Dispute between Mother and Wife

January 5, 2007 3:14am CST
I love my wife very much. However, I love mother too. Sometimes it is quite different for adjusting their different value and opinion. My wife is a master graduate. She like to work hard for her career. My mother seems like a housewife. Different values and expectation.Problem will be generated. For me, I am an open-minded people. I love to keep things in a simple way. Why women always like to create trouble. Any people like me? Hope to share with all.
3 responses
@yugi_sen (1741)
• India
5 Jan 07
Hi Dude, i am there for you, but i have tackled this kind off situation a lot. try out 2 things. 1. Listen to both on their complains and agree to them first individually, 2. Instead of convincing ur mom try to make your wife understsnd and ask her not to bother too much on your mums words and make her understand that u view her views inpar.
• Australia
5 Jan 07
Ok. any other suggestion?
@smartnrich (1067)
• Malaysia
24 Feb 07
You should try to work out and find a solution from different view and try to merge it to make sure you can remain you relationship with your wife and your mother also.In other word you must choose the medium approach to satisfied two party which you're are the third.The view from different generation always different, but I don't think you can accept it because it also come from your mother and you can handle your wife to try for accept it.
@zavebe (122)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Well, I dislike my fiance's mom. (I am a female). I just have issues with how she does things, how she raised Jess, and how she is. But, I know that she's still Jesse's mom. And even if I hate her, I've learned to be simply civil with her. My suggestion to you would be; don't try to get the two of them to be best friends. Forcing them together wont make anything better, in fact, it'll probably make it worse. If they actively argue and yell at each other, then you probably need to step in and try to fix it. But if your wife just silently hates your mom when she's away, then just let it be. Wives can be jealous of the love you have for your mom (As strange as that is). And that difference in opinion can make people butt heads too. Some people never see eye-to-eye. And I'd suggest to just convince both your wife and mother to simply be polite to each other when they need to spend time together. Other than that, let them figure it out on their own.