Do i HAVE to give my password to my bf??

:( - angry
@leanette (3002)
India
January 4, 2007 1:17am CST
I donno why but my bf has been asking for my password and i find that so annoying. Well he is not my husband that i gotta tell him every bit detail about me! He gave me his password when i said i don't want it. Okay, so what if other girlfriends and boyfriends do that? i don't want to. There are several mails i get from my girl friends and its all about our 'girl talks'and theres nothing in it of his interest. and am NOT cheatin on him. He is makin it a big fuss now. What should i do? Should i give it to him? Right now am angry, so i might as well tell him to Get lost!
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
4 Jan 07
I am not sure I would give mine to a boyfriend, I think you are entitled to some privacy its not as if you are married, even then hmmm not sure I guess it depends on the boyfriend...
@leanette (3002)
• India
4 Jan 07
I guess my bf wants me to share everything with him but i don't. or probably he's jealous that some guy friends of mine mail me! but i don't think i'd give him my PW.
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@leanette (3002)
• India
4 Jan 07
thank you for your response!
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
4 Jan 07
You do what you feel is ok with you, we all have little inner voices usually if they are warning you there is a reason...listen to them...
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• India
4 Jan 07
No he dont have any kind of right to ask your's password. He cant trust you on your's email then I dont think he is a very mature person. Is he insecure with you in this relationship? Why he needed to show you he is an idiot by asking you for your's email password?
• India
4 Jan 07
DO SOME ONE WHO IS MATURE AND WHO TRUST YOU CAN BE A BIG "j"?
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@leanette (3002)
• India
4 Jan 07
Well i think he trusts me. but he is one jealous bf! he is mature except for when he gets J! haha but that won't make me give my PW to him! Thanks for the response!
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• Zambia
4 Jan 07
Actually, it is not just a matter of trust, it also has to do with respect of one for the other.
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• New Zealand
4 Jan 07
I dont think that I would give it to him. I mean he just gave you his password even though you don't want it... it doesn't mean you have to tell him yours. Even if I ever married someone I would still keep my password to myself and not tell him. But really this is up to you so do what you feel is right. Thats the best thing you could do.
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@leanette (3002)
• India
4 Jan 07
yea you're right. and i don't intend to give him my pw. but i don't wanna hurt his feelings so probably i'd avoid this topic until he hopefully forgets it! maybe i could 'think' of giving it to him, if at all i get married to him :D Thanks for your response!
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@mashimaro (1094)
• Philippines
4 Jan 07
It's better to keep it, because you'll never know there's an unexpected will happen. times like this..
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@leanette (3002)
• India
4 Jan 07
Don worry i haven't given my pw to him...and don't intend to give him. but I don't think he's that kind to do something bad to me...but when he's angry..you'd never know. thanks for the response!
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@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
4 Jan 07
I would tell him to get lost. It's none of his business. If he doesn't trust you, time to cut him loose. You wouldn't give him your ATM PIN if he asked would you? Don't give him passwords either.
@leanette (3002)
• India
4 Jan 07
ahaha..i would have told him that if he got worse earlier today! He trusts me but jsut that he wants to know everything! on the other hand if i don't tell him the pw he'd think i don't trust him. i know its none of his business BUT i can't tell him that cos i might hurt his feelings. i would avoid this deal till he stops speaking about it anymore...hopefully. thank you for your response!
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• India
4 Jan 07
well its upto you and how much u trust him..rest is yours desicion mate hope hes trustworthy dont be angry over such a small issue.....
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@leanette (3002)
• India
4 Jan 07
its not that i don't trust him...just that i want my privacy. and am not angry now..was earlier today though! :)
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• United States
5 Jan 07
Sounds a little controlling to me, I have found that through the years that those that act like you are the one cheating are the ones that are cheating. Good Luck with this!
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@leanette (3002)
• India
12 Jan 07
O_O I am not cheating. just being straight forward to him that i want my privacy. If i would have been cheating i would have created a 'secret' account long back. thank you for your response!
@Chapman15 (1492)
• United States
4 Jan 07
Ha, sorry but this is kind of funny, because I had this happen to me but it was the other way around... My girl at the time wasn't on myspace, and would always bug me about who some of the girls were that were on my friends list... I had no problem giving away a password though, because anything important I talk about is usually over the phone or face to face!
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@leanette (3002)
• India
4 Jan 07
lol yea my bf is always curious about my freinds. He has met them but i don't want him to be so nosey. i neever ask him about hsi friends. I hope i manage to keep his mind off my PW! thanks for your response!
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• India
5 Jan 07
Passwords are supposed to be private and what ever relation one got,he/she should not ask for your passwords. Well in your case i think your boyfriend is suspicious on you. He may want to scan your inbox and messenger lists. You should not share your password with your boyfriend. It is something your private property.
@leanette (3002)
• India
14 Jan 07
Yes! It IS indeed my private property and no one can tresspass! :D Thank you for the encouragement! And thanks for the response!
@smacksman (6053)
4 Jan 07
Give him your password and let him log and sniff around. Then change your password immediatly he has left the room. Then change your boyfriend at your convenience!
@leanette (3002)
• India
5 Jan 07
ahahaha! maybe i'd let him do that! And i might change him if he gets any worse! :))) yes yes! GOOD idea! Thank you !!
• United States
4 Jan 07
Hahaha! Korek! Right away!
