hey i am very much saturated with my parents please tell me wat should i do

India
January 5, 2007 7:49am CST
i am in dailema with my parents in my marriage praposal.4m my childhood i and my cousin were in love but we never expressed each other.last year my parents only asked him that u marry my daughter and i to said yes coz i to love him.so at startings days they agreed and then my aunty and uncle made marraige for us in a temple that they said if ur parents again say no it will b safe if u get marry.so we got married. his relatives one who hates him said bad to my parents now my parents r denying the praposal.but we love each other we r ready to die together.but we have no plans of going out.even thought his parents love me a lotand allow me if i come out right now.but we r not willing to do so.problem is from my parents.now wat should i do.
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14 responses
@Akeela (2082)
• Trinidad And Tobago
5 Jan 07
isnt it incest you are proform and please dont commit sucide it makes no sense especially for that you are both young youll get over that, some people have bigger fish to fry
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• India
5 Jan 07
i am facing hell here.i have no friends also to share
@msqtech (15226)
• United States
5 Jan 07
It isnt incest unless it is a direct family member
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• India
9 Jan 07
the one whom i love is my mother's brother son.so he is not my cousin brother .he is just my cousin
@mythmoh (3994)
• United States
5 Jan 07
why dont you ask a common relative of both to deal with this situation.he/she should be able to convince your parents and hope they can believe them as he/she is known to them.I think your mom will understand your situation more than your father.so try to express about yourself to your mom.then leave it your mom to make your father to accept.
@104090 (470)
• India
5 Jan 07
This is very practical idea to solve this problem. myLot discussions are not only for money here. This is an elderly advice
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• India
6 Jan 07
we had come across all those but all were failed.my parents say one word to them that this is the problem of our family so i dont want any one interference even to my grandfather he said the same so all went aside.actually i have no suppport from myside bcoz all very afriad of my dad.i am all alone here
• India
8 Jan 07
Hey siree, U name suggest that u r the godess of wealth...Now let me say u something..Just get relaxed first and dont panic to the situation..and now think wht have u done to ur self...U stated that ur parents aked ur cousin to marry u then wht has made u to get marry him without the knowledge of ur parents...?ok.baba..! i can understand..Pyaar meh to sabh kuch chaltha hai...but think wisely...I dont ask u to get out of ur home...but speak to parents,family members,friends,relatives,...and put all of them infront of ur parents...I think they might be angry only in regard of u getting marriage in a temple..This shows how much they love u dear..Now dont panic ...just go to ur father and say him that u had made a mistake in getting married with him in a temple and also tell him how much u love him and seek his own advice in this regard..I am damn sure that he never says no...and he is ur father baba...not a villian in a movie..right...! do it and if any issues please let me know so that i can assit u much better...
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• India
21 Jan 07
not only my self we both touch my fathers foot and said that we done a mistake.so please excuse us.and right now they r not allowing my friends family members r anyother to communicate with me.
• India
21 Jan 07
wat made us marry is from childhood we love each other and my parents have changing minds.so my uncle and aunty suggested that we all b with u so once u got married if ur parents mind changes also its not a problem we can convience them by saying the situation.
@raveemenon (1072)
• India
22 Jan 07
A marriage becomes successful with the support of both the families in arranged marriages. In your case unfortunately some misunderstanding have cropped up. I feel your fiancee's parents can talk to your parents especially your would be father in law is your maternal uncle only. Even if your parents show some displesure hope that it may melt away since you both love each other.They need to show more maturity .
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• India
22 Jan 07
actually i have no father in law he is no more since 6 yrs.he loves me a lot from my childhood and he loves me to c as his daughter in law.my mother in law is also so cool as she too loves me and cares me more than her daughter.
• India
22 Jan 07
i think as you have married already you need to tell truth to you parents, and as you love your husband go and stay happy with him, its so simple, dont make it complicated
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• India
22 Jan 07
i already said to my parents that we r married and every one know that we r married.but i am waiting for my marriage with my parents blessings too.
• India
11 Jan 07
If both of you are agree on the matter, you should get entwined first. Later on your parent will also accept this relation. This time because of some evil minded people in your family, your parents are objecting this marriage. You can do one more thing, first you search the people to whom your parents respect a lot. Ask such person to pursuade your parents on this matter. I hope due to respect to that special person, your parents will not deny. Only now there are two ways of getting marriage. First you both decide at your own. Second select such a person to whom your mum/dad respect a lot. Send your proposal through such respective person in your family, he can be of help a lot.
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• India
21 Jan 07
all such plans were failed.they just say this is my daughters problem so please donot involve.if they say so who can tell them more in this matter.
• India
11 Jan 07
i don't think you should marry your cousin...because he is like a brother to you.
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• India
21 Jan 07
cousin is not cousin brother my mothers brother son.
@VMKUMAR (47)
• India
7 Jan 07
Dnt take decisions such as Dying together...Try 2 convince ur activities saying ur Lover's gud activities...They may b convinced...and u will b married with ur lover....All the best
• India
8 Jan 07
we tried in all such ways but it didnt worked out.i had only one belief we got married in presence of god.so we left everything to god.
• India
6 Jan 07
I know it is very painful and I also understand what you are going through now! I think the only possibility to get a solution to this is to talk to your parent and tell them how much you need him!! Also try making his parent come home and talk to your dad and mom so that every one will come to a conclusion! But dont get confused for this! Life is always a challenge! Just MEET IT!!
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• India
7 Jan 07
i have crossed all those.they parents,grnad father and his elder sister and her husband all came and spoke to my parents .but there is no use at all.even thought they r our relatives my mum said get out of my house.but they r such cool.they want me their daughter in law still
@anilcute (233)
• India
6 Jan 07
Express your love soon so that atleast you find love with your cousin
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• India
6 Jan 07
actually i didnot get u.we both were in contact through gmail chat.and he takes care of me as a child.but my parents dont know that we r in contact.and i send informations if emergency with my cousin sisters and some girls in my flats.as since i am in house arrest
@arun057 (281)
• India
5 Jan 07
Hey come on... its your parents!!! They have to understand and i think they will!! all you have to do is have a nice chat with them... that is all!!! All the best
• India
6 Jan 07
s i have talked to them many times.as my dad is an advocate no one can argue with him.so its all waste of my time till now.i have one brother elder but he never cares of me r our household matters. ia mhelpless and i am all alone to handle here
@104090 (470)
• India
5 Jan 07
You and your parents are ok. But you only have to decide what is right what is good for your bright future. So sit with your parents talk freely
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@msqtech (15226)
• United States
5 Jan 07
I think you should just tell them it is to late make it work and be happy
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• India
5 Jan 07
till now i am controlling coz they r my parents and i am respecting their words.till now .but i am in confusion how to convience them
@vijeshz (109)
• India
11 Jan 07
you juts die
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