to a party and somebody made a comment about another girl at his job and how her husband was always teasing her. Yet her husband has never ever mentioned her before to my neighbor. Her husband gave this other person who made the comment a really dirty look like saying "Shut up". But that was always left in the back of my neighbors mind. Like "what is he hiding?". I try to tell her not to worry about it, but I just find it strange that he never really gets her involved with his work or that he has never taken her to his office to meet everyone even though he works close to her home. I hope that its nothing but as you said, women do have that sixth sense.
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@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
1 Jan 07
umm.. then theres something fishy..i can smell it right here from india. LOL. i hope it's nothing though !
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@Ashida (1370)
• United States
1 Jan 07
I think she would have to look at other factors in the relationship. If everything else is fine, and there are no other signs of cheating, then I wouldn't be too concerned on that part. If he doesn't go to the company parties either, maybe he just doesn't want to hang out with people he sees all day anyway. Has she talked to him about it? Maybe she should ask to go to one so she can meet his coworkers.
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• United States
1 Jan 07
I agree with you. Maybe she needs to. Im not sure how the rest of the relationship is, but next time I will ask her. We just met recently but she is very open. Thanks for the response.
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@craftwave (1338)
• United States
1 Jan 07
If he is not going then I wouldn't worry. He just might not like going to parties. And company ones can be some of the most boring things you can attend.
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• United States
1 Jan 07
Thanks for the post. I think she is a little paranoid myself but I was just wondering what others thought of this. Thanks again.
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@nuffsed (1274)
2 Jan 07
I too smell fish, though it may be a red herring lol She needs to investigate a little and be prepared not to like what she finds out! If she knows she's overweight and frumpy, she may just find reason to get more depressed. Perhaps she needs to up her own game a little then she'll be in a better position to deal with hubby.
• United States
2 Jan 07
You think? I was starting to think that maybe its nothing, but it does seem strange that he never invites her to any work function by either not mentioning it or not going. She just feels like he is embarrassed by her looks. Who knows? Men and their secrets...eesh!
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@msqtech (15226)
• United States
12 Jan 07
I think perhaps this is just her problem and her insecurity coming out perhaps she needs to have more to do to keep her from creating problems
• United States
3 Jan 07
I think they need counseling before emotional trouble erupts. They are the only ones that can seek and get the answers. From experience with that explanation the odds are something is very wrong and it may not be in the way she thinks.
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@msqtech (15226)
• United States
12 Jan 07
He probably doesnt like his job and workmates and is just happy to be away from them and she should just get him to take her out on a date instead. If he wont take her on an outing then I would say she has a problem but even then it may not be her. Does he go shopping with her or to church? if she doesnt go anywhere with him then she may need to get to the root of it.