• United States
6 Jan 07
let me tell you this there are some things that are private between couples and individuals if your bf is asking you for your passwoard take it from someone that has delt with this before sounds like he wants to keep tabs on you and that is not a good thing if he wants to do this than it sounds more like jealousy and him wanting to know what you are doing i had a gf onetime that wanted to get me a beeper so she could call me well it became a way for her to keep up with what i was doing even if there was nothing to worry about NEVER GIVE YOUR PASSWORD TO ANYONE BUT hE LAWYWER OF YOUR ESTATE AND ONLY IN A SILLED WILL i repeat do not give a password that may cause you more harm than just making your boy friend happy robemccartn8@netzero.com
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@leanette (3002)
• India
14 Jan 07
lol Your gf sounds nosey..just like my bf...and i HATE nosey people! And I sure willl NOT give him my pw.. Thank you for your support! Thanks for the response!
• India
31 Mar 07
Oh-uh! Talk about a control freak! Apparently your boyfriend is one of them. Why do people have to be so childish? You have a right to your privacy and he has no business demanding that you give him your password. Don't let him send you on a guilt trip over it. Just because he is willing to give you his email password doesn't mean that you have to give him yours. If a person cannot trust you over a matter as simple as email, how can he ever trust you? He might try to use the same point against you, but it just doesn't cut ice you know. You have a right to your privacy and if you need to fight for it, so be it. This could be the beginning of a very repressive relationship if this is allowed to continue. Take care and God bless!
@leanette (3002)
• India
1 Apr 07
Thank you there for your input. I was goin on a voluntary guilt trip but for all your views I had second thoughts about giivng him my password. This hapend a long time back and I told him that I am not givin my password to no frickin'body. We had a bit of cold war between us. Just to inform you and all those who have put accross their valuable views here, you lemme learn how to stand firm on my decisions and to value my privacy. Thank you so much for your response!
@tanjila (548)
• United States
31 Mar 07
That's ridiculous. He has no right to your password!!! Tell him to bug off.
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@leanette (3002)
• India
31 Mar 07
yea I already did! lol.. thanks for the response! :)
@9w2whi (108)
• Malaysia
31 Mar 07
he wants to know who you talking to and what you are talking about. i will tell him no. its my private. why should he know. i've got my own secret. take it if you want it and leave it if you don't.
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@leanette (3002)
• India
1 Apr 07
Its easy to say leave it but really hard to do it. I am the kinds who loves freedom and if someone gets controlling I can't stand it. I told him what most of you would suggest here. Btw am no more with the guy. Your input is appreciated!
@edelweiss (1929)
• India
5 Jan 07
No, I don't think you should anything like that.. Men can be preety painful at times. Being a guy, I know how he can behave. First he will ask you for your password.. then he'll ask you about each and every guy who has sent you mail and what your relation with each one.. and that will go until you get sick and dump himm.. but the guy will never stop..!! So, dont give him your password girl.
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@leanette (3002)
• India
14 Jan 07
wow ! you are just so right and am a fool trying to fall for his emotional act! I almost thought maybe i should give him..but no..i know if i did though , he'd be encouraged to do it further! Thank you for the advice and encouragement!
• India
5 Jan 07
dear u r in a real trouble i can imagine how much!!!! well this incident happened with me too. my bf asked abt my password "i said, why do u need it"? dont u trust me or what.well confidential things are kept confidential no matter a password or any thing. since then he never asked again.nor i asked his. though he asked me just to c what i hav to say. he said ok no prob dont b angry. u r right dear he is not ur husband.even if ur husband would hav asked u .then also u should not give "any kind of passwords" remember!!!!!always y is ur b f so curious abt ur password. ok u do one thing u open ur mail account and show the mail's inbox. and ur friends list in messenger ok then ask him is it ok now. but never let him or any one know u r password let me what happens next good luck
@leanette (3002)
• India
14 Jan 07
i really appreciate your concern and the fact that you have experienced such kind of trouble puts me at ease...atleast am not the only one with something as weird as this. I know guys can get snoopin around with their gf's stuffs..except i won't let my guy do that to me. He must understand i am entitled to my private space else he must GO! Thank you for your repsonse!
@diansinta (7544)
• Indonesia
4 Jan 07
just make a new mail and give him the password from you new email.u got to be smarter tan he is.he is very annoying.but look for the bright side he is affraid to loosing you.
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@leanette (3002)
• India
6 Jan 07
*giggle* I know he likes me a lot ^_^ but I don want him to get possessive about me and start controlling [-( I will play smart to get done with this deal! thanks for the response!
• India
5 Jan 07
i think u should.. i mean if u do not have anything to hide from him then its okie to give him your password... u should trust him and he should learn to trust more often than not... good for you both.... best of luck
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@leanette (3002)
• India
14 Jan 07
I know you are concerned for the both of us, especially him BUT its not about trust jsut the bit of 'myspace' i need..:(((((( And am NOT hiding anything from him!!!!! :( Thank you for your reponse!
@rick615 (413)
• United States
4 Jan 07
Even if you were married, that is still not an automatic. I definitely think you should not give it to him and I would be more concerned about issues of trust and his controlling nature. As the song says, " That's a Red Flag !!"
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@leanette (3002)
• India
6 Jan 07
Thank your for the response! i appreciate your support! thank you! !
• India
5 Jan 07
i dont think so u should give ur password to anybody be it ur husband......privacy is everybodys right. why he wants ur password? what he thinks u have another affair? ask him to trust u. trust is the only base for any relationship to work. especially delicate relaions as GF&BF and husband wife even parents and friend. EVERY RELATION IS BUILT ON TRUST. and if ur bf cannot trust u, u cannot have a sound relation.
@leanette (3002)
• India
14 Jan 07
I appreciate your support and encouragement! I will what is best for me! Thank you for hte response!