about being a people pleaser

Philippines
January 2, 2007 12:09pm CST
The thing about being a people-pleaser is that inability to freely accept that not all people can be pleased and that there will be always be something said about you whether or not you have done anything pleasing at all. But being the people-pleaser that you are, you have also the power to turn that inability into something constructive, like building a higher self-esteem or striving harder to get better. It is not all the time that you have to be eaten by your fear of rejection. You can always get up and fight, and show the rest of the world what you've got. You can begin by not listening to every opinion that other people have on you. Know that "whatever they think about you is already their witness." And for all u know, those who give the nastiest comments are those who have the biggest insecurities. You can bet yourass that that observation is one hundred and one percent accurate. Because those people do not have what it takes to do the things u can do woulds always try to pick on you because they cannot outshine you. Love it. For an empowered woman once said, "If you love yourself, other people will have no choice but to accept you." And that's the fight you must stand up to. -quotes by Jada Pinkket Smith on the OPRAH Show for the topc-- At Risk Youth
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@tiggyann (614)
• United States
2 Jan 07
I'm not the people pleaser, I don't care what anyone says or thinks about me. I do things cause I want to, not because someone else wants me too! krissy
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• Philippines
2 Jan 07
well i think it is is just alright to sometimes think of how other people see or perceive us... after all it wouldnt hurt anybody, would it? Let it be a mirror of our image but not to the extent that we almost live to all of other people's expectations.
@loved1 (5338)
• United States
2 Jan 07
This is a very good topic! I think all of us are people pleasers in some way. It is just human nature to want approval from the others in our species. I am making it a priority to be a God pleaser instead of a people pleaser. Obviously I need to keep certain people happy(family, business clients) but I will not be stressing out about my flower garden, peeling house paint or wardrobe nearly as often. Usually if someone really wants to say something nasty about you they will find a way. I would much rather have God's approval than that of my snooty neighbor.
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• Philippines
2 Jan 07
I strongly agree about being a God pleaser more than anything else. I mean, when u "atleast"try hard to please God then at your very best u strive on becoming a better person for your self improvement and not because u want others to like u. Its best to tend your own garden while u let others find their way on their own. Thanks so much for the reply! =)